If your girlfriend or wife is acting strange, almost guilty of something, then it’s possible she’s cheated and regrets it.
I hope this isn’t the case, I really do.
But she’s just not acting normal and it’s playing on your mind, you’re right to investigate and try and figure out why.
If you have a hunch she’s been unfaithful, here are 15 signs she cheated and feels guilty – see how many sound familiar to you!
15 Signs She Cheated and Feels Guilty!
1. She’s Being Overly Nice to You
If she’s being extra nice to you and doing things she doesn’t normally do, this is a classic sign that she feels guilty about something.
Maybe she thinks you deserve better after what she did or maybe she’s just trying to make up for her mistake.
Either way, if your girl is suddenly going out of her way to be nice to you, you’re right to question what her motivations are!
2. She Asks Hypothetical Questions About What You Feel About Cheaters
This is a sneaky way of trying to gauge your reaction to infidelity without admitting that she’s actually done anything wrong.
She might say things like “What would you do if I cheated on you?” or “How would you feel if I kissed someone else?”.
If she’s asking these sorts of questions, it means she’s either thinking about doing it or has already done it.
3. She Wants to Spend a Lot More Time with You
If your wife or girlfriend is suddenly wanting to spend a lot more time with you, it could be because she feels guilty about something.
She might be trying to make up for lost time or compensate for the fact that she’s been neglecting you.
Either way, if your girl is demanding more of your time than usual, it’s worth asking why.
4. She Isn’t ‘Working’ or Going as Much as She Normally Does
If your partner used to spend a lot more time away from home and is also displaying some of the other signs on this list, you’re right to wonder what she was really doing.
Was she spending time with someone else and cheating?
If she was cheating and is no longer doing so, she’s going to have a lot more time on her hands so it’s something to pay attention to.
5. You Catch Her Crying But She Won’t Say Why
This is a really big sign that something is wrong and she feels guilty about it.
If you catch your partner crying but she won’t tell you why, there’s a good chance it’s because she did something she regrets.
It could be anything from cheating to lying to you or even just hiding something important from you.
She may even try and fob you off with an explanation that doesn’t add up.
It’s natural to want to know why she’s crying, you care about her. But if it’s not obvious why, she’s holding something in.
6. She Says She Has Something to Tell You but Can Never Say It
This is another really big sign that she’s cheated and feels guilty about it.
If your partner keeps saying she has something to tell you but never actually says what it is, it means she’s either too scared to tell you or doesn’t want to admit what she did.
Either way, it’s a sign that she’s reaching out and you should take notice.
I’d look for other signs that she’s feeling guilty about something and start trying to gently coax it out of her.
7. She’s Being Hard on Herself
If your partner is being really hard on herself – especially if this is out of character – it could be because she feels guilty about something.
She might be saying things like “I’m such a terrible person” or “I don’t deserve you”.
These are signs that she’s not happy with herself and is beating herself up over something.
It could be anything from cheating to lying or even just something minor that she’s blown out of proportion.
8. She Is Emotionally Withdrawn
If your partner is suddenly emotionally withdrawn, this is another classic sign that she’s feeling guilty about something.
She might be distant, seem preoccupied, or just not as interested in you as she used to be.
This is usually a sign that something is bothering her and she’s not sure how to deal with it.
It could be anything from stress at work to relationship problems, but if you already suspect she’s cheated on you, it could be that.
9. She Is Defensive Over the Smallest Things
If your partner is being really defensive over small things, it’s a sign that she’s feeling guilty about something and thinks she is close to being caught out.
For example, if you ask her where has been and she gets really defensive or angry, it’s a sign that she doesn’t want to tell you the truth.
It’s not a nice feeling, but it says more about her state of mind than anything else and points towards a guilty feeling.
10. She Says She Doesn’t Deserve You
This is a really sad sign that she’s feeling guilty about something.
It’s nice to hear our partners say that we’re special, but if your partner says she doesn’t deserve you it could mean she feels guilty about something.
It might be that she’s cheated on you or lied to you, or it could be something else entirely.
11. She’s Changed Who She Is Hanging Out With
If your partner has suddenly changed who she is hanging out with and hasn’t explained her actions, it’s a sign that something is wrong.
It could be that she’s cheating or had a compromising interaction with someone and now wants to keep her distance from them.
Or it’s possible her group of friends know what she’s been up to and she’s concerned they’ll tell you.
Whatever the reason, it’s a red flag that something is up so you’re right to question why.
12. She Is More Insecure than She Used to Be
If your partner is more insecure than usual, something has happened to knock her self-esteem or confidence.
For example, if she’s always asking you if you still love her or if she’s good enough for you, it’s a sign that something has happened to make her feel that way.
This could be a number of things, but it’s usually a sign of guilt.
13. Stories About Where She Used to Go Keep Changing
If you’ve been together a while, you probably have a pretty good idea of where your partner used to hang out and what she used to do.
So if her stories about those times start to change, it’s a sign that something is up.
She might be making things up or leaving out details because she’s worried you’ll find out the truth.
Getting stories mixed up is one of the oldest signs in the book that someone is being dishonest.
14. She Reassures You She’ll Never Hurt You
Having come close to hurting you, someone who is feeling guilty for that will often feel the need to reassure you that they’ll never hurt you.
This is a sign that she’s worried about what she’s done and doesn’t want to risk losing you because of it.
It might be that she cheated on you or lied to you, but whatever it is, this is her way of trying to make herself feel better.
15. You Can Just Tell Something Is Bothering Her
Sometimes, you don’t need any of these signs to know that something is wrong.
You know your partner better than anyone, and you may just have a feeling in your gut that something isn’t right.
Your partner might not be acting any differently, per se, but you can just tell that something is bothering her.
If you’re getting these feelings, you should try and talk to her to see if she has anything she wants to come clean about.
Related – How to heal if your partner has cheated.
Does Everyone Feel Guilty for Cheating?
Not everyone feels guilty for cheating on their partner, some people will not give off any signs at all.
But if your partner is exhibiting any of these signs, then it’s a good indication that she is feeling guilty about something.
It puts you in a difficult position because talking to her might cause some issues between the two – but at the same time, you deserve to know what she’s feeling guilty about.
The best thing you can do is to try and talk to her in a calm, composed, and non-accusatory way.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.