I hear it all the time; “he hasn’t contacted me in a week, what should I do?”
If you like a guy and he’s stopped contacting you or it feels like he’s ghosting you, I know how anxious you must feel.
You’re in a tough spot though, you don’t want to come across as needy or desperate – but you need to know where you stand.
Here’s how to best handle this situation:
Check if He’s Been Active Online or With Friends
The first thing you should do is check if he’s been active online or with friends.
There is a chance that he has been busy, has lost your number, or might even think he was waiting for you to contact him!
Just browse his social media and see what he’s been up to. You could even ask his friends if he’s doing alright – just don’t be too stalkerish or nosey.
It’s Ok to Reach out To Him After a Week
If you haven’t heard from him after a week, it’s ok for you to reach out to him.
You can start with a simple text like, “Hey, I haven’t heard from you in a while, is everything ok?” He’ll either respond or he won’t – but at least you tried.
Don’t be confrontational or put it on him for not texting you, keep the tone light and pleasant.
Be Prepared for The Fact that He’s Not Interested
Unfortunately, if a guy has been giving you silence for a week there is a chance that he’s just not interested.
Maybe you didn’t have enough of a connection or maybe he met someone else, it’s hard to say.
Whatever the reason, it’s best to be prepared for this possibility.
Don’t take it too personally and try to move on as quickly as possible. He wasn’t the right guy for you if he’s not interested in you.
Figure out If He’s Playing Games with You
There is also a chance that he’s playing games with you.
He might be trying to see how long it takes before you reach out or maybe he wants to see if you’ll get jealous.
Either way, this isn’t the kind of guy you want to be with. He’s not interested in an adult relationship, only in himself.
If He Replies to You Accept What He Says
If he does reply to you after a week of silence, take what he says at face value.
He might say that he’s been busy or that he lost your number – believe him.
He’s not obligated to give you a full explanation and if he doesn’t want to, don’t push it.
But keep in mind that this guy is unreliable and capable of disappearing for weeks at a time.
Ask yourself if you’re OK with that kind of behavior from a friend or a boyfriend, and let your answer contribute to how much effort you put in with him.
Is a Week a Long Time to Not Hear from A Guy?
If he hasn’t contacted you in a week, it depends on how close you are to him to decide if it’s a problem or not.
If you’re just dating or in the early stages of a relationship, it’s not that big of a deal.
He might be busy with work or school and will reach out when he has time.
If you’re in a long-term relationship or married, not hearing from your partner for a week is definitely cause for concern.
How Long Is Too Long to Not Hear from Someone?
If you haven’t heard from someone in over a week, it might be time to reach out and check-in.
Again, it depends on your relationship with the person and how close you are to them.
If it’s someone you just met or don’t know too well, a week is probably not that long.
But if it’s someone you’re close to, a week is definitely too long to not hear from them.
Should I Break up With a Guy Who Doesn’t Text for A Week?
If a guy you’re dating doesn’t text you for a week, it’s probably not worth your time to continue dating him.
He might be busy, but if he’s interested in you he’ll make time to reach out. Let’s be honest, it really doesn’t take more than a few seconds to just send a text.
If he’s not interested or is playing games, it’s best to move on.
There are plenty of other guys out there who would love to date you and will be more attentive to your needs and value you more.
He Hasn’t Contacted Me in Two Weeks, What Should I Do?
If a guy hasn’t contacted you in two weeks, it’s time to reach out and check-in with him to at least just make sure he’s OK.
He might be busy, but if you’re close then he should at least let you know that he’s alive and well.
If he doesn’t want to talk or is playing games, it’s best to move on. He’s not worth your time or energy if he can’t even be bothered to text you back.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.