It’s normal for a lot of girls to feel insecure about themselves, their relationships, and other things around them.
However, being insecure – although unavoidable for the most part – is seen as a red flag in relationships, and is one of the main causes of breakups.
Some guys are drawn to insecure women, some are put off by it – so, can guys sense when a girl is insecure?
It depends on the guy and how insecure the girl is. But you’re probably giving off more insecure signals than you think you are.
Here is a deeper look at the reasons why girls are insecure, how it affects relationships, and how you can work on your confidence!
Can Guys Sense When a Girl Is Insecure?
Most guys can sense when a girl is insecure, although it’s hard to gauge just how insecure a woman is without her opening up to you and talking about it.
That said, some girls do hide their insecurities well, and some forms of insecurity don’t really come up to the surface until a girl is in a relationship.
So, guys often find themselves in a relationship with a girl before they really see the extent of just how insecure their partner is.
Relationship insecurity, for example, is something that a guy will really only start to sense once he’s dating a girl who suffers from insecurities.
He’ll notice that his partner is not trusting of him, is constantly worrying about what he’s up to, questioning him, and generally feeling anxious about the relationship.
If a woman has body image insecurities, on the other hand, guys are usually good at sensing this.
Guys are visual creatures, and they’ll notice when a girl isn’t revealing much – or is actively trying to cover up her body.
Insecurity is closely tied to being anxious and lacking confidence. When you get to know someone, there are almost always signs that they’re insecure.
Related – What it means when a guy checks out a girl from head to toe.
What Are the Signs That a Girl Is Insecure?
There are various types of insecurity, but generally speaking, a few of the key signs that show a girl is insecure in a relationship are:
- She’s constantly seeking validation and reassurance from others
- She’s afraid of being alone or single
- She’s extremely self-conscious and lacking in confidence
- She’s always comparing herself to other girls
- She’s doesn’t trust you, although she has no good reason not to
If you can relate to any of these points, then it’s likely that you’re an insecure woman.
Insecurity can manifest itself in different ways, and some women will only suffer from one or two of the above points, while others will relate to all of them.
The most important thing to remember is that insecurity is normal – we all have moments where we feel like we’re not good enough.
However, if your insecurity is impacting your relationship, then it’s time to do something about it.
Working on your confidence is the best way to combat insecurity.
This means accepting yourself for who you are, building a strong support network, and learning to love yourself.
Insecurity is something that a lot of us struggle with, don’t be afraid to reach out to friends and loved ones for support, or even a therapist for professional help.
Should You Date an Insecure Girl?
Insecure women can make great partners, as long as their insecurity doesn’t get in the way of the relationship.
Almost all of us have some insecurities we deal with, it really comes down to how bad those insecurities are and how we handle them.
If you’re dating an insecure girl, just be patient with her and try to help her work on her confidence.
However, if you find that your partner’s insecurity is impacting your relationship in a negative way, it might be the cause of you two splitting up.
At the end of the day, you want to be with someone who makes you feel good about yourself – not someone who brings out your insecurities.
How Can You Help a Girl Become Less Insecure?
If you’re in a relationship with an insecure girl, or you know someone who is, there are ways you can help.
Building up your partner’s confidence is the best way to combat insecurity.
Here are a few ideas of how you can do that:
- Make sure she knows she’s beautiful – both inside and out
- Compliment her often, and make her feel special
- Encourage her to try new things and step out of her comfort zone
- Help her build a strong support network of friends and family members
- Be patient with her and never make her feel bad about herself
Insecurity is something that takes time to work on, but it’s definitely possible to overcome it.
The best part is that if you do help a girl overcome her insecurities, you’re going to see and appreciate the best version of her she has to offer.
There is a well-known quote, I don’t know who first said it but the quote is:
Nothing holds you back more than your own insecurities
This is 100% true.
If you’re insecure, it’s crucial that you surround yourself with positive people who can help you overcome your insecurities and form healthy relationships.
If you’re with someone who is insecure, it’s crucial you recognize what those insecurities are and go out of your way to provide the support and encouragement they need.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.