Are you tired of your boyfriend but still love him?
I hate to say this, but sometimes love isn’t enough – especially if you’re not getting the same amount of love back from your boyfriend.
If your boyfriend isn’t putting as much into the relationship as you are, it’s understandable that you’re tired.
You deserve more, too. A lot more.
Here are some of the signs that you’re tired of your boyfriend and what you should do about it:
Can You Love Someone and Be Tired of Them?
It’s definitely possible to love someone, yet at the same time be tired of being with them.
If you’re constantly putting all your effort into the relationship and not getting anything back, it’s normal to feel tired and worn down.
You should never have to beg for attention or affection from your boyfriend. Neither should you be putting up with any nonsense, doing all the chores, etc.
A relationship is a two-way street and if he’s not giving as much as you are, it’s not balanced.
This can lead to feeling exhausted and like you’re putting all the work into the relationship – which isn’t fair.
Signs You’re Tired of Your Boyfriend
If any of the following signs sound familiar, it might be time to reconsider your relationship:
- You no longer look forward to seeing him or spending time with him
- You find yourself making excuses not to see him
- You don’t enjoy his company as much as you used to
- You find yourself getting annoyed with him more often than not
- You always expect him to make excuses for things
- You’ve stopped asking or relying on him for anything
These are all very obvious negative signs that you’re running out of patience in dealing with your boyfriend messing you around.
I shouldn’t have to tell you that in a loving, fulfilling relationship, you should be feeling the opposite of all of the above!
Signs that You’re Giving More to Your Relationship than Your Boyfriend
Being tired of your boyfriend is one thing, but feeling that you’re giving a lot more than him to the relationship is incredibly draining.
Some of the signs that you’re putting in more effort than he includes:
- You’re always the one initiating contact or plans
- You feel like you have to beg for his attention
- He doesn’t make any effort with your friends and family
- He never takes you out on dates or does anything special for you
- You always have to pay when you go out together
- When you’re hanging out he’s more interested in playing video games or he’s on his phone
These are just some of the signs that show he’s not really bothered about you or the relationship.
Your boyfriend might need to grow up, he might be disinterested in the relationship, or maybe he’s just selfish and doesn’t realize.
It’s hard to speak on his behalf and explain why he’s behaving like this. But one thing I do know is that you shouldn’t have to put up with it.
I know how much it hurts to consider leaving him after everything you’ve invested and how much you love him, but sometimes it’s just the right thing to consider.
Can Your Boyfriend Change?
It’s hard to say whether or not your boyfriend can change.
But one thing I do know is that unless you tell him how you’re feeling, he’s not going to feel the need to change.
And even then, you have to be prepared for the fact that it might not make a difference.
You could try giving him an ultimatum, but at the very least you should sit down and have a serious talk about your relationship.
But if he doesn’t listen or take your concerns seriously, then that’s a huge red flag.
It might be time to move on if he can’t change or make an effort to improve things between the two of you.
How Do You Know if It’s Time to Break Up?
There’s no easy answer to this question.
If you’re being taken advantage of and putting a lot more effort into the relationship than your boyfriend, you need to trust your gut and your heart.
You’ll know when the time is right.
Ending a relationship is never going to be easy, but if you’re tired of your boyfriend it might be the best thing for both of you in the long run.
Plus, this might be exactly the kick up the butt he needs to get his act together!
It’s a shame it has to come to this, but a lot of women find that when they finally stand up to their boyfriends and tell them enough is enough, they suddenly want to change!
Whether you decide to cut ties and move on or give him another chance, it’s not going to be easy, but you need to do what’s best for yourself.
Sometimes a little space is healthy, too. It will give both of you a chance to reflect on your relationship and see how you feel when you’re apart.
Here’s Why You Deserve More From Your Relationship
I’m here to tell you that you’re an amazing girlfriend and you deserve to be with someone who loves you, respects you, and makes you feel like the most special woman in the world.
No one should be taken for granted in a relationship.
Sure, we all slack a little over time, that’s normal. But there is a huge difference between getting comfortable and taking advantage of a partner.
If your boyfriend is not as committed to the relationship as you are and shows no signs of changing, you should seriously consider moving on.
I know you love him, but you can’t ignore the fact that you’re tired of him.
You need to be with someone who makes you feel good about yourself, not someone who drains your energy and makes you question your worth.
And, I can guarantee that person is out there 100%. But guess what, you’re not going to find them until you make space in your life for them.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.