Built-up the courage to ask a girl out you’re interested in – only to be rejected?
It’s easy to say the wrong thing in the heat of the moment. With some time to think about it, there’s a good chance she wishes she had said something different.
If you have a hunch that she has changed her mind or regrets what she said, here are 11 signs she regrets rejecting you and what you should do about it:
11 Signs She Regrets Rejecting You
1. She Wants to Talk About It
If the girl you asked out has said that she wants to talk about what happened and what you guys spoke about, this is a strong sign she regrets her actions.
Your first thought might be that she wants to make sure you’re ok with the rejection. But in my experience, most people will not want to talk about how you feel.
It’s much more likely that she wants to find out more about why you asked her out, and give you more information on why she said what she did now she’s had time to think about it.
2. She Has Apologized for How She Acted
Typically, we apologize for things we’ve done that we regret, or if we made a decision that we know we wish we hadn’t made.
If she has reached out to you and apologized or asked to meet up so she can apologize, maybe she’s realizing she made the wrong decision in the heat of the moment.
I would hear her out for sure. She might still find it hard to tell you that she likes you, so don’t be afraid to ask her out again.
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3. She’s Been Asking if You’re Seeing Someone
If you get rejected by a girl, why would she be interested if you’re seeing someone else in the weeks following?
The most obvious answer is that she’s interested in you, and the thought of you seeing someone else – even though she rejected you – makes her feel jealous.
This is a good opportunity to ask her outright why she’s asking and see if you can get her to lower her guard and open up.
4. Her Friends Are Telling You She’s Interested in You
If a girl is too shy or embarrassed to tell you that she messed up and regrets turning you down, she’s more likely to tell her friends than she is you.
She might tell her friends to get that message access to you, they might just do so anyway, or you could start asking questions yourself.
Either way, a girl’s friends are a great way to uncover the truth about how a girl really feels.
5. She Keeps Making Excuses to Bump Into You
When a girl – or a guy – rejects someone the last thing they want is to keep bumping into the person they rejected, right?
If a girl who turned you down keeps making excuses to bump into you, you can be pretty sure she feels bad about it or has changed her mind.
It’s up to you how you deal with this. I think honesty is the best option here, tell her it seems like more than a coincidence and gets a conversation going.
6. She Randomly Texts You
If she is texting you with no real reason or direction, this girl wants to talk to you about something but is finding it hard to say outright what it is.
If you were recently rejected by her, it more than likely means she wants to talk to you about that.
Whether or not she just wants to make sure you’re still friends or feels bad about rejecting you is something you’ll need to find out.
7. She Seems to Be Doing Things to Try and Impress You
Have you noticed that she has been doing little things – or maybe not so ‘little’ things – to try and impress you since you were turned down by her?
Or, it could be a lot more subtle, such as noticing that she’s taking an interest in things you’re into, making more effort with your friends, etc.
8. She Makes Good Eye Contact and Pays Attention When You Talk
How someone makes eye contact can tell you a lot about how they feel about you, and how they feel about topics raised in conversation.
If you can bring up the topic of what happened when she rejected you, you can read into how she feels about it.
If she makes eye contact and pays attention, it’s a sign she cares. Combined with apologizing, it’s a sign she may be regretting her actions.
9. Her Body Language Is Flirty
Along with eye contact, paying attention to her body language is going to tell you what she’s not able to tell you in words.
If a girl feels like she messed up rejecting you, she’s probably going to start flirting with you to find out where she stands.
Look for those little flirty signs like; playing with her hair, smiling, asking if you’re single, laughing at (bad) jokes, etc.
10. She’s Trying to Hide the Fact She Has a New Partner From You
I’m not saying she would be proud to show off her new boyfriend after turning you down, but she shouldn’t be trying to hide her new relationship.
If a girl you asked out is with someone else now but doesn’t want you to know, she’s either wishing she was with you or doesn’t want to upset you.
It could be either of these reasons but suggests that she doesn’t feel comfortable with her new partner around you.
11. She Has Told You She Messed Up!
It’s hard for most women to admit they messed up or that they regret rejecting someone, it takes a lot of nerve.
You may need to bring up the topic of what happened with her to get her to say so, but there is always a chance she will admit she regrets rejecting you.
There is no better sign or proof that she regrets rejecting you if she says so herself.
It’s not something you should push her to talk about though. You don’t want to come across as desperate or hurt, and you also don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable.
The best advice is to just keep things friendly with her and look for some of the above signs. Over time, her feelings will always become more apparent.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.