Looking to better understand how guys text their crush to figure out if a guy you’re texting has a crush on you?
Guys will use different words, say different things, and behave differently when texting someone they like, as opposed to a friend.
You just need to know how to interpret what they’re texting – and how to text them back to get what you want!
How Guys Text When They Have a Crush on Someone
It’s not always easy to tell if a guy has a crush on you via text, but the signs will usually appear.
Guys are often a little shy and might take a while to work up the courage to text a girl they have a crush on, or at least start to make it obvious they like them.
They’ll also be very careful about what they say, wanting to make sure that everything they text is perfect – no typos or mistakes!
Guys will often try to keep the conversation going with a crush by asking questions and keeping things light and flirty.
They may also use emoticons more often, since these can help convey their feelings without having to actually say anything.
If the guy is quite shy, you can help him out by texting back with some flirty responses and see where it goes!
Related – Texting habits of a guy who likes you.
How Guys Text When They Don’t Have a Crush on Someone
It’s often easier to tell if a guy doesn’t have a crush on you so you can rule it out.
If a guy isn’t interested, he’s likely to just send short, blunt texts with little-to-no conversation.
He may also use sarcasm or be rude, in an attempt to end the conversation as quickly as possible.
No matter what, guys just don’t put as much thought into their texts when they aren’t interested – and it shows!
He certainly won’t be pushing to meet up.
You could make a lighthearted comment about meeting up and see what he says if you want to test this theory!
Things Guys Will Text if They Have a Crush on You
You can get a much better idea if a guy has a crush on you by the things he says over text.
Some of the things he’ll probably say are:
- “I miss you when we’re apart.”
- “I can’t stop thinking about you.”
- “You looked really cute when I saw you earlier.”
- “I had a great time when we hung out.”
- “Can’t wait to see you again soon.”
It really depends on how well you know each other and what type of relationship you currently have.
Most crushes are secret and people like to try and keep it that way. A lot of the time, it’s a crush because one person is not available.
But, honestly, guys will almost always give off signs that they have a crush on you – it’s just hard for them not to!
If the two of you are just friends and he really doesn’t want to reveal that he has a crush on you, he’s more likely to text things like:
- “I appreciate having you as a friend!”
- “We have a lot in common, it’s crazy really.”
- “I never expected to meet someone as cool as you.”
- “I just want to let you know I’m here if you ever need anything.”
- “We should hang out sometime soon, I have so much fun with you.”
You’re going to have to do a bit of reading between the lines, and you may even have to probe the guy a little if you really want to know if he has a crush on you.
But if he’s texting anything along the lines of the above comments, it’s clear he likes you a lot.
How Often Do Guys Text if They Like You?
It really depends on the guy and how confident he feels about his crush, but as a general rule, the more he texts the more he likes you.
If he’s just starting to like you, he might text you once or twice a day.
He will also be doing things like using your name in a text, using emojis, and other playful, flirty little things.
However, if he’s been crushing on you for a while, or if the two of you are already in a relationship, he may text you multiple times a day to let you know how he’s feeling.
There’s no set rule, but it’s pretty easy to tell if a guy likes you by how often he’s texting you.
Pay attention to how quickly he responds, too. If he’s always quick to respond, then he’s putting replying to you as a priority.
On the flip side, if a guy is always taking ages to reply and doesn’t offer any excuses or reasons why he’s always ‘busy’, he’s not very interested.
Most guys definitely act differently when it comes to texting their crush.
Some guys will put a lot of thought into each text and try to make a good impression, while others will just send whatever comes to mind.
But you can be sure they’ll be texting you a lot as you’re on their mind and they want to get to know you better.
The best way to figure out how he feels is to observe the types of things he texts you and how often he sends them.
If you’re not sure, always feel free to ask him directly.
He may be too shy to say it outright, but a guy will usually give you some clues if he’s into you and unless you ask, you may never know!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.