As an expectant mother, you have more than enough stress to deal with without dealing with a cheating boyfriend.
So, if you’ve found out your boyfriend has cheated on you, I feel for you.
The important thing right now is that you look after yourself and your unborn child, and do everything in your power to keep your stress levels to a minimum!
Here are 11 tips on how to get over a cheating boyfriend while pregnant:
11 Tips for How to Get Over a Cheating Boyfriend While Pregnant
1. Make the Right Decision and Stick by It
The first and most important thing you need to do is make the decision about what you want to do.
And once you’ve made your decision, stick by it.
Whether you decide to stay with your boyfriend or not, make sure that you’re doing what’s best for YOU and your baby.
If you’re a new mother-to-be, you’ll be coming to terms with the fact that you no longer have just yourself to think of – you need to take into account what’s best for your child.
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2. Focus on The Well-Being of You and Your Unborn Child
Your priority right now should be your mental health and the well-being of your unborn child.
So, if staying with your cheating boyfriend is going to negatively impact either of those things, then it’s time to walk away.
Remember, you’re not just dealing with the stress of a break-up, you’re also dealing with pregnancy hormones which can make you react in ways you ordinarily wouldn’t.
It’s important to be kind to yourself and take things one day at a time.
3. Set Some Boundaries with Your Boyfriend
If you’ve decided to give your boyfriend another chance or just want him to be present as he’s your child’s father, it’s important that you set some boundaries.
Make it clear what you expect from him and what he can expect from you.
It’s also important to take things slowly if you’re trying to rebuild trust – there’s no need to rush into anything.
You need to make sure that both you and your boyfriend are on the same page and are committed to making things work – whatever that means for your relationship.
4. Talk to Friends and Family
If you’re struggling to cope, it’s important to talk to someone who can offer impartial advice – like a friend or family member.
It can be helpful to talk about how you’re feeling and get some outside perspectives on the situation.
There is no stronger support network than family and friends, so I do hope you have a support network of your own you can turn to.
5. Be Honest with Yourself About How You Feel
I’m sure your emotions are running high right now, but it’s important that you’re able to take a step back and be honest about how you’re feeling.
If you’re feeling angry, hurt, or betrayed, that’s completely understandable.
But it’s important to deal with those feelings in a healthy way – like by talking to someone or writing in a journal.
Suppressing your emotions will only make things worse in the long run and have a negative impact on your health.
6. Don’t Shoulder the Emotional Stress by Yourself
Your friends and family are there to support you, so don’t try to go through this alone.
There’s no need to put on a brave face – they’ll understand if you’re not feeling 100%.
And if you find yourself struggling to cope, please reach out for help.
There are plenty of helplines and support groups you can reach out to as well if you’re feeling emotional about the whole situation.
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7. Don’t Even Think About Revenge, It’s Not Worth It
I know it’s easier said than done but try not to think about getting revenge on your cheating boyfriend.
It’s not worth the emotional stress and it’ll only make you feel worse in the end.
Focus on taking care of yourself and your unborn child – that’s what’s important right now.
Besides, there are much better things you could be spending your time on than revenge.
Like enjoying your pregnancy and getting excited for the arrival of your little one.
8. Take Time to Work on Yourself and Heal
It’s important to take some time for yourself and focus on your own healing.
In fact, you should already be pampering yourself and taking good care of yourself during your pregnancy.
This is a tough situation and it’s going to take some time to get over it.
But I promise you will get through this – one day at a time.
I recommend meditating or practicing mindfulness techniques, as well as treating yourself to a day out at a spa or doing whatever makes you happy!
9. Set up A Plan for After Your Child Is Born
I’m sure you’re already planning for the future, but now you have an added curveball to take into account.
It’s important to have a plan for after your child is born, especially if you’re not sure about your relationship status with your boyfriend.
If he’s going to be involved in your child’s life, make sure you have a solid co-parenting plan in place.
But if you’re planning on raising your child on your own, that’s okay too!
There are plenty of resources out there to help you, and you’re not alone in this.
10. Know that You Will Do Better in The Future
I also want you to know that this isn’t the end of your story.
You will get through this tough time and you will come out stronger on the other side.
You’re going to be an amazing mother, no matter what happens with your boyfriend.
And I promise you will find happiness again – even if it’s not with this guy.
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11. Remind Yourself that You’re Strong and You Got This!
I know this is a tough situation, but I promise you’re strong enough to get through it.
You’ve got this – and you’re going to be an amazing mother and have an awesome future, no matter what.
Remember to focus on taking care of yourself and your unborn child, and reach out for help when you need it.
I’m sure you’re hurting right now, there are few things more devastating than finding out your boyfriend has been cheating while you’re pregnant.
But you got this!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.