Some people are better than others at making friends and there is nothing wrong with that.
Having good friends is awesome though, I’m sure we can all agree on that.
So, the last thing you want to do is miss the signs that someone is trying to be your friend and get closer to you!
If you think you’re bad at picking up on social cues, here are 15 signs someone wants to be your friend:
15 Signs Someone Wants to Be Your Friend
1. They Ask to Meet up Again
If someone enjoys hanging out with you they’ll want to hang out again or more often.
There is no set rule, but if you’re hanging out with someone it’s fair to say that you’re friends, right?
If someone keeps asking to meet up and you’re not sure if they just want to be friends or more, ask yourself how often they reach out and initiate plans and if they follow through or not.
If they’re initiating the two of you meeting up and hanging out, they want to be friends.
2. They Are Interested in You and Ask Questions About You
If someone is interested in you and is a good listener, this is a classic sign that they want to be your friend.
Friends care about each other. They want to know about you and what makes you tick, and it’s a great feeling.
If someone is constantly asking you questions about your life and family, it’s safe to say they want to get to know you better and be friends.
3. They Give You Friendly Compliments
There is a difference between flirty compliments when someone is romantically interested in someone and friendly compliments.
If someone says things like, “I like your outfit,” “You’re funny,” or “You’re really smart,” they are trying to give you a compliment and be friends with you.
Friendly compliments are great because they make you feel good and show that someone cares about you. I’d be friends with anyone willing to throw compliments my way!
4. They Tell You About Things You Have in Common
Most friends, and certainly the best friends have a lot of things in common.
The more you have in common with someone, the more of those shared interests you can enjoy together, talk about, and so on.
If someone is pointing out that you have similar interests, it sounds like it’s drawing them in and they think you can be good friends.
5. They Open up To You About Personal Things
This is a big one.
If someone trusts you enough to confide in you about personal things, they either want to be your friend or think they already are!
People don’t usually open up about personal things to people they don’t trust or feel comfortable with, so if someone is confiding in you it means they see you as a friend.
6. They Offer to Help You out With Stuff
If someone offers to help you with something this is a big deal as it shows they’re willing to give up their time to help you out.
This is something only a friend would do.
It doesn’t matter if it’s something big or small, like helping you move house or offering to help you with some paperwork or running you to the shops.
If they’re willing to give up their time you should take this as a compliment and it shows that they’re a caring individual.
7. They Text You and Check in On You when You’re Apart
When you’re friends with someone, they care about you and will want to know how you’re doing even when you can’t see them in person.
It doesn’t take a lot to drop someone a text and see how they’re doing, but I’m sure you’ll agree it feels good.
If someone you know already does this for you, I’d consider them a friend.
8. They Let You Know if They See or Hear About Something You’d Like
In the same vein as thinking about you, someone who drops you a message to let you know about something they think you’ll like is also a friendly thing to do.
This could be something like letting you know a band you like is playing locally, a TV show they think you’ll like is on, and so on.
It’s a sign that they’re thinking of you and willing to reach out and tell you.
9. They Make Themselves Available for You
If someone makes themselves available when you ask and is willing to drop what they’re doing for you, they’ll make an awesome friend.
Although, if you need help with something and ask a potential friend, and they say they can’t because they’re busy, that’s okay.
You can’t expect them to always be willing to drop everything, but knowing they’re willing is enough to know they want to be friends.
10. They Are Willing to Stick up For You
This is also a big one that I’m sure you’ll be able to relate to.
Most of us only stick up for people we care about, especially in a very defensive way.
If someone is willing to go to bat for you, whether it’s standing up for you in an argument or actually getting into a physical altercation, they definitely see you as a friend.
I just hope you’re willing to do the same for them!
11. They Refer to You as ‘Mate’, ‘Bud’, or Similar
If someone has started using friendly terms and names for you like ‘mate’ or ‘bud’, this is a good sign that they see you as a friend.
It’s more personal than just saying your name and shows that they’re comfortable enough with you to use friendly terms.
For further clarification just pay attention to how they refer to others, both friends and general acquaintances.
12. They Tell You They’re Happy They Met You
If you’ve made a good impression on someone they might feel the need to let you know by telling you they’re happy they met you.
This is a great way of them showing you that they like you without being too forward about it and wanting to be friends.
They’re probably seeing what you’ll say back, too, so don’t miss this opportunity to tell them that you appreciate them, too!
13. They Tell You They Enjoy Hanging out With You
This is another way someone will gauge how you feel about being friends and make it clear that they want to see you again and start hanging out.
It’s nice that they’re willing to be so forward about how much they enjoy hanging out with you.
It makes your job easier if you want to be friends and hang out more, simply tell them you love hanging out too and the two of you should do it more!
14. They Introduce You to Their Friends and Family
If someone has started introducing you to their friends and family, this is a very good sign that they want to bring you closer into their world and be friends.
This is a big deal for some people, and it’s not something to take lightly.
Once you get to know their friends and family your social circle will overlap with theirs a lot more.
15. They Take Photos with You and Post About You Both on Social Media
We live in a world where what we see on social media says just as much – or more – about us and our friends than real life.
If someone is happy to post photos of the two of you on social media, this means they’re proud to know you and want others to know that you’re friends.
This is also a good way of them publicly announcing that they want to be your friend without having to say it outright.
So, there you have it, 15 signs someone wants to be your friend and are giving you the green light to call them a good friend!
At the end of the day, if you’re still unsure if someone wants to be your friend or just how much of a good friend they see you, you should ask them!
It’s not that big of a deal to ask someone where you stand. I think more often than not someone would be flattered to be asked if they’re ‘officially’ a friend!
Image credits – Photo by Kinga Cichewicz on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.