Do you get a gut feeling that you’re spotting the signs a married man likes you more than a friend?
This can cause a tricky situation – especially if you’re developing feelings for them, too!
Before doing or saying anything, you have to be absolutely sure they have feelings for you and aren’t just being friendly.
To help you out, here are 25 signs a married man likes you more than a friend and how to handle it!
25 Signs a Married Man Likes You More Than a Friend
1. He Hugs You (tightly)
A hug can reveal a lot about what someone thinks and feels about you!
When a married man hugs you and it feels like he’s holding on for dear life – or an eternity – it’s definitely a sign he likes you more than a friend.
This is especially true if he gives you a little squeeze or hugs you tightly.
2. He Makes Strong Eye Contact
When a man looks you in the eye, whether you’re talking to one another or not, it’s usually a sign he’s interested and attracted to you.
Pay a little more attention to how often this guy is locking eyes with you, and look for the very obvious difference between gazing into your eyes and just catching a glance.
Related – 17 signs a married man is just using you.
3. He Finds Any Excuse to Touch You
In addition to hugs, a married man who likes you may also find any excuse to touch you.
This could be anything from a playful tap on the arm to a more intimate hand-holding or back rub.
If he’s constantly finding excuses to “accidentally” touch you – it’s definitely one of the signs he likes you!
4. He Gives You a Cheeky Smile and Looks Away
When a man (married or not) likes you, he’ll often give you a little smile – especially when you catch him looking at you.
This is usually followed by him quickly looking away and blushing or grinning from ear to ear.
It’s one of the most common (and adorable) signs a guy definitely has feelings for you!
5. You’re Making Him Nervous
Some guys are just nervous, but you’ll notice when a guy is nervous around you and not other people.
If a guy is visibly nervous around you; maybe he’s fidgeting, has sweaty palms, stumbles over his words, etc. it’s because he likes you.
Married or not, if you have this effect on a guy his feelings and physical reactions are betraying him!
6. He Blushes if You Flatter Him
A lot of guys blush when they’re talking to someone they like.
If this guy blushes after you give him a compliment – it’s a sign he may be interested in you!
This is especially true if he gets flustered or starts to stammer and can’t think of a response.
I’m sure you’ll admit it’s kind of cute, but there is the obvious complication that he’s married!
7. He Compliments You (a Lot!)
When a man compliments you all the time, it means he’s interested in you and wants to make you feel good.
This is one of the most common (and telling) signs a guy likes you, married or not!
If he brings up your physical appearance out of nowhere or finds any excuse to give you a compliment – take notice!
8. He Takes Any Opportunity to Be Alone with You
When a man likes you, he’ll want to be around you as much as possible!
This often manifests in him wanting to be alone with you – whether it’s going for a coffee break or taking a walk together.
If he takes any opportunity to spend time alone with you – it’s definitely one of the signs that he likes you
9. He’s Always Checking how You’re Doing
If a guy is constantly asking how you’re doing or if you need anything – it’s a sign he likes you.
It might not seem like much, but these little things add up and show that he cares about you.
He may just be being friendly, you’ll need to take into account how he treats his other friends and see if he’s giving you some special treatment.
10. He Confides in You About Personal Things
This is a big one. If a married guy is confiding in you, it’s the first step of an emotional affair.
He should be confiding in his wife, not other women – even if you are close friends.
There’s a line where the conversation crosses over from friendly conversation to unloading his personal or marital problems, don’t let him cross it.
Related –How to tell is a guy is a married player – 21 signs!
11. He’s Protective Over You
If a married man is protective over you, it’s a sign he cares about you and feels something for you.
This can manifest in him being possessive or territorial over you – especially if he gets jealous when other guys talk to you.
It’s a flattering sign, but it’s not how a married man should be behaving to be real.
12. He Wants to Hang out When His Wife Isn’t Around
This is a big one. If he only wants to see you when his wife isn’t around, it’s a sign that he’s interested in you and not just being friends.
If he goes out of his way to make time for you when she’s not around – it means he values your time together and doesn’t want to share it with his wife.
This is the opposite of how he should be behaving, he should be including his wife in his plans and not going behind her back.
13. He’s Suddenly Interested in The Same Hobbies as You
If a guy is suddenly interested in the same hobbies as you – it’s a sign that he’s taking notice and trying to find common ground with you.
