When my husband quit his job without telling me, it caused a lot of problems in our marriage.
I didn’t know what was going on, and he had no idea at the time how he was going to support us financially or emotionally.
The good news is that we came out of the other side even better than we were before.
My husband found a job he likes much more than his last one, he’s earning more money, and our marriage is stronger.
It wasn’t without some rocky times though – quitting a job is definitely something that should be discussed as a couple so you can both be properly prepared!
If your husband has suddenly quit his job without telling you, here’s my advice for how you should support him and put your family first:
Find Out Why Your Husband Quit His Job
If your husband suddenly quits his job without telling you, it will almost certainly be a shock.
But it’s important you keep your emotions in check (the best you can) and start to unpack the situation to fully understand why he quit his job, and how he’s feeling.
- Was he unhappy with his work?
- Did he get fired?
- Is there more to the story: was misconduct involved?
- Is he having financial difficulties?
- Does he have personal problems?
Once you know the reason, you can give him the necessary support and help him find a new job or deal with the other issues in your marriage.
But without him being honest and opening up as to why he quit his job, as well as facing up to the pressure this puts on your marriage – you can’t fully support him.
Why Quitting a Job Should Be a Joint Decision
In a marriage, big decisions like quitting a job shouldn’t be made without first consulting your partner.
This is because it can have serious implications on your finances, emotional wellbeing, and relationship.
Plus, it’s possible that your partner can help provide the emotional or professional support you need to stick with your job.
Sometimes, it can feel like the world is crashing down around you and there is no way out other than quitting or making a life-changing decision.
Yet, that can all quickly change when you speak with someone close to you who is willing to hear your problems, offer support, and tell you that things really aren’t that bad.
Even if he has to quit his job, if you’ve spoken about it as a couple you can at least come up with a plan to deal with the situation – instead of him just dropping everything and leaving you to share the fallout.
It’s understandable that sometimes people need to make impulsive decisions, but when it comes to something as major as quitting a job, it’s always best to involve your spouse so you’re both on the same page.
How to Support Your Husband After He Quits His Job
If your husband has recently quit his job, it’s important to show support – even if you don’t necessarily agree with his decision.
Here are some things you can do to support him:
- Talk about the situation and why he quit his job. It’s important to get to the root of the problem so you can understand how best to support him.
- If he’s feeling down, be there for him emotionally. This is a tough time for both of you, and he’s likely feeling just as lost and confused as you are.
- Help him look for a new job. This may involve sending out resumes, going on interviews, or networking.
- Assist with any financial difficulties. If your husband has quit his job without another one lined up, you may need to help with bills and other expenses.
- Take some time for yourselves. This is a stressful time, so make sure to schedule some quality time together as a couple. This can be anything from watching a movie to going on a date night.
By following these steps, you can support your husband while he looks for a new job and helps him deal with the fallout from quitting his job.
Remember, this is a difficult situation for both of you, so try to be understanding and patient as he goes through this tough transition.
Despite what it feels like, I bet quitting his job was not an easy decision, he’s likely carrying much more guilt than he’s letting on to you.
How Unemployment Can Affect Marriage
The loss of a job can be devastating, not just for the person who lost their job, but also for their spouse.
Unemployment can put a strain on any marriage, as it can cause financial difficulties, emotional stress, and communication problems.
If your husband has recently lost his job, it’s important to be supportive and understanding.
Try to work together to overcome the challenges you’re facing so you can come out stronger as a couple.
In times like this, marriages often go through a rough patch. If your husband is feeling down or depressed, this could quickly spiral if you’re not there to support him.
Don’t blame him and tell him that he could have handled the situation differently.
What’s happened has happened, you need to let him know that it doesn’t matter and you’re going to look forward and make sure things turn out the best they can.
If you’re feeling like you’re struggling and you can’t do this alone, don’t hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate this difficult time.
No matter what challenges you’re facing in your marriage, remember that there is always support and help just a phone call away.
For some, that means their own support network of friends and family, For others, it’s professional help.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.