If you’re involved with a player and you know he’s a player, you know the risks you’re taking.
However, it’s not unheard of for a player to change or fall for someone – it has to happen at some point!
If you think he’s falling for you, here are 20 signs a player has feelings for you and what it means for your relationship:
20 Signs a Player Has Feelings for You!
1. He’s Wanting to Spend More Time with You
Players are busy and they will often put up barriers and not want to spend more time with one woman as they don’t want to get attached.
If they do get attached, however, they’ll want to spend more time with you and less time with other women.
This means he’s showing you more of him than just a physical hookup, he’s open to taking you on dates, to events, and other things you never used to do.
2. He’s Starting to Open up About His Feelings
Some guys are good at putting on a front and pretending their care, but few will change over time into sensitive and caring guys unless they feel it.
If a player is starting to fall for you he will want to share more about himself and his life with you.
He’ll open up about his feelings, his past, hopes for the future, and other things he’s usually tight-lipped about.
This sharing shows that he trusts you enough to confide in you and that you’re having an effect on him!
3. He’s Protective Over You
You expect a boyfriend, husband, or partner to be protective over you, but it’s not always the case with a player.
However, if he’s starting to have feelings for you then he will want to keep you safe and sound and will naturally feel protective over you.
The big thing to pay attention to is that he’ll be protective over you in public or in front of others, essentially making it known that he likes you.
4. You Spend Time Texting or On the Phone when You’re Apart
Players are notorious for being hard to contact when they’re not with you, because, well, they’re out being players.
So, if a player is happy to talk on the phone and text a lot when you’re apart, it just goes to show that he’s falling for you.
Basically, it means he wants to keep the connection alive when you’re not together and that he’s missing you.
5. He’s Honest About Being a Player and Says He Feels Bad
You will rarely hear a player admit to being a player, and it’s even less likely they’ll say they feel bad about it.
So, if a guy has done both of these things then it’s a sign he’s developing feelings for you.
Being honest about feelings isn’t easy for most guys, so it’s a great sign. Essentially this is his way of telling you that he doesn’t want to hurt you.
Now, this doesn’t mean he’ll suddenly change his ways, but it’s a good sign that he has feelings for you.
6. He’s Been Introducing You to His Friends
Players tend to be secretive about their lives and will not introduce their partners to their friends as this is likely to get them caught out.
It’s hard for them to keep all their stories together, and even more so have their friends cover their backs.
If he’s introducing you to his friends this is actually a huge deal for a player and a definite sign that they’re developing feelings for you.
7. He Invites You to His House
This is another thing that could bring his whole game down if he’s not careful, so going to a player’s house is a big deal.
A player will usually avoid inviting women to their home as they don’t want anyone snooping around or getting too comfortable.
So, if he’s inviting you into his personal space then that means he likes you and trusts you.
8. He Talks About a Future with You
Players are all about the present, they live for the moment and don’t really think about the future.
However, if a player is starting to have feelings for you then he will start to talk about a future with you.
This could be in the form of long-term plans or even just little things like what you’re doing next weekend.
It might not seem like a big deal, but trust me, it is.
9. He Gets Jealous About You Spending Time with Other Men
Even if a player doesn’t want to show it, if he likes you he will definitely get jealous about you spending time with other men.
He might not say anything, but he’ll definitely be keeping an eye on you and who you’re talking to.
This is his way of trying to keep you all to himself and a sure sign that he has feelings for you.
I know what you’re thinking, “Oh, the irony, a player doesn’t like seeing me talking to other guys.”
That says it all, he’s no longer playing you without feelings coming into the mix.
10. He’s Making More Effort with You
If a player has been making more effort with you over time then it’s a sign that he likes you more than he used to.
This could be in the form of him actually listening to you when you’re talking or arranging to see you more often.
It might not seem like much, but if you look back and notice a change it’s a sign his feelings have been increasing towards you.
11. He’s Remorseful About His Player Ways
This is a big one, because it’s not often you’ll hear a player express remorse about being a player.
If he’s telling you he’s sorry for the way he’s treated other women and that he doesn’t want to do that to you, it means he cares about you.
He might be spinning you a story, but it’s certainly worth taking notice of to see if he’s developing feelings for you.
12. He Drops His Plans and Makes Time for You
Players are typically self-centered and think of themselves first as they’re always out and about meeting new women.
So, if he’s suddenly canceling plans or rearranging things to see you instead, then it’s a sign he likes you and is giving you priority.
He might not say it outright, but actions speak louder than words.
13. He’s Not Always Doing Secretive Stuff on His Phone
Players do most of their secretive work on their phones, I’m sure you’ve noticed your guy hiding what he’s up to on his mobile.
If a player is suddenly being more open with his phone and not hiding it away or doing secretive stuff on it, then it’s a sign he is not playing around as much and dedicating his time to you.
14. He Gives You Thoughtful Compliments
Players are smooth, most of them are good at giving compliments and saying all of the right things.
But there is a big difference between a regular compliment and a deep, thoughtful compliment that really makes you feel good.
When a player starts to give you compliments that are more meaningful, it’s because he’s starting to see you in a different light and has deeper feelings for you.
15. He Tags You on Social Media
For a player, keeping their profile low online is important and they don’t want to commit to someone or give too many signals that they’re taken.
If a player is tagging you, liking your content, and generally making it known online that he likes you, this is a very positive sign that he’s into you.
16. He’s Genuinely Interested to Learn More About You
When a player starts to want to know more about you, it’s because he’s interested in you as a person and not just for what you can do for him.
He’ll want to know about your hopes, dreams, and what makes you tick.
This is a sure sign that he has feelings for you.
17. He Tells You how You’re Different from Other Girls
Players are often with a lot of different women and know how to sweet talk them all.
But, if he’s telling you that you’re different and his behavior is also backing this up, it’s possible that he’s telling you the truth!
18. He Tells You He Misses You when You’re Apart
Again, this could just be lip service but if you’ve known the guy for a while and his attitude has been changing towards you over time, you should take notice.
If he’s telling you that he misses you when you’re not together, it means that he enjoys your company and feels something more than just physical attraction when he’s with you.
19. He’s Told You that He Has Feelings for You
The most obvious sign of all – he’s come out and said it!
If a player is telling you that he has feelings for you, then it’s pretty safe to say that he does.
He might not be ready to fully commit yet, but at least you know where you stand.
20. You Can Just Feel that He’s Falling for You
Sometimes, you just know.
If you have a gut feeling that he’s falling for you, then chances are he is.
Pay attention to the way he looks at you, how he treats you, and what he says to you.
If all of these things are pointing to him having feelings for you, then chances are he does!
Players can be tough to read, but if you know what to look for, there are usually telltale signs that they’re starting to develop feelings for you.
So, if you’re wondering if your player is falling for you, pay attention to these 20 signs and see if he’s giving off any of them!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.