When a guy asks you if you’re seeing someone, it can be a pretty loaded question.
What does he mean by it? Is he just trying to be friendly, or is he interested in you?
In this article, I’m going to give you some tips on how you can use a guy’s body language and better understand why he’s asking you if you’re single!
Why Would a Guy Ask if You’re Seeing Someone?
There could be a few reasons why a guy would ask if you’re seeing someone.
Maybe he’s just trying to be friendly and make conversation. Or, maybe he’s interested in you and is trying to see if there’s potential for a relationship.
If the guy has been paying attention to you, he may have noticed that you’re not currently dating anyone.
This could be because you’ve mentioned it in conversation, or because he’s seen you out and about without a date.
If the guy is interested in you, asking if you’re seeing someone is a way of gauging your interest level – even if he knows the answer.
If you say that you’re not seeing anyone, it’s very likely he will see this as a green light to pursue a relationship with you.
So, I’m not suggesting you lie, but you should think carefully about how you answer him.
If you say that you are seeing someone, for example, the guy should back off and not chase you in a romantic way.
Related – Why some guys don’t ask questions about you.
What to Say When Someone Asks if You’re Seeing Someone?
Well, the first thing you need to do is figure out why he’s asking and think about how you want the relationship between the two of you to go.
If he’s just being friendly, there’s no harm in responding positively and continuing the conversation.
However, if you’re single and it’s obvious the guy is interested in you but you’re not interested in him, it might be best to be polite but evasive.
You could say something like, “No, I’m not seeing anyone right now, but I’m happy how I am” or “I’m not looking for anything serious.”
This will let him know that you’re not interested without being too rude.
If the guy is really persistent and won’t take no for an answer, then you might need to be more blunt.
You could say something like, “Sorry, I’m not interested” or “I’m not looking for a relationship right now”, or even “I’m not, and I would hate to ruin our friendship if you’re suggesting anything.”
Generally speaking, however, being honest is almost always the best way to answer a guy when he’s probing if you’re interested in him.
The worst thing you can do is be vague and leave him hanging on to some false hope!
Body Language When a Guy Asks if You’re Seeing Someone
There are a few things with a guy’s body language you can look for to help you figure out the guy’s intentions when asking you if you’re single.
If he’s not making good eye contact and seems a little nervous or acts like he’s been building up to asking you, he’s asking for himself.
A guy will also try to get close to you, and may even reach out and touch you to make a physical connection if they like you.
On the other hand, he may just be a confident guy, but if he asks you in a flippant way it’s more likely he’s just interested but not necessarily for himself.
A friend who is interested is also likely to ask at any time. Whereas if a guy is interested in you, he will probably pick a quiet moment when you’re alone.
This will lessen the embarrassment if you say you’re taken or tell him you’re not interested in him.
If it’s completely obvious that he’s not interested in you in a romantic way but he’s interested in your love life, the guy might be asking on behalf of one of his friends.
Related – What it means when guys use your name while texting.
Signs a Guy Wants to Ask You Out
Now that you know what to look for, it’s time to learn how to spot when a guy is trying to ask you out.
There are definitely some signs a guy wants to ask you out!
If he’s been paying close attention to you, and especially if he knows about your personal life, it’s likely he’s interested in you.
He may also try to make a physical connection with you, by getting close or touching you.
If he’s already been asking about your hobbies or interests, and especially if he’s tried to mirror your interests back to you, it’s likely he wants to ask you out.
If the guy has been making good eye contact and seems really interested in what you have to say, it’s possible he wants to ask you out!
So those are some tips on how to deal with a guy who asks if you’re seeing someone – if you’ve been waiting for him to ask, go forth and date!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.