Does your husband want to live with his parents and leave the family home he has with you and your kids if you have any?
Obviously, this is devastating news to anyone who wants to keep their family unit together.
Once you’ve gotten over the disbelief, anger, sadness, and all the other emotions that come with the news that your husband wants to move you – you need to make sure you fully understand his motivations.
There is no worse feeling than not knowing exactly what your husband wants from his life, and from you.
At the same time, you deserve to know how he feels, why he wants to move out, and what the future holds for you two and your family.
Find Out Why Your Husband Wants to Move In With His Parents
You need to know why your husband wants to move in with his parents.
This might sound obvious, and it is, but there is a chance that he’s not going to be completely honest about what he’s feeling.
Some of the common reasons why a guy decides to go back and live with his parents are:
- He’s not happy with the current state of your relationship
- He feels like he’s not doing well enough at work or in life in general
- He wants to save money by living with his parents
- He doesn’t feel like he can be a good husband or father right now
- He’s going through some sort of midlife crisis
- He wants to look after his aging parents or they may need support
If you can get to the bottom of why your husband wants to move out, you’ll be in a much better position to figure out what to do next.
You need to know if this is something that he really wants, or if it’s just a phase that he’s going through.
Is there anything you can do to change his mind? Has communication come to a standstill between the two of you in recent weeks or months?
He may not be ready to talk about it openly right now, but he will at some point, and you need to make sure he knows you’re ready to listen when he does.
What Do You Do When Your Husband Loves His Family First?
It’s tough when your husband seems to love his family more than he loves you.
I’m sure you can’t help but feel like you’re second best and that you’ll never measure up.
However, it’s important to remember that your husband’s love for his family is not a reflection of his love for you.
If your husband wants to live with his parents, it’s important to have a discussion about why he thinks this is best for your family – or if he’s using it as a way to split up.
If you can come to an agreement about why this is the best solution for your family in the short term, then it will be easier to make it work.
If it’s becoming apparent that your husband wants to take a break from you, you’re going to have to give him that space to figure stuff out.
What Are the Signs That Your Husband Wants to Leave You?
If your husband wants to leave you, whether he’s saying he wants to move into his parents or not, it’s not going to be a sudden decision.
There will be signs that he’s thinking about it and that he’s unhappy in the relationship.
Some of the common signs that a husband wants to leave his wife are:
- He’s distant and withdrawn
- He’s less interested in being intimate
- He’s working longer hours or taking on more projects
- He’s hanging out with his friends more often
- He’s critical of you and your parenting skills
- He doesn’t want to spend time with you or the kids
If you notice any of these signs, it’s important to have a discussion with your husband about what’s going on sooner rather than later.
Not talking about these changes in his behavior is what will lead to him getting to the point where he says he’s moving out.
Moving into his parents might be the easiest, and the most comfortable way he can take that first step – which may have been avoidable if you’d both talked about the issues in your relationship earlier.
How Do Deal With Your Husband’s Interfering Parents
If your husband’s parents have always been involved in your relationship and you think it’s them pulling him to move in with them, it can be tough to deal with.
You might feel like you’re always walking on eggshells when his family members are around and that you can’t do anything right.
It’s important to remember that your husband is an adult and he needs to stand up for himself – and for you.
If his parents are constantly interfering and trying to persuade him to move in with them, it’s time to have a discussion about boundaries.
Your husband should be the one setting the limits on what his parents can and cannot do.
If he’s not willing or able to do that, then as hard as this is to accept, you need to take a step back and reassess your relationship.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.