Does your boyfriend ignore your texts when he’s with his friends?
Unfortunately, this is fairly common behavior from guys, and it can be really hurtful.
However, with some good communication and a little understanding, there is no reason why your boyfriend can’t be more considerate.
Here is what it means if your boyfriend doesn’t text you when he’s with his friends and what you should do about it.
Boyfriend Ignores My Texts When He’s With His Friends (5 Reasons)
First of all, it’s important to know why your boyfriend is ignoring your texts when he’s with his friends.
Here are some of the most common reasons:
1. He’s Embarrassed to Text You in Front of His Friends
If your boyfriend is ignoring your texts in front of his friends, it might be because he’s embarrassed to text you.
This can be for a number of reasons, including:
- He doesn’t want his friends to know that he has a girlfriend
- He doesn’t want his friends to see how much he cares about you
- He’s afraid his friends will make fun of him for texting you
If your boyfriend is ignoring your texts because he’s embarrassed it’s a sign that he’s immature, or the friends that he’s hanging out with are not a good influence.
Related – Here is why some guys never text on weekends!
2. He’s Too Preoccupied with His Friends
Another common reason why your boyfriend might ignore your texts when he’s with his friends is that he’s too preoccupied with them.
In other words, he’s more interested in spending time with his friends than he is with you.
This can be a red flag that your relationship is not as strong as it should be, and it’s a sign that his priorities are not aligned the same as yours.
3. He’s Actually up To No Good
I’m not trying to make you paranoid or scare you, but the reason why he doesn’t text could be because he’s doing something else.
In other words, he might be cheating on you or doing something that he knows you wouldn’t approve of and isn’t able to freely text.
This is obviously a major problem, and if this is the case then you need to have a serious talk with him about your relationship.
However, please don’t jump to conclusions like these. Take your time to speak with your boyfriend and figure out if this is a possibility.
4. He’s Trying to Be Cool in Front of His Friends
Many guys feel the need to act “cool” in front of their friends, which often includes ignoring their girlfriend’s texts.
This is because they think it makes them look more aloof, mysterious, or like a player.
Unfortunately, this is clearly a sign of immaturity and can be really hurtful to you as his girlfriend.
If your boyfriend is trying to play it cool by ignoring your texts, then you might want to consider whether or not he’s actually mature enough for a relationship.
5. He’s Not That Into You
Lastly, the reason why your boyfriend might be ignoring your texts when he’s with his friends is because he’s simply not that into you.
This doesn’t mean that he never liked you or that he doesn’t care about you, but it does mean that his feelings for you are not as strong as yours are for him.
If this is the case, I understand how devastating it can feel. But it’s important that you pick up signs like this and make a decision that’s best for you.
Should Your Boyfriend Text You When He’s Out With His Friends?
At the end of the day, it’s up to you whether or not you think your boyfriend should text you when he’s out with his friends.
There is no right answer, but if I were in your shoes I would want my boyfriend to be more considerate and take into account how his actions might affect me.
Let’s be honest, texting only takes a few seconds, how hard is it really for a guy to text you back no matter how busy he is?
To put this another way, if you were a priority to your boyfriend, I’m pretty sure he’d text while he was with his friends.
I bet you text him when you’re with your friends, don’t you?
Is It a Red Flag when Your Boyfriend Ignores Your Text Messages?
It is a red flag when your boyfriend ignores your text messages, yes.
It doesn’t matter what the reason is, if your boyfriend is ignoring your texts then it’s a sign that something is wrong in the relationship.
Whether he’s embarrassed, too preoccupied, or just not that into you, it’s important to have a discussion with him about why he’s choosing to ignore your texts.
In my opinion, once or twice is fine, or maybe even waiting a short while for a reply.
But there really is no excuse for ignoring your texts altogether just because he’s with friends, that’s just not on.
It’s Important You Speak with Your Boyfriend and Ask Why He Ignores Your Texts
If you’re worried that your boyfriend is ignoring your texts, it’s important that you speak with him about it.
Try to have an open and honest conversation in which you express how you feel and ask him why he’s been doing this lately.
I’m sure if you explain how his actions are making you feel, he’ll be more understanding and considerate in the future.
If talking about it doesn’t make him act more considerately in the future, this is a huge red flag and doesn’t hold well for the future between the two of you!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.