Is your husband nicer to other women than he is towards you?
I’m sure it hurts when he behaves like this in front of you, and I’m here to tell you it’s not something you should put up with.
Your husband is entitled to be nice to other women, but he should treat you like a princess in comparison!
Here are some of the reasons why some guys are nicer to other women and what you should do about it:
Ask Your Husband Why He’s Nicer to Other Women than He Is to You
The first step is to talk to your husband about why he’s behaving this way.
There could be a perfectly innocent explanation, such as he grew up around women and feels more comfortable talking to them than men.
He may not even be aware that he’s doing it.
On the other hand, he could be trying to hide something from you or make you jealous.
If your husband doesn’t have a good reason for why he’s being nicer to other women, then you need to have a serious conversation about how this is affecting your relationship.
It’s not something you should have to put up with, especially when it’s happening in front of you and other people when you’re out together.
I’m sure it’s just as embarrassing to you as it is confusing and frustrating.
Explain How This Makes You Feel
Telling your husband he’s behaving in a certain way is one thing, making him realize how his behavior is affecting you is another.
Sit down with him and explain that it hurts your feelings when he talks to other women more than he talks to you.
If it makes you feel like he’s not interested in you, or that you’re not as important to him as other people are, get that across to him.
It should be obvious that this kind of behavior can make a person feel like they’re not good enough for their partner, and that’s something no one deserves to feel.
Your husband should understand and be sympathetic to how his behavior is making you feel and take steps to change it.
If he doesn’t, then that’s a huge red flag that something else is going on.
Is It Your Husband’s Way of Flirting with Other Women?
Some guys are willing to flirt with other women in front of their partners, which is obviously even more disrespectful.
This is a form of emotional cheating and it’s something you shouldn’t tolerate.
If your husband is flirting with other women, whether it’s online or in-person, you need to have a serious talk about what he’s doing and how it makes you feel.
It’s possible he doesn’t see it as a big deal, but it’s clearly a huge deal and it’s not acceptable behavior.
Flirting is a form of cheating, and if your husband doesn’t see it that way then he’s not respecting your feelings or the relationship.
You deserve better than that.
Don’t Let Him Brush It Off
Some guys will try to downplay their behavior or brush it off as no big deal.
Don’t let him get away with that!
If your husband is being nicer to other women than he is to you, it’s a big deal and you have every right to be upset about it.
This is something that needs to be addressed, and you shouldn’t let him sweep it under the rug.
If he tries to flat out deny it’s happening or make out like you’re overreacting or crazy, don’t settle for that.
This is a form of gaslighting and he’s using it to manipulate you and get greater control over you so he can carry on behaving how he wants.
What to Do If Your Husband Is Nicer to Other Women Than He Is to You
If you’ve talked to your husband about how his behavior is affecting you and he doesn’t seem to care or understand, then it’s time to take some action.
You might want to consider couples counseling if your husband is willing to try it.
If not, then you need to decide what’s best for you and your relationship.
It’s not healthy or normal for your husband to be nicer to other women than he is to you, and you deserve to be treated better.
Sure, I’m willing to give some guys the benefit of the doubt if their wife has never spoken to them about it.
But once you’ve spoken to your husband and explained how it makes you feel, if he doesn’t apologize and make some changes to how he treats you, something is definitely off with him.
Never React In The Moment
I just want to add that no matter how annoying or embarrassing it is when your husband is putting on the charm in front of you with other women, you shouldn’t react in the moment.
I know it can be hard, but try to keep your cool and wait until you’re alone with him to discuss how you’re feeling.
Yelling or arguing in front of other people is only going to make the situation worse and could damage your relationship even more.
So just be patient, take a deep breath, and wait until you are both alone to talk about it.
This way, if he wants to make you jealous, he’s failed. It also shows the other women that you’re secure with your husband (even if that’s not quite the case)!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.