If your wife is lazy and unmotivated, it’s incredibly frustrating and can bring you down too if you’re not careful.
How you handle this depends on your situation, but as a supportive husband, you should try and help get her out of her slump.
Sometimes, people really need the support and motivation of those around them to help them perform at their best.
Here are 11 tips to help you get to the bottom of your wife’s problems and help motivate her!
Help – My Wife Is Lazy and Unmotivated! 11 Tips To Motivate Her!
1. Have a Heart-to-Heart
If your wife is being lazy and unmotivated, it’s likely there is an underlying reason and it may even be that something is weighing heavy on her mind.
The best way to find out is to have a heart-to-heart chat with her and see if she opens up about what’s going on.
I’m sure your wife wants to be more active and happier, it’s just hard to get out of a rut once you’re in it.
However, the best way to get out of that rut is by addressing the reasons behind why she’s so unmotivated.
This may be because she’s depressed or feeling down, she hates her job, has some personal issues, medical issues, or something else.
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2. Help Her Address the Root Cause
Once you know the root cause of your wife’s laziness and lack of motivation, you can help her address it.
For example, if she’s depressed, you can help her seek professional help or look into therapy options.
If she hates her job, see if there is any way to change her situation at work or help her find a new job.
If she has medical issues, help her get the treatment she needs.
You need a starting point, simply asking her to snap out of it isn’t going to work. Neither is being frustrated with her or nagging her to stop being so lazy.
3. Don’t Let Her Demotivate You
It’s important that you don’t let your wife’s laziness and lack of motivation demotivate you.
Laziness and a lack of motivation are contagious, so you need to keep positive and not let it affect you.
You need to be supportive and understanding, but also firm in your resolve to help her get out of this funk.
If you start feeling down yourself, it will only make things worse and she’ll feel even more unmotivated.
Keep a positive attitude, be patient, and don’t give up!
4. Don’t Shame Her or Hold It Against Her
You also shouldn’t shame your wife for being lazy or unmotivated. This will only make her feel worse and more likely to stay in her slump.
Try not to hold it against her, she’s probably already beating herself up enough as it is.
Instead, be understanding and supportive. Let her know that you’re there for her and that you want to help her get out of this funk.
Shaming her will only make things worse, so try to be understanding and take a methodical approach to helping your wife improve her mental health.
5. Lead by Example
One of the best ways to motivate your wife is to lead by example.
If you’re always lazy and unmotivated, it’s going to be hard for her to get out of that mindset.
But if you’re active and always striving to better yourself, she’ll be more likely to want to do the same.
Show her how her life will be enriched by taking part in activities with you, give her reasons to get up and go, and most importantly, don’t stop chasing your own dreams and goals.
6. Try and Get Your Wife to Exercise With You
Exercise is a great way to improve your mood, increase energy levels, and boost motivation.
Exercise releases endorphins and other hormones that promote a general feeling of well-being and make us feel good both physically and mentally.
It’s also a great way to spend time together as a couple and get healthy at the same time!
So, one of the best things you can do is try and get your wife to exercise with you.
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7. Set Some Small Goals at First
When anyone is feeling lazy and unmotivated, it’s much more difficult to tackle a large task than it is a small one.
This is why it’s important to set some small goals at first.
Start with something simple, like getting her to take a walk with you around the block, start a good book, or join a local community.
Once she accomplishes any of these goals, she’ll feel a sense of accomplishment and be more likely to take on larger, more regular tasks.
It’s one step at a time. Everyone will have their own pace and limitations, but as long as you’re there to help, I’m sure she’ll be able to take those first steps.
8. Show Her You Love Her
As frustrated as you might be right now, don’t forget to show your wife how much you love her.
She’s probably feeling pretty down about herself right now and could use all the love and support she can get.
So, make sure you take the time to tell her how much she means to you and how much you appreciate her.
A little bit of love goes a long way. Think about surprising her with a nice gift, leaving her a cute note, anything that will put a smile on her face.
9. Try and Find Some Hobbies You Can Do Together
One of the best ways to motivate your wife is to find some hobbies you can do together.
This way, she won’t feel like she’s alone in her struggle and you can both bond over a shared activity.
It doesn’t have to be anything too strenuous, just something fun that you can enjoy together.
If she has a competitive streak, even better. Hopefully, you can set some goals or targets and end up challenging each other!
10. Hold Each Other Accountable
One of the best things you can do to motivate your wife – or anyone for that matter – is to hold each other accountable.
If she’s lazy and unmotivated, it’s likely that she isn’t going to push herself very hard if at all.
But if you’re there to help her stay on track, she’ll be much more likely to succeed.
Forming a mastermind that acts as an accountability group is something that helped me turn a huge corner in my business many years ago.
So, it’s something that I always recommend to people and it works just as well for personal goals as it does business goals.
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11. Don’t Be Afraid to Seek Professional Help
If you’ve tried everything and nothing seems to be working, don’t be afraid to seek professional help.
It could be that your wife is dealing with some serious underlying mental issues that are causing her laziness and lack of motivation.
In which case, it’s best to get her some help from a professional who can deal with those issues directly.
This is always going to be a hard topic to bring up, and even more difficult to get her to attend any form of help session.
After all, the nature of being demotivated means your wife is going to find it hard to find the motivation to seek help – it’s a vicious circle!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.