If you have a gut feeling your man is cheating but don’t have any proof to back it up, you should always do a little more investigating.
Sometimes our gut feeling is right, sometimes it isn’t – but it’s never nice to have those doubts.
You don’t have to go full-on private investigator, just start paying attention for any signs that he might be cheating.
Here are 10 signs to look for that your man is cheating:
Gut Feeling He’s Cheating No Proof? Here Are 10 Signs to Look For!
1. He’s Always Staying out Late and You Never Really Know Where He Is
If your man is always coming home later than he says he will, or if he’s mysteriously “working late” a lot more often, something might be up.
Of course, it could just mean that he’s really busy at work – but it could also mean he’s busy with someone else.
This is often the main thing that gives someone a gut feeling that their partner is cheating, simply because they’re spending a lot of time away from home.
If you start to notice that his work schedule has changed and he’s not being as forthcoming about where he is and what he’s doing, it might be time to start asking some questions.
2. He’s Hiding His Online Activity from You
In this day and age, it’s pretty hard to hide your online activity unless you act super secretive when you’re around your partner.
If your man suddenly starts logging out of his email account whenever he leaves the room, won’t let you use his laptop, or always hides his phone screen, it’s a strong sign he has something to hide.
What that ‘something’ is, I don’t know. But he shouldn’t be trying to hide anything from you, and he should trust you not to go snooping.
Trust is everything in a relationship, if you don’t have trust about what each other is going online it’s only going to cause problems.
3. He’s Not Interested in Spending Quality Time with You
If your man used to be all about spending time with you and now he’s always ‘too busy’ or ‘too tired’, it might be because he’s found someone else to spend his time with.
It could also just mean that he’s really stressed at work, but if you’ve noticed a change in his attitude towards you it might be worth asking him what’s going on.
If he’s not interested in being intimate, it might be because he’s getting his needs met elsewhere, too.
4. He’s Easily Irritated – Especially if You Ask What He’s up To
If your man is suddenly snapping at you for no reason, or getting defensive whenever you ask him a question, it’s a sign that something is not right.
This is going to give you that gut feeling that something is on his mind at the very least.
He might be feeling guilty about something, or he might be worried that you’re on to him.
Either way, it’s not normal behavior and it’s definitely something to try and talk to him about as no one wants to be trending on eggshells!
5. He Feels Distant
If your man is normally really affectionate and loving but suddenly seems distant, I’m sure I don’t need to tell you that something might be wrong.
He might not be cheating or having a physical relationship with someone else, but he could definitely be withdrawing from the relationship for some reason.
It’s important that you reach out to him and really try to get him to open up and talk to you if he’s becoming more withdrawn in the relationship.
6. He Doesn’t Text or Call You when He’s Out
If you’ve noticed that your man doesn’t text or call you when he’s out with his friends, it could be because he’s too busy or preoccupied.
This usually means that he doesn’t want the person who he’s with to know that he has a partner, and vice versa!
It’s common courtesy to reply to messages from our partners while we’re out, it only takes a minute and there really is no excuse not to.
I don’t blame you if your man does this and it’s given you a sunken feeling in your stomach.
It’s time for him to be honest about why he’s always too busy to reply to you when he’s out.
7. He’s Accusing You of Flirting or Cheating
If your man starts to accuse you of flirting or cheating, it’s usually a sign that he’s feeling guilty about something himself.
This is a really common tactic used by people who are cheating, as they try to deflect the attention onto their partner.
It’s not fair and it’s a form of manipulation, a toxic behavior. Cheating aside, you shouldn’t have to put up with this behavior.
It’s time to have a serious chat with your man, and also investigate if he’s playing around behind your back!
8. Your Friends Have Noticed He’s Changed
If your friends and family members have started to comment on how your man has changed, or that he’s acting differently around you, it might be because they’ve seen something that you haven’t.
We’re often the last to realize when things are changing because we’re so wrapped up in the relationship or because we just don’t want to admit he’s changing.
If those close to you are telling you that they’re getting a gut feeling – or something else – that something is up with your guy, you should listen.
9. He’s Starting to Get His Stories Mixed Up About Where He’s Been
If your man is suddenly getting his stories mixed up about where he’s been, or what he’s been doing, it’s a sign he’s trying to cover his tracks.
This is a really common sign that someone is cheating as they try to keep their story straight in their head!
It can be hard to catch at first, and he may even try and gaslight you by telling you he didn’t say certain things or it’s you who has it wrong.
But if you’re sure he’s telling you stories that don’t match up, believe in your own memory and go with your gut!
Press him on his lies and I’m sure he’ll start to unravel or scramble to make up more excuses that just dig a deeper hole for him.
10. He Keeps Asking You How You Feel Things Are Between You Two
If your man is constantly asking you how things are going between you two, or if he’s almost suggesting that you’re not happy – this is a common tactic guys use when they want a way out.
It shows that he doesn’t have the courage to just be honest about how he’s feeling or if he’s cheating and would rather use you as a way of getting out of the relationship.
I shouldn’t need to tell you that you deserve better than that.
Next time he asks you about how you feel, it’s the perfect opportunity to turn the tables and start probing him about his behavior!
Should You Trust Your Gut Feeling About Your Partner Cheating?
If you’re getting a gut feeling that your partner is cheating on you, it’s important to at least listen to your instincts.
There may not be any concrete evidence or proof yet, but if there is something that doesn’t feel right – then it’s time to have a serious discussion with your man.
At the very least you owe it to him to air your concerns so you can discuss them and he can reassure you, or put your mind at ease.
But if you’re getting a gut feeling that he’s cheating and all the signs are there, then it’s time to confront him and get to the bottom of it.
How Do You Get a Man to Admit He Cheated?
The best way to get your man to admit he cheated is to directly confront him about it.
Ideally, you’ll have some proof and not just a gut instinct, but if he’s covering his tracks well you might just have circumstantial evidence.
Even if you don’t have any evidence he’s cheating, if the relationship isn’t going well you two need to have a heart-to-heart anyway.
It’s amazing what can come out of having a talk about how you’re feeling if you know how to approach it.
You will know your partner best and what will work with him, but generally speaking, you need to try and be calm, collected and direct.
The best way to get to the truth is usually just asking him outright if he’s been faithful or not!
Don’t be too confrontational, or he’ll just get defensive, but make it clear that you want an honest answer and expect him to tell you the truth.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.