Looking for some advice on how to comfort someone long distance away?
Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or it’s a friend or family member in need of some support or comfort, it’s normal to feel powerless unless you’re there in person.
You can still offer them real comfort that’ll make a difference though – regardless of how far away you are from them physically.
If you find yourself in this situation, I hope these tips will help you comfort your significant other during whatever challenges they’re facing:
Let Them Know You’re Available To Talk 24/7
When someone’s going through some hard times and in need of comfort, it’s hard for us to know exactly when they’re going to need us.
They might not be ready to talk right now, and with distance getting in the way of communication, it’s hard to know when to be there for them when they are ready.
So, make it very clear that you’re there for them whenever they’re ready, day or night. Because that’s what true friends are willing to do.
Send Them a Thoughtful Gift
You really can’t go wrong with a good gift. You will know the person better than anyone, try and pick something that will make them smile, lift their spirits, and maybe even something that’s relevant to the situation they’re going through.
Even if you’re strapped for cash right now or aren’t sure what kind of gift is appropriate, anything will do as it’s really the gesture that makes the difference.
Reach Out To Mutual Friends Closer by To Help
You may be hundreds or thousands of miles away, but if there’s someone closer that you both trust you should reach out to them.
We have to make do with the best we can from a long distance, but honestly, few things can replace someone actually being there in person for another.
It can be a tricky situation to navigate. You have to balance emotions and who’s being involved based on the individual situation. But if it’s something you can work out, go for it.
Tell Them How Much They Mean To You
Sometimes, we simply forget to just tell someone how much they mean to us. When someone is feeling down, their emotions are all over the place. They will often doubt how much those around them care about them too.
It never hurts to remind someone – or even tell them for the first time – how much they mean to you. Make it 100% clear that you’re there for them, unconditionally.
Make Arrangements To See Them in the Future
You may be thousands of miles apart right now, but you’re not always going to be. Penciling something in the diary and making plans to meet them in the future will come as a huge reassurance.
Sure, you’re not able to give them a hug right now – that’s just not possible. But this is the next best thing. It will show them how much you care, and also give them something positive to look forward to.
Check in With Them More Often
As I mentioned earlier, being a long distance away doesn’t mean you can’t be there for them whenever they need you.
Start checking in on them more often. It’s so easy to pick up the phone and call them, drop a text when you’re thinking of them, or even video chat so you can see each other in person.
All the technology is there to bridge the gap between two people physically. Be proactive about it, and be there for them in whichever way they most need right now.
Find Out If They Need Additional Support
Being a long distance away, it’s easier to lose grip on just exactly how bad things are going for someone.
All of the tips I’ve included in this article will go a long way to helping comfort someone, no matter how far away they are.
Sometimes, however, it’s just not enough. It’s not your fault, there’s only so much we can do to comfort someone going through some hard times.
It’s important you also do what you can to find out if your friend or loved one is in need of professional help. Because there’s nothing worse than doing everything you can, while still being powerless to give them the support they need.
What Should You Do Now?
Reach out to them. Don’t wait for them to get back to you or let you know how they’re feeling. Be proactive and start putting some of these tips into action right now.
Try and look at the situation from their perspective too. What do you think they want from you? How can you best comfort them and offer them support right now?
I really do hope the information in this article has helped and you’re able to comfort someone over a long distance in a way that really makes a difference to them.
I wish you all the best.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.