If you’re brainstorming ways to get your ex back, you may be considering disappearing off social media to see if this makes them contact you.
For some people, this definitely works.
But it does come with downsides, especially if your ex doesn’t take notice that you’re no longer on social media!
Should You Disappear From Social Media to Get An Ex Back?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, unfortunately.
It depends on your situation, your relationship with your ex, and whether or not they’re the type of person to wonder where you’ve gone.
If you’re considering disappearing from social media to get your ex back, I’d ask yourself the following questions first:
- How long were you together?
- How attached are they to social media?
- Do they even use social media regularly?
- Are you confident they’ll notice you’re gone?
These are important questions to consider because they can help you predict whether or not your ex is likely to wonder where you’ve disappeared to.
And if they don’t wonder where you are, then there’s really no point in disappearing off social media!
Pros and Cons of Disappearing from Social Media
It’s not as simple as just dropping off of social media to see what happens.
Other people are going to wonder where you’ve gone, you might miss out on some important goings-on with your friends, and more.
So, before you pull an online disappearing act, I’d weigh up the pros and cons:
- If your ex was the one who broke up with you, disappearing from social media can make them wonder what you’re up to and whether or not you’re still interested in them.
- If you know that your ex follows what you’re up to on social media there is a good chance they’ll reach out and ask where you’ve gone.
- If you’re confident your ex will notice you’re gone, it’s a great way to find out if they care about you.
- If your ex wasn’t that attached to social media in the first place, they probably won’t even notice you’re gone.
- If you’ve only been broken up for a short time, disappearing from social media might make you look needy and desperate.
- All of your other friends and family are going to wonder where you’ve gone, and it might not be the easiest thing to explain.
I’m sure there will be some other things to think about specific to your own circumstances based on how you use social media.
The general rule here is to think much wider than just how your ex will react. Think about all of your friends and family.
Should I Disappear from Social Media After a Breakup?
Another way to look at this is that you might want to disappear from social media after a breakup to help get over your ex or at least deal with the emotions you’re feeling.
I’m not saying this is the right thing to do, but I know some people who have done it and they say it helped them immensely.
It gave them time away from social media to focus on themselves and their own healing process.
If you decide to take a break from social media, I would recommend doing it for a set period of time rather than indefinitely.
That way, you can come back when you’re feeling better and not have to explain yourself to anyone.
If you do decide to disappear from social media as part of your own healing process, remember that it’s not a competition.
You’re not trying to make your ex jealous or show them what they’re missing out on.
If you’re tactfully disappearing from social media to get the attention of an ex, however, that’s a different story.
Is Silence the Best Way to Get Ex Back?
If you’re considering disappearing from social media to get your ex back, I would say that it’s worth a try if you’re confident they’ll notice.
It’s not going to work for everyone, but it could be just the thing to make your ex realize what they’re missing.
The silent treatment, not just online but offline too, has always been an effective way to get an ex back – so it’s nothing new.
By going silent on an ex, you give both of you time to think about what happened in the relationship without the noise from each other.
If they do miss you, the silence or absence will only encourage them to crave you more.
The obvious downside is that if your ex doesn’t miss you or want you back they are not going to make an effort to contact you.
Either way, if you’re going through a break up I recommend taking a break from seeing and speaking to your ex if possible.
This time apart is only going to help the two of you get your feelings and emotions in order and discover what you really feel for each other.
Should You Avoid All Contact with Your Ex?
If you’re trying to get your ex back, then it’s probably best to avoid all contact with them.
The reason for this is because you want your ex to miss you.
You want them to wonder what you’re up to and why they haven’t heard from you in a while.
If you’re constantly texting and calling your ex, they’re not going to have time to miss you.
And if you keep bumping into them, it’s only going to make things more difficult for both of you.
So, if you’re wondering whether or not disappearing from social media is a good idea to get your ex back, the answer is yes – but only if you do it right.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.