She likes me but talks to other guys.. this is the predicament a lot of guys find themselves in.
If you’re into a girl and you’re sure she likes you too, it’s confusing and frustrating when you find out she’s talking to other guys.
Before assuming she’s leading you on or playing you, you should take some time to figure out what her motivations are.
What Does It Mean When a Girl Talks to Other Guys?
There are a few possibilities when it comes to what it means when a girl talks to other guys.
One possibility is that she’s just being friendly and doesn’t have any romantic interest in the other guys.
Another possibility is that she’s interested in other guys, but she’s still interested in you too.
The last possibility is that she’s completely over you and has moved on.
So, What Should You Do if You’re in This Situation?
Well, the first thing you need to do is figure out why she’s talking to other guys.
If her motivations are innocent, then there’s no reason to worry – you can just continue pursuing her and see where things go.
It’s possible she’s just friendly and social. I bet that’s one of the things that drew you to her in the first place, right?
If her motivations are more malicious, then you’ll need to decide whether or not you want to continue trying to date her.
When girls talk or flirt with other guys knowing it’s making other guys jealous, they know they’re playing with people’s emotions – and it makes them feel good.
It’s a sure sign that she’s either not as into you as you thought, or that she enjoys seeing you – and possibly other guys – fighting for her.
There’s no easy answer, and it all depends on what you want and how much you’re willing to put up with.
But, if it’s clear that she’s messing you around, it’s best for your mental health that you take a break from chasing her.
How Do You Know if a Girl Is Talking to Multiple Guys?
There are a few ways to tell if a girl is talking to multiple guys.
First, if she’s always busy and doesn’t have time for you, she might be juggling conversations with other people.
Second, if she’s always vague when she talks about her conversations with other guys, that could be a sign that she’s hiding something.
Third, if she’s always talking about how much she likes this other guy, it could be a sign that she’s trying to make you jealous.
Fourth, if she’s always flirting with other guys in front of you, that’s definitely a sign that she’s playing games.
If you’re seeing any of these signs, it’s probably time to confront her about what’s going on.
If she’s honest with you and tells you that she’s talking to other guys, then you can decide whether or not you want to continue dating her.
If she’s not honest with you, then it’s probably time to end things.
How Do You Know if You’re Being Played by a Girl?
If you suspect – or know – that a girl is talking to other guys at the same time as talking to you it’s possible you’re being played.
Some of the signs to look for that a girl is playing include:
- She always has an excuse for why she can’t see or talk to you.
- She’s always busy and never has time for you.
- She’s always vague when she talks about her conversations with other guys.
- She never invites you to her house or social events with her.
- You’ve heard rumors circulating from friends that she’s cheating.
- She doesn’t acknowledge you on social media
If you’re seeing any of these signs, it’s time to confront her about what’s going on.
If she admits that she is talking to other guys, these signs suggest that more is going on than just ‘talking’.
Should You Put Up With a Girl Talking To Other Guys?
It’s ultimately up to you whether or not you want to put up with a girl talking to other guys while she’s still seeing you.
Some guys might be content with just having a girl they can talk to, while others might want more commitment from the girl.
If you’re not comfortable with her talking to other guys, then you might want to end things.
If you are content with just having a girl to talk to, then you can continue pursuing her and see where things go.
It’s really not something I can answer for you, and I wouldn’t want to push you to make a decision that you later regret.
What I will say is; go with a combination of what feels right in your heart, and what feels right based on how you can see she’s treating you.
You deserve to be treated with respect, not messed around, and made to chase a girl that has a number of guys running around after her.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.