Interested in a guy? Wondering if he’s interested in you? Are you wondering what the signs he wants you to chase him are?
These are all normal questions when two (or maybe just one) people like each other and aren’t sure how to progress to the point of asking the other out.
It always sounds a little crazy to talk about it, doesn’t it? We tend to think when we’re in this situation we’ll just walk right up to someone and let them know how we feel.
Let’s be honest, how many times have you done that?
That initial phase that I call the “chase phase” still happens. More so if a guy is a little shy, self-conscious, or just isn’t sure how to approach you.
In addition to this, some guys love being chased. They will do everything in their power to get a woman to chase them – even if that means blowing hot and cold.
If you’re trying to figure out the body language and social signals for a guy you’re interested in – and think is interested in you – here are 6 signs he wants you to chase him:
He’s Made It Obvious He Likes You, but He Stops There
If he’s made it obvious he likes you, he’s done the roping in part. If he’s stopped there; maybe he thinks you’re not as interested (?), or maybe he’s shy.
Either way, he’s waiting for you to make the next move. Because guys that don’t want or need to be chased would not waste time after making it obvious they like you to advance your relationship.
If this extends to small gifts and other showings of affection, but still no direct action. They really do want you to put some effort into the chase.
If you’re interested, at this point there’s no reason not to chase. Unless that is, you’re being a little stubborn. But I’ll leave it up to you to decide on that one.
He’s Blowing Hot and Cold
Guys that blow hot and cold are frustrating. One minute they’re into you, the next you see them hanging out with other women… it’s hard to understand what signals they’re sending you.
This is usually a classic sign that they’re playing hard to get. They push a little, pull a little, and see how you react.
A simple way to test this is to do as they want, show them a little interest. If this piques their interest and they start blowing more ‘hot’ than ‘cold’, you know they’re seeking the chase.
He’s Jealous and Interested in Your Love Life
Most guys find it hard to hide when they’re jealous. So, I’m sure you’ve picked up this if a guy is jealous of what you’re getting up to.
The real question is; why would he be jealous anyway? Because he’s interested in you, that’s why.
If he’s not showing he’s interested or putting in much effort, it’s because he wants you to chase him. Jealousy is a lot harder to hide than the fact that he wants you to pursue him, that’s for a fact.
What you do with this is up to you. It can be a dangerous game flirting with or dating other guys, he may push him too far in the other direction.
He Goes Out of His Way to Contact You
There is a big difference between being polite and chatting when you see someone – and going out of your way to bump into them.
If a guy is going out of his way to text you, start conversations, bump into you, compliment you, or do anything else that gives you the impression he likes you without actually making a move, it’s a sign he’s waiting for you to do something.
In his mind, I’m sure he thinks he’s made it perfectly clear he’s interested. Now he’s waiting for you to do something so he can be sure you feel the same or he’s not wasting his time.
He Tries to Make You Jealous
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you think, or know a guy is interested in you – only to see him with another woman?
It’s confusing, right.
For some guys, this feels like the best way to get you to want them more. And, if you really are interested, you’re probably going to do something about it. Especially if you know he’s into you.
It’s another frustrating element of the chasing and hooking up phase, but if you’re really interested in the guy you know you have to do something, else you risk losing him.
Trying to make you jealous is a sure sign he wants you to chase him.
Related – 11 signs someone really likes you.
You’re Dating – but He Doesn’t Call You
So, you’ve got to the point where you’re going out for dates and it’s going well. Your man is perfectly attentive, thinks about you, makes an effort, is romantic….
But he doesn’t call you or arrange another date.
It’s not a nice feeling. But it is a classic sign that he likes you, but wants you to be the one doing the chasing and putting in the effort to progress the relationship.
Frustrating? Yes. Unfair? A little.
It’s just how some guys are. This doesn’t mean you can’t do something about it though. Talk to him, let him know you shouldn’t have to do all the chasing. See what he says.
Will a Man Chase You if He Wants You?
Some men won’t chase women. There are a number of reasons why; it may be due to their personality, maybe they’re too shy or nervous, it might be a pride thing, the list is endless.
What’s important is that you’re able to pick up on the signs that a guy wants you to chase him, so you know where you stand.
What Happens When You Stop Chasing a Man?
Doing all the chasing is hard work, right? If you stop chasing and putting in the effort, there is a chance that you will lose their interest.
Some guys will do the opposite, they will fear losing you and will put in the effort themselves. It’s something you will have to evaluate in the guy you’re interested in because let’s be honest, if most men are one thing – it’s unpredictable.
Do Guys Like Being Chased?
Most do, yes. For most people – and this might be true of you – it feels good to be chased. It shows that the person doing the chasing is really interested in the other person, it’s reassuring.
On the other hand, for the person doing the chasing, it’s not always fun….
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.