So, you’ve started texting back and forth with a guy and things are going well, but maybe you’ve heard he’s a bit of a player.
It raises the question; would a player text you everyday?
Is this something someone who intends to play you would be willing to do?
Some players absolutely would text a girl every day for a long period if they think it’s going to lead to a hook-up – so you have to be on your guard.
What Is a Player?
First, let’s define what a player is in dating terms. The term “player” can have different meanings depending on who you ask.
For some, it might mean a guy who just wants to hook up with as many girls as possible.
For others, it could refer to someone who is very smooth with the ladies and has no trouble getting what he wants from them.
There isn’t one specific definition of a player, but typically they exhibit some or all of the following behaviors:
- They are very flirty and often make advances toward women early on in the conversation or relationship.
- They don’t really care about developing any kind of meaningful connection with the woman they are talking to/dating.
- They will often disappear for long periods of time and then reappear, with no explanation (because they’re playing around with other women).
- They are not interested in anything beyond a casual fling or one night stand.
The hurtful thing to women who find out they’ve been ‘played’ or were involved with a player is the fact that the guy didn’t really like them.
No one likes to be deceived and being led on and manipulated by a guy for his own self-gratification and needs is particularly hurtful.
Will a Guy Text You Every Day if He’s Interested?
If the guy is genuinely interested in you and not just playing around, he’s more likely to text you every day.
It might be something as simple as “Hey, how are you?” or “I had a great time last night, thank you for coming out.”
But either way, it shows that he’s thinking about you and wants to stay in touch.
So, Would a Player Text You Everyday?
Probably not, if he’s just looking to hook up. At least not over a long period of time.
But if he’s interested in you and wants to get to know you better, he will definitely text you frequently.
The best way to figure out whether or not a guy is genuinely interested is to pay close attention to the way he texts and how often he contacts you.
If it seems like he’s always trying to get a hold of you and make plans, then there’s a good chance he likes you.
However, if he disappears for long periods of time or only texts when he wants something from you (like a hook-up), then it’s probably safe to say that he’s just playing games.
Some players are incredibly persistent though, so don’t take it as a fact that a guy is not a player just because he’s been in text contact for weeks.
Is Texting Everyday Too Much?
This is something you’ll have to figure out for yourself. If the guy is a player, he might get bored if you text him too often or he might see it as a sign of desperation.
But if he’s interested in you, he’ll definitely appreciate hearing from you on a regular basis.
It really depends on the situation and how well you know the guy.
In general, it’s always better to err on the side of caution and not text someone every day if you’re not sure whether or not they’re interested.
You don’t want to come across as needy or desperate – both of which are major turn-offs for most people.
Pay close attention to how the guy is responding, too. If he’s replying with short, closed responses – unless you say you’re interested in meeting – you’re putting in more effort than he is.
It’s generally a sign a guy is leading a girl on if he’s not putting as much effort into his texts as you are.
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If a Guy Suddenly Stops Texting, Is He a Player?
If a guy suddenly stops texting, it could mean a number of things.
He may have lost interest in you, he might be busy with work or school, or he could be talking to other girls and doesn’t want to seem overeager by being too available.
The best way to figure out what’s going on is to ask him directly.
But if you’re not sure whether or not he’s a player, there are a few things to look out for.
Players often have a history of being very flirty and making advances toward women early on in the conversation or relationship.
They also don’t really care about developing any kind of meaningful connection with the person they’re dating.
Instead, their focus is on having their way with you or making you fall for them so they can string you along.
If the guy you’re talking to was exhibiting any of these signs, it’s probably best to steer clear and not reconnect with him.
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