Are you looking for answers to what to do when your crush leaves you ‘on read’?
We’ve all been there at some point, someone we’re crushing on has left us ‘on read’ and we don’t know where we stand.
The most important thing is not to panic or think the worst!
Here are some tips on what you should do and how you can get off of ‘on read’, and back into conversation with your crush!
What to Do When Your Crush Leaves You ‘On Read’
1. Don’t Jump to Conclusions
Whether it’s been a few minutes or a few days, the worst thing you can do is jump to conclusions and make your own mind up as to why they haven’t replied.
There could be a number of reasons, they may have seen your message and not had time to reply, they may be busy, or typed a message and didn’t press ‘send’ by accident!
2. Don’t Text or Call and Ask if They’ve Seen Your Message
The last thing you want is to come across as desperate, needy, or bug them.
If they wanted to speak to you already, they would have replied. Or, there may be a perfectly reasonable explanation as to why they haven’t.
By texting or calling them, you’re only going to end up annoying them and you’ll probably push them away.
At the very least, you should wait until a few days have passed. If you’re still ‘on read’, then it’s time to do one or more of the other tips on this list!
3. Ask Yourself if Your Text Required a Reply
This is a good way to gauge whether or not you should be worried about being ‘on read’.
If your text was simply mentioning something or a passing comment that didn’t need a response, then there’s no need to stress!
But if your text required an answer and they still haven’t replied, you’re right to wonder why you’ve been left ‘on read’.
4. Don’t Wait Around for Them to Reply
If you’ve been ‘on read’ for a while, it’s time to move on and stop waiting around for them to reply.
Staring at your phone isn’t going to achieve anything, at least nothing positive.
If you distract yourself with fun things the time will fly a lot quicker, you’ll be having fun, and you may even forget you’re waiting for a reply!
5. Take a Hard Look at How Interested They Seem
This is probably the most important tip on this list!
If you’re constantly the one initiating conversations, making plans, and being the general driving force behind your interactions, then it’s time to take a step back.
It might be that they’re simply not that interested in you and you’re wasting your time.
It’s easy to get lost in the moment and feel like things are equal, but while you’re on hold it’s a good time to evaluate your interactions with your crush.
6. Hedge Your Bets and Text Other People You’re Interested In
If you’re waiting around for someone who may not even be interested in you, then it’s time to start talking to other people!
I know it’s difficult when this is your crush we’re talking about, and it’s not unusual for a crush not to know you’re interested.
But you also have to question if it’s worth all the time and energy you’re putting into your infatuation with this person.
7. Check if They’re Active on Social Media
I am not suggesting you go full-on stalker mode, but if you want peace of mind you could check if they’ve been active on social media.
Who knows, maybe they’ve lost their phone or gone away and disconnected from being online for a few days.
If they are active, despite not replying to you, I’ll leave it up to you what you think about it!
8. Send a Sarcastic or Funny Text
This is a great way to get them to reply without seeming needy or desperate.
It also allows you to show your personality, and if they don’t reply you can at least say you tried!
You could say something like, ‘Hey! It looks an awful lot like you’re ignoring me if you don’t reply!’
Or, something like, ‘I’m just wondering if you got my text from yesterday? Or the one before that? Or the one before that?’
I’m sure you’ll find something goofy to say based on your own personality and what you think will make the person you’re texting smile.
9. If All Else Fails, Ask Them Why They Haven’t Responded
If you’ve tried all the other tips on this list and you’re still ‘on read’, then it might be time to just ask them what’s up.
You could say something like, ‘I noticed you haven’t replied to my texts in a while, is everything okay?’
Or, ‘I’m just wondering if I did something to upset you?’
This is a direct approach that might not always get the response you’re looking for, but at least you’ll know where you stand.
This is what I would do, I much prefer to just ask someone where I stand than be left wondering about it.
What Does It Mean to Be Left ‘On Read’?
‘On read’ is a fairly new term, and it’s only used within certain circles so I want to just clarify what it means to me:
Being ‘on read’ is when the person you’re texting doesn’t reply to your message, despite having seen it.
This usually happens because they don’t want to reply, or they don’t know how to respond.
It’s possible they might be busy and just haven’t had a chance to get back to you yet, but if this is a regular occurrence it’s probably not the case.
If you’ve been ‘on read’ once or twice it’s not the end of the world, but if it’s happening constantly it might be time to move on.
Feel free to let me know in the comments if/how any of these tips helped you out!
Image credits – Photo by Kelli McClintock on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.