Trying to identify the signs an older married woman likes you?
Whether it’s a woman you like or you think you’re getting signals from an older married woman, you don’t want to misinterpret the situation!
To help out, here are 15 of the most common signs that a married older woman likes you and is flirting with you:
- 15 Signs an Older Married Woman Likes You
- 1. She’s Spending a Lot of Time with You
- 2. She Gets Close to You when You’re Together
- 3. She Invites You to Meet up – Just the Two of You
- 4. She’s Very Interested in Your Private Life
- 5. She Asks What You Think of Her
- 6. She Texts or Calls You at Odd Hours
- 7. She Always Laughs at Your Jokes or Acts Silly Around You
- 8. You Get the Feeling She’s Flirting
- 9. She Tells You how You’re Better than Her Husband
- 10. She Says She Wishes She Met Someone Like You Years Ago
- 11. She Takes an Interest in You as A Person
- 12. She Surprises You with Thoughtful Gifts
- 13. She Makes Strong Eye Contact and Smiles a Lot
- 14. She Tells You About Problems in Her Marriage
- 15. You Can Feel the Tension in The Air!
15 Signs an Older Married Woman Likes You
1. She’s Spending a Lot of Time with You
Of course, there is a chance she’s just being friendly and loves spending time with you and that’ll explain an older married woman spending more time with you.
But if she’s also displaying some other signs on this list, I think it’s fair to question if she’s interested in more than just being friends.
It’s certainly not normal for an older married woman to spend a lot of time with a younger, single guy – you’re right to question it.
Related – 10 rules for seeing a married man or woman!
2. She Gets Close to You when You’re Together
Generally speaking, an older woman is going to be more confident and forward about getting physically close to someone they like.
They will also use the fact that they’re married to make you think that they’re just being friendly, but it’s still a huge sign that they like you.
Look for incidents where she touches you on the arm or leg when you’re talking, or tries to sit as close to you as possible.
It’s a subtle sign, but it’s definitely a sign an older married woman likes you.
3. She Invites You to Meet up – Just the Two of You
If she’s inviting you to meet up, just the two of you, then that’s a huge sign that an older married woman likes you.
Why else would she want to meet up with you one-on-one if she wasn’t interested in you?
Unless she genuinely needs help with something, everytime(!), it’s definitely a sign that she likes you. It’s just up to you to find out how much she likes you!
4. She’s Very Interested in Your Private Life
An older married woman – or anyone – who’s interested in you romantically will want to know about your private life.
She’ll probably ask lots of questions about you, what you look for in a partner, if you’re seeing anyone, how happy you are, etc.
This is her way of testing the waters to see how available you are and how interested you’d be in her.
5. She Asks What You Think of Her
This is a more subtle sign, but if she’s constantly asking you what you think of her – whether it’s how she looks, how she’s dressed, or anything else – then it’s a sign she likes you.
She’s doing this because she is fishing for compliments and seeing how far you’ll go into saying you find her attractive.
It might not be overt, but it’s definitely a sign that an older married woman likes you.
6. She Texts or Calls You at Odd Hours
If she’s texting or calling you at odd hours, especially last thing at night or during the night, you’re right to wonder what her motives are.
You should also take into account the context of her messages, is she being overly friendly or acting like she needs you?
It’s certainly not normal for a married woman to text another guy during the night, it’s a red flag that she’s not happy in her marriage.
7. She Always Laughs at Your Jokes or Acts Silly Around You
It’s not just younger, more immature girls who act a bit silly when they like someone.
An older married woman who likes you will also act a bit silly and laugh at your jokes, even if they’re not that funny.
It’s a natural form of behavior when someone has a crush or some special feelings for someone, they just can’t help it!
8. You Get the Feeling She’s Flirting
This is a more obvious sign, but if you get the feeling she’s flirting with you, then there’s a good chance she is.
I say a ‘feeling’ because everyone flirts differently, and sometimes it’s hard to tell for sure.
But if she’s making eye contact, touching you, acting differently around you than she does with other people, or doing anything else that makes you feel this way, take note!
9. She Tells You how You’re Better than Her Husband
A lot of married people complain or moan about their other half, that’s just how it is to be married.
But if she’s not just moaning about the usual marriage bumps and is actually telling you you’re better than her husband, this isn’t normal.
It’s a sign that she’s not happy in her marriage and is looking for something – or someone – else.
10. She Says She Wishes She Met Someone Like You Years Ago
This is a very clear sign that an older married woman likes you.
If she’s saying she wishes she met someone like you years ago, this means she’s not happy with her current situation.
It also means she’s interested in you and would like to explore a relationship with you.
Of course, you need to be careful with this one as it could just be a way for her to make her husband feel jealous or make herself feel better in the short term.
11. She Takes an Interest in You as A Person
If she’s taking an interest in you as a person, it’s a sign that she cares about you and wants to get to know you better.
She’ll ask you about your life, your family, your friends, your hobbies, and anything else she can think of.
It’s her way of trying to connect with you on a deeper level and get to know the real you.
It feels great when someone is interested in us, you might find yourself falling for her as quickly as she is for you.
12. She Surprises You with Thoughtful Gifts
This is another way an older woman will flirt or show her interest in you, and I’m sure you’ll agree, it feels good to receive nice gifts.
If she’s turning up with food, items of clothing, or things that she’s learned you’re interested in, it shows she’s taking notice of you and making moves to win you over.
13. She Makes Strong Eye Contact and Smiles a Lot
One of the strongest body language cues that someone likes you is when they make strong eye contact and smile when you, almost subconsciously at times.
So if she’s making strong eye contact and smiling a lot when you’re talking, it’s a sign that she’s interested in you and what you have to say.
You will notice when it’s happening over someone who is looking at you ‘normally’, it just feels more intense.
14. She Tells You About Problems in Her Marriage
This is another of the more obvious signs that a married woman likes you.
If she’s starting to confide in you about how bad her marriage is and other personal things, she sees you as a close friend.
More than that, it might be a sign that she’s falling for you and she wants you to know that she’s not happy at home and wants to move on.
15. You Can Feel the Tension in The Air!
This one is a little different, you can’t see it and pick up the cues from what she’s saying or doing, but it’s very real.
If you get a gut feeling or can’t just feel the energy in the air when she’s around you, then you need to take notice.
You might not be able to explain it, but if you feel like there’s an intense connection between you and her, there probably is.
So there you have it, 15 signs an older married woman likes you – from physical cues to things she says and does.
What you do now is up to you.
I’m sure you’re aware that it’s a potentially explosive situation getting involved with a married woman, but I’ll leave it up to you how to best move forward based on your individual situation.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.