When you’ve been dumped, it’s normal to wonder; how does the dumper feel after a month?
Do they regret what they did?
Do they feel bad?
Or, are they happy and moving on with their lives?
The answer is that everyone feels differently. But generally speaking, emotions will be riding high and a dumper will be feeling something – even if they hide it!
How Does the Dumper Feel After a Month?
As I touched on, everyone is going to feel differently so it’s hard to give you an answer, but I can help you better understand how a dumper feels after a month.
First of all, if you’re hoping someone who dumped you is at least feeling something, chances are that yes, they are.
It usually swings one of two ways though, the person who did the dumping will either feel regret if they’ve made the wrong decision or relief if they’ve made the right decision.
There is some ground in between, of course, they will almost certainly feel bad about doing the dumping, and hopefully, they’ll grow and learn from the experience.
Related – When does a break up really hit the dumper? Explained in this post!
How to Tell if A Dumper Feels Bad After a Month
If you’re the dumpee and want to know how your ex is feeling, there are some signs you can look for.
The most common one is that they’ll keep tabs on you – even if they pretend not to care, they’ll still want to know what’s going on in your life.
This could be through social media, mutual friends, or even just asking around.
If they’re feeling bad about the breakup, they might also try to talk to you or reach out in some way.
Of course, this could also be a sign that they want to get back together, so it’s important to be cautious and understand what you want from the relationship.
How to Tell if A Dumper Feels Relief After a Month
On the other hand, if a dumper feels relief after a month, it might be more difficult to tell.
They may act like they’re happier and more content than before – this could be because they are, or it could be an act to make you feel better.
Maybe they’ve moved on, too, which often makes a dumpee feel like their ex has happily moved on.
But this is often not the case.
Unless some time has passed, it’s likely they’re in a rebound relationship or they’re just trying to cover the loneliness.
The bottom line is that it’s hard to read someone’s emotions and understand how they’re feeling deep down.
Their actions give us clues and sometimes will reveal how they’re thinking, but it’s hard to be 100%.
How Do You Know if A Dumper Regrets Their Actions?
If you’re wondering if the person who dumped you regrets their decision, it’s best if you have a talk with them.
This can be difficult, and it might not give you the closure you’re looking for, but it will help put your mind at ease.
If you’re not on speaking terms, you could look at how they’re doing on social media or ask mutual friends.
But it’s hard to know how they’re really feeling on the inside without speaking with them.
Of course, if they’re reaching out to you and trying to reconcile, this is a pretty big sign that they’re having second thoughts!
How Does the Dumper Feel During No Contact?
If you’re in the no-contact period a lot of couples go through after a breakup, it’s likely that the dumper is feeling a range of emotions.
At first, they might feel relieved that the breakup is final and that they don’t have to deal with the drama (I’m sure there was some) anymore.
But this can quickly turn into loneliness and regret, especially if they realize they made a mistake.
It’s not uncommon for the dumper to reach out during this time, but it’s important to remember that not communicating for a set period after a breakup helps the both of you to clear your thoughts.
Going no contact is one of the tactics a lot of exes use to try and make their ex jealous or want them back, but I never advocate doing it for these reasons.
You want to create a healthy environment for both yourself and the person who dumped you.
Likewise, you only want them to want you back if it’s something that they feel deep down. Otherwise, you’re likely to find yourself on rocky ground again if you get back together.
Related – Here is when the dumper typically starts missing the dumpee!
How Does the Dumper Feel After 3 Months?
Typically, the more time that passes the more the emotions tied to breaking up will fade.
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “time heals all wounds.”
This is true, although everyone’s timeline for getting over a breakup is going to be different.
In fact, some people will never ‘get over’ a breakup or come to terms with it, while others will be able to put it behind themselves pretty quickly.
Three months is a decent amount of time, I think it’s fair to say that most dumpers are going to be thinking about moving on if they haven’t already.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that they don’t still have some residual feelings for their ex – after all, you probably do too!
Again, the only real way to tell is to speak with the dumper or those close to them.
Only they know exactly how they’re feeling.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.