What does it really mean when a guy asks ‘what do you think of me?’
Should you tell him what you really think about him? Does he want the truth, or can he handle the truth?
The truth is: there are a few different reasons why a guy would ask you to tell him what you really think of him.
The issue is, if you want to progress your relationship with him in a direction that you’re both looking for, it’s important you answer him in the right way!
Reasons Why a Guy Would Ask ‘What Do You Think of Me?’
There are a few reasons a guy would ask you what you think of him.
Here are some of the most common ones:
- He Wants to Know If You Like Him
- He’s Afraid You Don’t Like Him
- He Wants to See If You’re Interested in Him
- He Wants to Know What Your First Impression Was
- He’s Too Shy to Tell You He Likes You First
It’s a pretty forward question to ask, for most guys it takes a lot of courage to ask this question – especially to someone they have feelings for.
So, How Should You Respond?
The answer to this question really depends on what your intentions are with the guy who asked you.
Are you looking for something serious with him? Or is he just a friend that you’ve been flirting with?
Your answer should also be based on how well you know him and how long you’ve been talking.
If you’re just getting to know him, you don’t want to give him the wrong idea by being too forward.
On the other hand, if he’s a close friend that you’ve been flirting with for a while, you don’t want to play games and lead him on.
The best way to answer this question honestly is to simply say something like, “I think you’re a really great guy and I enjoy spending time with you.”
This shows that you like him without giving away too much information. It also leaves the door open for further conversation about your thoughts and feelings!
If a guy is forward enough to ask you what you think of him, he’s going to be forward enough to take your answer and respond with what his feelings are!
Pay Attention to the Guy’s Body Language When You Answer Him
This is clearly an emotionally-charged question, so my advice is to pay close attention to how the guy reacts when you answer him if you want to know how he feels about you.
- Is he leaning in towards you or pulling away?
- Are his arms crossed or are they open?
- Is he smiling or does he look nervous?
- Does he subconsciously nod or shake his head?
This will give you a better idea of how he’s feeling and whether or not your answer is what he was hoping to hear.
However, the most important thing to remember when answering this question is to be honest and not change your answer just to avoid upsetting him.
If you’re not interested in the guy, don’t lead him on just to be nice. Honesty is always the best policy!
If You Don’t Like Him That Way, Reassure Him Someone Else Will
If you don’t have romantic feelings for the guy who asked you this question and it’s clear this is the direction it’s going, it’s important that you let him down easy.
The worst thing you can do is to give him false hope or lead him on. This will only end up hurting him more in the long run.
The best way to respond in this situation is to say something like, “I think you’re a really great guy, but I don’t think we’re compatible in that way.”
This shows that you still think he’s a catch but makes it clear that there isn’t going to be anything romantic between the two of you.
Reassuring him that someone else will love him for who he is will help take away some of the sting of rejection.
Point out some of the things that are great about him, and how plenty of other girls long for a guy with his qualities.
It may feel like you’re being a bit patronizing or rejecting him a bit too directly at the time.
But honestly, it’s best for the both of you that you can be open and honest with each other, you’ll become much better friends for it.
Plus, when he’s had time to dwell on what you’re saying I’m sure he’ll have a boost of confidence that he does have a lot going for himself and he just needs to find the right person!
The bottom line is that you should never feel bad for being honest with someone about your feelings. If they can’t handle the truth, that’s their problem, not yours!
Image credits – Photo by Sara Dubler on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.