If you get the feeling your teacher is flirting with you, maybe they are!
It’s not appropriate for teachers to get involved with students, but it doesn’t stop some teachers from flirting.
If you like your teacher or think they’re flirting, there will always be signs.
Here are 10 signs a teacher is flirting with you to look out for:
- 10 Signs a Teacher Is Flirting With You
- 1. They Always Greet You by Name and With a Smile (and Not Other Students)
- 2. You Catch Them Looking at You a Lot and Smiling
- 3. They Have Been Giving You Very Generous Grades and Marks
- 4. They Ask You How You’re Doing and If You Need Help a Lot
- 5. They Find Excuses You Talk To You Alone
- 6. They Ask You Personal Questions
- 7. They Find Excuses to Touch You in Friendly Ways
- 8. They Tell You They’ll Miss You When You Are No Longer in Their Class
- 9. They’re Following You on Social Media
- 10. They Write Personal Notes on Your Papers
- Do Teachers Have Crushes on Students?
- Should You Do Something if Your Teacher Is Flirting with You?
10 Signs a Teacher Is Flirting With You
1. They Always Greet You by Name and With a Smile (and Not Other Students)
It’s not unusual for a teacher or tutor to greet students as they enter the room, it’s only polite.
But if you notice that your teacher is focusing on you and giving you a much warmer greeting than other students, this is a classic sign of subtle flirting.
There is a huge difference between simply saying “Hi [name]”, and “Hey [name], how are you today? *smiles*”
2. You Catch Them Looking at You a Lot and Smiling
If you gaze up during class and frequently catch your teacher gazing at you and then they smile when you lock eyes, that’s another classic sign of flirting.
It could be that they find you attractive and hard to resist looking at, or rather that they are trying to establish a connection with you.
This is especially common in one-on-one situations like private tutoring sessions.
3. They Have Been Giving You Very Generous Grades and Marks
Another way a teacher will send signals that they’re interested in you and are flirting is by giving your grades a lift.
If you’ve been a C-grade student and suddenly you’re getting As, it might not just be because you’ve improved.
It could be that your teacher is trying to get on your good side.
Obviously, it feels great to get good marks and that’s their intention, but it’s important to keep a level head and ask them to mark you fairly.
4. They Ask You How You’re Doing and If You Need Help a Lot
If your teacher frequently asks how you’re doing and if you need help, it’s a good indication they want to get closer to you.
This is another way teachers use their positions to build a connection and develop deeper trust with their favorite students.
It’s also a good opportunity for you to open up to them about any problems you have, although I don’t recommend calling them out for flirting!
5. They Find Excuses You Talk To You Alone
If your teacher starts making excuses to talk to you alone, it’s a pretty clear sign they’re interested in you.
It could be that they need to “go over your essay” with you, or they want to ask how you’re finding the class.
But if it happens frequently and they make a point of talking to you when no one else is around, it’s definitely flirting.
6. They Ask You Personal Questions
Another way to spot a teacher flirting is if they start asking you personal questions that are beyond the scope of class.
Questions about your love life, your family, your hobbies, and your interests are all signs that they want to get to know you better.
It’s perfectly normal for teachers to be interested in their students, but if they start prying too much it’s definitely crossing the line over to flirting.
7. They Find Excuses to Touch You in Friendly Ways
If your teacher starts finding excuses to touch you in friendly ways, it’s another sign they’re flirting.
This is treading into some risky territory and can land them in a lot of trouble, but if they can’t resist then the attraction must be strong.
Their actions could be anything from brushing past you to a light touch on the arm when they’re talking to you.
8. They Tell You They’ll Miss You When You Are No Longer in Their Class
If your teacher tells you they’ll miss you when you’re no longer in their class, it’s a sign that they have feelings for you and are already thinking about how much they’ll miss you.
It’s a sweet gesture and can be taken as an innocent comment, but it can also fall into the category of flirting and a way of saying they want to keep in touch with you.
9. They’re Following You on Social Media
It’s not appropriate for teachers to seek out students online and follow their social media profiles.
If your teacher has done this, and more so if they’re commenting on your posts, liking your pictures, and interacting with you this is a big step.
They may not say anything that you can take as flirting, but by simply following you and interacting via social media when you’re apart they’re showing an interest much deeper than a platonic teacher/student one.
10. They Write Personal Notes on Your Papers
A final way to tell if your teacher is interested in you and flirting is if they write personal notes on your papers.
Teachers have an excuse to write personal notes, they can simply put something on your papers and other documents they need to hand you.
If your teacher puts a smiley face and a little note, maybe something like, “awesome work as always, you’re a star!” it sounds like you’re getting special treatment.
Do Teachers Have Crushes on Students?
While it’s not appropriate for teachers to act on their feelings, it’s perfectly normal for them to have crushes on students.
It’s important to remember that they are human after all, and it’s only natural for them to be attracted to someone they see every day.
If you think your teacher might be interested in you, the best thing to do is to keep it professional and maintain a respectful distance.
It’s not worth risking your future and their career just for a fling, so it’s best to keep things platonic within the setting where you’re a student and they’re your teacher!
Should You Do Something if Your Teacher Is Flirting with You?
The important part of the answer to this question is that you should only consider doing something if everything is legal where you live.
There are laws in place to protect students from advances by teachers, and if you think your teacher is breaking those laws then you should absolutely speak up.
You should also consider how you would feel if the roles were reversed and it was a student flirting with a teacher.
It’s not appropriate and can make the teacher feel uncomfortable, so if you wouldn’t want it happening to you then don’t do it to someone else.
There is a difference between playful flirting and flirting with the intention of pursuing someone, and that’s also a line that needs to be considered.
It’s certainly a difficult topic, and it’s not something I can give you an answer on without knowing more about you and your situation.
It may be that you’re a mature student and are the same or similar age as your teacher and you develop feelings for one another over time.
I’ve heard of some really cool and cute stories where two adults have met under these circumstances and things have worked out great.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.