One of the things married couples most commonly argue about is how often each other goes out – or doesn’t go out.
It’s a tough one to balance.
No two people have the same number of friends, we all have different social needs, and there is often jealousy involved with married couples.
So, how often should a married woman go out without her husband?
It’s a tough one to answer as there is no one answer, but here are some insights:
How Often Should a Married Woman Go Out?
This is a tough question to answer, and while I give my thoughts I want you to keep in mind that it really depends on you and your partner, your lifestyle, and your individual needs.
For some women, going out once a month is plenty, while others need a night out every few days to stay sane.
The key is to find a balance that works for both of you.
I say this because there is often resentment from one partner when the other is going out more than they are.
Or, there might be some jealousy due to insecurities and wondering what a spouse is doing when they’re out.
It depends on your individual situation and relationship with your partner, but if you feel like you’re not allowed or able to go out enough, it’s going to impact your relationship.
The only real answer to this question is that you should go out however often you and your partner feel comfortable with.
And, if your partner has a problem with you going out and is holding you back, that’s something you need to address.
Should Married Men and Women Go Out The Same Amount?
Of course, both you and your partner should be able to go out as much as you like without feeling guilty – as long as you’re not neglecting your partner.
It doesn’t matter if you’re male or female, that shouldn’t make any difference to how often you go out.
Of course, there is a stigma about married women going out alone, I’m not ignorant of that.
In the traditional sense, some old-fashioned-thinking men would say that the woman’s place is at home.
But that’s an antiquated way of thinking and it’s not fair to either gender.
If you want to go out, and your partner is comfortable with it, then you should go out.
If they’re not comfortable with it, you need to have an open conversation and find out why they’re not comfortable with you going out.
As long as you’re acting reasonably, I’m sure you’ll be able to find a solution that makes both of you happy through good communication.
Why Are Some Spouses Jealous About Their Partner’s Going Out?
I think the most common reason why guys don’t like their wives going out is because they’re insecure or jealous.
They might think you’re going to meet someone else, or they might not trust you.
If this is the case, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about their feelings.
You need to be able to reassure them that you love them and are committed to them, even if you do go out without them.
Jealousy is often born out of insecurity, so if you can help your partner feel more secure in your relationship, it will go a long way.
On the other hand, you can’t let their insecurities hold you back, that’s just not fair on you and it’ll end up harming your relationship.
You need to find a balance that works for both of you, and if you can’t do that then you might need to seek out professional help to mediate.
Why Do Spouses Argue About Going out Separately?
I think the main reason spouses argue about going out separately is because they feel like they’re being neglected.
But this often isn’t the case, and it’s usually more to do with jealousy.
Just because you want to go out without your partner doesn’t mean you don’t love or care about them.
It’s important to communicate with your partner and explain to them why you want to go out.
If they’re feeling neglected, you try and spend more time with them doing things that they enjoy.
But it’s probably more the case that you need to reassure them that it’s healthy for you both to go out separately, and it’s something that’s important to you.
You should never feel like you can’t go out just because your partner doesn’t want you to, that’s not fair.
What to Do if Your Spouse Doesn’t Like You Going Out
The best thing to do if your spouse doesn’t like you going out is to have an open and honest conversation with them.
Find out why they don’t like it and try to come to a compromise that works for both of you.
It’s important to remember that you should never feel guilty for wanting to go out, and you shouldn’t let your partner hold you back.
If they’re being unreasonable, then you need to make them see that.
If you can’t help them to see that they’re being unreasonable, you’ll need to enlist the help of friends, family, and possibly even a professional to make them see it.
At the end of the day, it’s healthy for a relationship if both spouses go out and spend time with friends, you’ll be better off for it.
As long as you’re being reasonable, attentive to your partner, and not taking advantage of them – as a married woman, you should go out as often as you like.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.