If your ex is angry at you it can be difficult to figure out if they’re angry because they still want you, or if they’re actually over you.
However, there are always signs that will help you figure out how they’re feeling – if you know what you’re looking for.
To help you decipher your ex’s feelings toward you, here are some things you should look out for:
Is My Ex Over Me or Just Angry?
First of all, you need to be able to spot the signs that confirm – or deny – your ex is over you, then get to the bottom of their anger.
Here are 10 of the most obvious signs that your ex is over you and therefore their anger isn’t based on wanting you back:
10 Signs Your Ex Is Over You
1. They Blocked You on Social Media
If your ex blocks you on social media, it’s a pretty clear sign they don’t want to see what you’re up to or care about how you’re getting on with your life.
They might be trying to protect themselves from the hurt of seeing you moving on, but it’s more likely that they’re moving on and are over you.
2. They Don’t Contact You
If your ex used to be in constant contact with you and now they never call, text, or email you – it’s a sign they don’t want to hear from you.
They might have even told you outright that they never want to hear from you again.
I can’t tell you the reason or how they’re feeling, but I can tell you that it’s a strong sign that they’re drawing a line and moving on.
3. They Have Returned All of Your Stuff
If your ex has returned all of your stuff – or gotten someone to do it for them – it’s a sign they want nothing more to do with you.
It might be painful to see all of your things being returned, but it’s a very clear sign that they’re over you and don’t even want to hold onto a memento.
4. They’ve Moved on To a New Relationship
If your ex has moved on to a new relationship, it’s a strong indication that they’re over you.
If they try to make you jealous by flaunting their new relationship in your face, this might mean they’re not totally over you but if they simply quietly move on, it’s a classic sign that they have.
5. You Never See Them Around
If you never see your ex around anymore – whether that’s at work, social events, or wherever you used to see them, it’s not a coincidence.
They’re making a point of avoiding you because they don’t want to see you.
It might be painful, but it’s a sign that they’re over you and have moved on with their life.
6. They Don’t Even Flaunt Their New Relationship
If your ex has moved on to a new relationship and they don’t even try to make you jealous by flaunting it in your face, it’s a sign they’re really over you.
If you find that you’re the one trying to find out what they’re up to and how they’re doing, maybe you’re the one who hasn’t fully moved on.
7. They Are Happy for You to Move On
If your ex is happy for you to move on and encourages you to do so, they’re definitely over you.
This can feel strange at first and it’s not normal behavior from an ex, but it’s something you should take notice of if you’re questioning their motivation.
8. They’re More Committed to Their New Partner than They Were with You
If your ex is more committed to their new partner than they were with you, it’s a sign that they’re over you.
Maybe they’re already engaged, doing things and going places they wouldn’t with you, or something else.
It doesn’t matter what it is, if they’re more committed to someone else than they were with you – they’re over you.
9. They Don’t Even Return Your Messages
If you’ve tried to contact your ex and they don’t even return your messages, I think it’s fair to say they have other things on their mind.
If you’re not a priority to them, they’ve moved on.
It might be hard to hear, but it’s the truth.
10. Their Friends and Family Tell You They’ve Moved On
Sometimes it’s hard to read what your ex is thinking and they might not be opening up to you.
Another way of finding out is by speaking with their friends and family members.
If they are telling you that your ex has moved on, it’s probably true.
5 Reasons Why Your Ex Might Be Angry Toward You
If your ex is clearly angry towards you but all the signs are pointing to the fact that they’ve moved on, it means something else is making them angry.
Some of the most common explanations are:
1. They Feel Hurt About the Split
If your ex feels hurt about the split, it’s natural for them to be angry with you.
It doesn’t matter who ended things or what happened and it doesn’t mean they aren’t over you or want you back.
It simply means they have some unresolved anger and they’re directing it towards you.
2. They’re Dealing with Some Mental Health Issues
It’s possible that your ex is dealing with some mental health issues, like stress, which is making them angry.
Just because they’re acting angry towards you it doesn’t mean that it’s only you they’re angry with or that it has anything to do with you.
3. They’re Trying to Push You Away
They might be using anger as a way to push you away if they feel like you’re getting too close again or not taking a hint that they want to move on.
It’s a way some people will push their ex away without having to tell them directly that they don’t want to see or talk to them anymore.
4. You’re Misinterpreting Their Attitude
Sometimes, people can misinterpret their ex’s attitude and think they’re angry when they’re actually not.
If your ex is being distant or ignoring you, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re angry with you.
They could just be busy or not ready to talk.
It’s important to give them space if you can feel like something is up, especially if you’ve not long split up.
5. They Have Some Personal Issues Not Related to You
Your ex might have some personal issues going on in their life that have nothing to do with you but are making them angry.
It could be to do with their new relationship, work, family things, there are a whole number of possibilities.
You know them better than anyone, you might be able to figure it out or help them, but it’s probably better if you give them space and let them sort out their issues.
I’m sure they’ll reach out to you and ask if they need you.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.