It’s human nature to want to impress someone we like, and one way to do that is by pretending to be interested in the things they like.
So if he starts asking you about your favorite sports team or chatting about the same movies, he’s up to something!
14. He’s Started Mirroring Your Mannerisms
We all do it, we mimic the people we like without even realizing it.
It’s a subconscious way of showing that we’re on the same wavelength and trying to connect with them.
If you notice him starting to mirror your mannerisms – from the way you sit to the way you laugh – take it as a sign that he’s attracted to you in some way.
15. He Texts You a Lot when You’re Apart
If you’re constantly getting texts from him when you’re not together, it’s a sign he can’t get you off his mind.
If any guy is thinking about you even when you’re not around, it’s a surefire sign that he likes you more than just a friend.
16. He Leans in Close to Talk to You
When we like someone, our subconscious body language cues often give us away.
If you notice a guy leaning in close when he talks to you, this is one of those body language cues that suggests he likes you.
It’s a subtle way of getting physically closer to you without being too obvious about it.
17. You Catch Him Fixing His Appearance a Lot
If you catch him fixing his hair or clothes a lot when you’re around – it’s a sign he’s trying to impress you and make a good impression.
It might seem like he’s just being vain, but it’s really a strong sign of attraction!
18. He’s Clearly Been Making More Effort on His Appearance Lately
If you’ve noticed a guy making an extra effort on his appearance lately, it’s a sign he likes you (or someone).
He might be dressing nicer or working out more – either way, it means he cares about what you think of him and wants to look good for you.
Related – Here is why some married guys flirt and still talk about their wives.
19. He Jokes About What It Would Be Like if You Were Together
If he’s constantly making jokes about what it would be like if you were together – he might be subconsciously trying to plant the idea in your head.
It’s a way of testing the waters and seeing how you react to the idea of being together.
This is a common tactic guys use when they don’t want – or can’t be direct because they’re married – to put themselves out there.
20. He Asks Your Advice All the Time
If he’s always asking for your opinion or advice, it’s a sign that he values your input and trusts your judgment.
This is especially true if he asks for advice on things he wouldn’t normally ask anyone else about.
He might take your answers and twist his future to match up with how you think and feel, too, just to get closer to you.
21. He Tells You Anyone Would Be Lucky to Be with You
If he tells you that anyone would be lucky to be with you – he’s definitely interested in you and not just being friends.
This is a way of complimenting you and making you feel special without being too obvious about it.
It’s also a way of letting you know that if he’s ever available he would also feel honored to be with you.
22. He’s Overly Defensive Over You
If he’s always quick to jump to your defense or gets angry on your behalf – it’s a sign he cares about you and doesn’t want anyone to hurt you.
We tend to be more protective of the people we care about, so this is definitely a sign that he sees you as more than just a friend.
It can get a bit awkward sometimes when a married guy acts like this, and will certainly offend his wife if she’s present!
23. He Remembers the Cutest Things About You
If he remembers the little things about you that most people would forget – it’s a sign he’s paying close attention to you and cares about you.
He might remember things like your favorite color, the name of your dog, how you take your coffee, it could be anything.
These small details matter to him because they help him get to know you better and connect with you on a deeper level.
He really should be paying this level of attention to his wife, however.
24. He’s Interested in Your Personal Life
If he’s always asking about your family, friends, and, in particular, your personal life – it’s a sign he wants to pull himself deeper into your world.
Some people are like this with their friends, but it’s also likely to mean he is crossing that line and likes you more than a friend.
Pay particular attention if he’s trying to get information about your love life and relationships, that’s also overstepping the line.
Related – Here are 19 serious red flags that a guy is playing you.
25. He Goes Hot and Cold on You
This is a classic sign that someone likes you but isn’t sure how to act on it – married or not.
If he’s constantly changing his attitude towards you and acts like he can’t make up his mind about how good of friends you are, he’s struggling with some of his emotions towards you.
It might be confusing and frustrating, but the best thing you can do is give him space and let him figure out where his head is at for himself!
So, there you go, I’ve covered 25 Signs a married man likes you more than a friend.
How many of these were you checking off or thinking, “Wow, that sounds exactly like how he’s behaving towards me!”?
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.