Do you consider yourself to be a confident person?
Do you say “sometimes”?
Confidence is an intangible essence that is the difference between being scared, and feeling authoritative and able to tackle anything.
When you feel confident, you don’t see challenges as something that you can’t overcome. You see yourself as unstoppable, and see the path laid out far ahead for you.
On the other hand, if you lack confidence you feel afraid. Challenges seem impossible to overcome, and it’s difficult for you to see ahead into the future.
We all come across challenges in our lives that make us question our confidence. I have certainly faced a lot of challenges, and it can make us question our confidence.
There are lots of tasks that require confidence, especially to achieve them well. People with low confidence can struggle with anything from small daily tasks, to important tasks that their futures hinge on.
If a work presentation, a job interview, or maybe approaching that special someone is just way too much for you to do, a boost in confidence will help. While there is no quick fix, there are a number of things you can do to work on your confidence.
Think about some of things you may be missing out on due to lack of confidence. Opportunities, friendships, relationships, life-experiences, it’s certainly worth the sacrifice of going through the process to work on your confidence.
Here are 10 strategies to help you work on your level of self-confidence
Step out of Your Comfort Zone
Most of us have a comfort zone, and whether we think about it or not we don’t step out of it often. But stepping out of your comfort zone is the only way you’re going to increase it. Sure, it’ll feel difficult at first, and maybe even embarrassing, but that’s fine.
It’s not supposed to be easy, but you will benefit greatly. You’ll start to grow as a person, you’ll gain new skills and experiences, and you being to feel more confident. Remember, the first step is the hardest, every step thereafter will be easier.
Be Yourself and Embrace the Good and Bad
You can’t control other people’s opinions and thoughts of you, it’s very hard to be someone else around people for a long period of time – and why would you want to? Obviously you want to come across well, but this should happen naturally.
Find out who you are and what makes you feel comfortable. Dress how you want to, and live your life by what feels right to you. Of course you have to comply with rules etc but ask yourself if you are truly coming across as yourself.
Face You Fears
We all have fears and concerns, and some may seem silly to other people. But fear is fear, no matter what it’s about. But the key is to not let fear control you, you need to control your fear.
This is easier said than done for a lot of people. But we can all face up to and overcome our fears. Make a list of some of the things you’re scared of, and start thinking about how you can conquer the least fearful first. You’ll experience a liberating and confident boosting effect.
Stop Trying to Be Perfect
It’s easy to read the news and watch TV shows and see what looks like perfect people, with perfect lives. This isn’t a realistic, obtainable option. Everyone has their problems, no matter what they look like from the outside.
It’s ok to make mistakes, and its ok for people to see you’re not perfect. It will endear people to you more than push them away. Take some risks, don’t over-think things, and be spontaneous. You will be pleasantly surprised by the results.
Remind Yourself You’re Great
Having self-acknowledgement and appreciating yourself are key ingredients in pushing you to achieve more. You are most likely the only thing holding yourself back from doing the things you want to do.
Make a list of all the qualities you have that you, and other people value. I bet there are a lot, read through the list whenever you feel down or question yourself. You are great, and you can achieve great things when you put your mind to it.
Find What Makes You Feel Energized
Confidence is about the mind and the body. Have you ever noticed how something’s make you feel physically energized? Find out what these things are, maybe it’s seeing a friend, competing at a sport, or watching something motivational.
Do more of what makes you feel energized, and use the energy for positive things. Exercise, and sports are a great way of building confidence and you continually improve on your goals.
Be Aware of Your Body Language
Our body language says a lot about us, and often gives away some hidden traits that we think we’re keeping secret. Standing tall, with shoulders back and not slouching shows you’re confident before you’ve even opened your mouth.
Being confident can be contagious. If you are folding your arms and slouching, other around you will follow suit. Likewise, being confident can help lift the spirits of others.
Be More Assertive
Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive. This is not to be confused with being outspoken and demanding, always weigh up a situation and be sensitive to people’s feelings.
There’s nothing wrong with asking for what you want. You will never know what you can get or achieve without trying or asking, so go ahead. Be confident in yourself, and take opportunities.
When faced with a challenge you have the choice, think about the worst case scenario, or think about the best case scenario. Those who only think about positive outcomes achieve them more than those who don’t; fact.
Obviously you cannot just meet the impossible head-on, take some risk into account. But visualize a positive outcome, see yourself achieving it and what it would feel like. Confidence gives you the ability to over achieve, harness it by thinking more confidently.
Don’t Be Too Hard on Yourself
Much like not trying to be perfect, don’t be too hard on yourself if you make mistakes. Mistakes are there to be learnt from, not dwelled over. Everyone makes mistakes, it’s those who get up, dust themselves off, and try again that achieve.
Be confident in your abilities and believe in yourself. You won’t make the same mistake twice. But you know what, even if you do it’s not the end of the world. Don’t let your past hold you back from your future.
I hope there is some useful information here if you want to work on your level of self-confidence.
Confidence can be achieved, take it step by step and you will get to the top of the mountain that previously looked impossible.
Any additional tips or comments are more than welcome, I wish you the best.
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.