My husband is moody and angry all the time!
You’re not alone, some guys become moody and angry over time for a number of reasons.
The important thing is that you’re able to identify why your husband is moody, and get him the help he needs.
Here is a look at why your husband is moody, how it’s affecting your relationship, and what you can do to help him.
Finding out Why Your Husband Is Moody and Angry
To find a solution to any problem, and I’m sure you want to help your husband with his moody behavior, you have to get to the root of the cause.
There are a number of things that could be causing your husband’s moodiness, so you’re going to have to talk to him and really pay attention to how he’s doing.
Generally speaking, however, the underlying cause is due to be one of the following:
- It could be work-related stress causing him to feel down.
- He may be going through some sort of mid-life crisis which typically affects guys 45-65 in age.
- His moodiness could also be due to a medical condition not caused by other forces, such as depression or anxiety.
- It’s possible that something in his personal life has impacted him in a way he’s finding hard to deal with.
Something to ask yourself is, “Has anything changed in his life recently?”
A change in routine, such as a new job or the loss of a loved one, can also lead to moodiness.
Try to get to the bottom of things by talking to your husband. If you can get him to open up you can start to work together to find a solution.
How to Deal with An Angry and Moody Husband!
Getting to the root of the issue and working on a solution is one thing – in the meantime, you need to deal with mood swings and that can be incredibly difficult.
First of all, when your husband is in a bad mood, try not to take it personally.
I know that’s easier said than done, but it’s important to remember that his moodiness is (likely) not about you.
If you can, try to be understanding and compassionate, even if he’s taking it out on you.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to put up with bad behavior!
If your husband is being abusive, either physically or emotionally, then you should distance yourself and tell him he needs to get help sooner rather than later.
I’m sure you’re aware of the damage his moods are already doing to your relationship, this is only going to get worse if he’s taking his problems out on you.
So, the best advice for handling moody people, in general, is to:
- Try and avoid the triggers that annoy them and give them space
- Stay calm and don’t do anything to escalate the situation
- Talk to them when they’re not in a mood and let them know how it makes you feel
- Work with them to address their behavior, and don’t accept them not being willing to change
How To Not Let Your Husband’s Moods Affect You
This is often easier said than done when you’re trapped in the same house and intertwined with someone as close as you are with your husband – but you can’t let his moods affect you.
Being moody is a toxic behavior that affects everyone else and drags the whole mood down in a room.
The best thing you can do is try and rise above it, be the bigger person, and create some positivity in your own life.
It’s not always easy, but it is possible.
You should also make sure that you’re taking care of yourself, both physically and mentally.
If you’re not in a good place, it’s going to be harder to deal with someone else who isn’t.
It’s going to be difficult, and I’m sure you’re telling yourself you didn’t ask for this, but keep in mind that your husband needs help right now.
I can’t promise that you will be able to help him, it depends on what his issues are and how hard he’s willing to work to change his behavior.
But what I do know is that you have to look after yourself, and if the both of you are willing to work on your relationship, there is a good chance your husband will be able to get his moods under control.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.