When a guy asks if you are sleeping with anyone it’s a forward, loaded question.
Still, there are a few reasons why he might be asking you this and it might not just mean he’s interested in you.
It’s best to weigh up all your options and look for other body language cues before you answer.
Here are the possible explanations and reasons why a guy will ask if you’re sleeping with anyone!
5 Things It Might Mean When A Guy Asks if You Are Sleeping with Anyone
1. He’s Really Into You and Want’s to Know if You’re Taken
This is the most obvious reason why a guy would ask such a personal question, and I’m sure it’s what most of you are thinking.
If a guy asks if you’re sleeping with anyone, it shows that he wants to know if you’re single so he can go ahead and ask you out.
It’s a little bit of a crude way of asking, I’ll admit. But this is how some guys choose to ask to cover all bases such as having friends with benefits, etc.
2. He’s Asking for A Friend
On the same line of reasoning, a guy might be asking you if you’re sleeping with someone on behalf of a friend.
After all, it’s a pretty bold question to ask.
It’s very similar to asking someone out, so a lot of guys will not have a friend do it on their behalf in case they hear something they don’t want to!
3. He Wants to Be Friends with Benefits
A guy might ask this question rather than asking if you’re seeing someone in a girlfriend/boyfriend situation as he just wants something casual himself.
Wording it this way certainly gives the impression that he’s more interested in a physical relationship than he is a long-term one.
4. He Thinks You’re Seeing Someone and This Is How He Asks
A guy might think you’re already seeing someone and he’s trying to gauge whether or not you’d be interested in seeing him too, instead of, or just want to hear it for himself.
This is different from a guy just coldly trying to find out if you’re seeing someone or not.
It’s a bit more brazen as he thinks you are seeing someone but is still willing to ask so he can hear it for himself.
5. He’s Trying to Be Funny/inappropriate
The final possibility is that a guy is just trying to be funny or inappropriate and this is his way of doing it.
It’s not the most tactful way of going about things, but some guys just want to get a reaction out of you.
He might think it’s funny to see how you react or he could be trying to gauge your sense of humor.
On a plus side, inappropriate questions like this are one is a way of trying to get to know someone better in a short amount of time!
What You Should Say When A Guy Asks if You’re Sleeping with Anyone
Now that we’ve gone over the reasons why a guy might ask such a personal question, here is some guidance on how to answer.
First of all, the most important thing to remember is that you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to.
It’s a very personal question and you should never feel like you need to answer someone if you don’t want to – no matter if he’s a friend or not.
Secondly, you need to decide if you like the guy and want to let him know that, or if you don’t like him and don’t want to give him the wrong impression.
If you like the guy, you could say something like:
“I’m not sleeping with anyone at the moment, are you?”, or
“I’m not involved with anyone, but I’m open to offers!”
This makes it clear that you’re not sleeping or seeing anyone and shows that you’re interested in him in a (slightly) subtle, flirty way.
On the other hand, if you don’t want anything to do with the guy who’s asking, you could say something like:
“That’s a bit personal, don’t you think?”, or
“That’s none of your business!”
Both of these answers make it clear that you’re not interested in him and don’t want to answer such a personal question.
Related – How to respond when asked ‘what do you think of me?’ or ‘are you mad at me?’
The Body Language Cues to Look for That Shows He Likes You
While it’s a very personal question, asking if you’re sleeping with someone, as explained above it still doesn’t mean that the guy is into you.
If you want to be sure he likes you before putting yourself out there, you should look for some other social cues, body language signals, and other signs that he likes you.
Some of the classic signs to look out for are:
- He’s always around you and finds ways to turn up to places where you are
- He finds excuses to touch you in a playful or friendly way
- You catch him looking at you a lot and he shoots you a cheeky smile when you catch him
- He’s always available when you need him and is constantly offering to help you out in some way
- He’s always trying to make you laugh – even if his jokes are a bit cheesy!
- He likes spending time with you and makes it obvious he can’t wait to see you again
- He talks about things he knows you’re interested in and remembers important and cute things about you
If you pay attention to how this guy is behaving, I’m sure you’ll pick up on some of the signs that this guy likes you – or doesn’t!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.