Is a guy texting you but avoiding seeing you in person?
If so, you’re not alone.
This is a common dating trend – or even something friends do sometimes – that many girls experience.
There are a few possible reasons why this might happen, I’m going to help shed some light on this for you and give you advice on what to do!
He Texts Me but Avoids Me in Person? (Reasons Why)
It’s important to keep in mind that there are a few possible reasons why a guy might be texting you but avoiding you in person.
He could just be busy with work, friends, or family, he could be avoiding you for some other reason, maybe he’s shy, or he could just not be interested in you – to mention just a few reasons.
The first thing you need to do is make sure he is avoiding you, and then figure out why he’s avoiding you.
If it’s something like work or family commitments, then there’s not much you can do about it. It’s not really that he’s avoiding you, he’s just too busy.
But if he’s free, it’s probably because he’s not interested in you and doesn’t want to deal with seeing you and explaining this.
It may also be because he’s with someone (another girl) and he doesn’t want you to know.
He can cover up the fact that he’s seeing other girls while texting quite easily, but he can’t hide it if you bump into each other in public!
Related – What it means why guys text but don’t keep the conversation going.
How to Tell if Someone Is Really Avoiding You
If you’re not sure whether the guy is really avoiding you or not, there are a few things you can do to try and figure it out.
First of all, see if he’s always busy when you try to make plans with him. If he always has an excuse or says he’s too busy, then it’s likely that he’s avoiding you.
You can also see if he responds to your texts right away or if he takes a while to respond. If he takes a while to respond, it could mean that he’s trying to avoid talking to you.
Lastly, see if the two of you are ever in the same place at the same time – if not, then it’s likely that he’s avoiding you.
Taking this a step further, and without being stalkerish, you could arrange to ‘accidentally’ be in the same place as him and bump into him.
You will be able to tell a lot from his body language. If he tries to put his head down and avoid eye contact, this is a huge red flag and pretty much confirms he’s avoiding you.
If the reason is that he’s with another girl and didn’t want you to know, this is your chance to catch him red-handed!
What To Do If He Texts You but Avoids Seeing You in Person
If the guy is texting you and being super friendly or flirty but avoiding seeing you in person, there are a few things you can do to find out why.
I recommend either:
- Talking to him over text and try to get a better understanding of what’s going on
- Asking him to hang out or meet up with you and see what he says
- Letting him know that you’re interested in him and would like to see him in person
At the end of the day, unless you go private eye and catch him out doing something that reveals exactly why he’s avoiding you, the best thing you can do is to ask him.
Make sure you ask him in a way that comes across as non-confrontational and gives him a chance to explain himself.
He’s either going to give you a good explanation, or he’s not.
Either way, you need to seriously consider why you’re spending time on this guy if he’s not willing to meet up with you. Or worse, just avoids you if you do cross paths.
How to Tell if a Guy Is Just Shy
If the guy is just shy, he’ll likely be more open and friendly when you talk to him over text.
He may also take a little longer to respond to your texts, but he’ll eventually get back to you.
Shy guys usually aren’t interested in meeting up with girls in person, or they find it very difficult to do – especially without warning to try and get their nerves under control.
This is one possible reason for a guy avoiding you that deserves a little understanding.
But if he likes you, he’s going to have to meet up sooner or later. If he keeps putting it off because he’s shy, you need to let him know that eventually, you’re going to lose interest.
If the guy is avoiding you while still texting you all the time, there are a number of possible reasons.
To figure out why he’s avoiding you, it’s important to pay attention to what he’s saying via text, ask him why he’s avoiding you, and read between the lines a little bit!
Guys are complex creatures at times, but all the clues will be there if you look close enough. Good luck!
Image credits – Photo by Hitesh Choudhary on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.