Does your husband spend way too much time looking at other females on Instagram?
You’re not alone!
Loads of guys browse apps like Instagram looking at attractive women – not that this makes it OK, of course.
It’s not always a bad thing, however, or cause for concern.
But it is worth doing a little investigating to find out why your husband enjoys looking at women on Instagram.
Here is a rundown of why guys look at other women online and when it starts to become a problem:
My Husband Looks at Other Females on Instagram – Should I Be Worried?
As a woman and a wife, I know how it makes you feel when you find out that your husband is looking at other women online – like you’re not good enough for him.
It doesn’t always mean this is the case, however.
There is a big difference between browsing profiles and pictures of women online and the possibility that your husband is not happy with your relationship.
Still, it’s fine to do a little digging and find out why your husband enjoys looking at Instagram profiles and what he gets out of it.
To give you a general idea, the reasons why most guys look at women on Instagram include:
- Because the women are pretty and he enjoys looking at attractive women
- It’s a way to escape from reality
- It’s just something to do when bored and he stumbled across Instagram by accident
- He’s not feeling satisfied in his relationship with you and this is his way of riding the gap
Basically, it’s a way to look at other women without feeling guilty because he doesn’t think you’re going to find out – or he just doesn’t care.
A lot of guys justify this by telling themselves that they’re “not doing anything wrong”, or “it’s not like they’re looking at ‘real women'”, etc.
But it does hurt. It is showing that they’re not 100% focused on you, both physically and emotionally.
If your husband is becoming addicted to browsing Instagram or doing it instead of spending time with you, it’s clearly becoming a serious problem.
Related – How to deal with guys who ogle other women!
Why You Shouldn’t Compare Yourself to Instagram Models
When it comes to Instagram and other social media platforms, it’s important to remember that people only post their best moments.
It’s easy for anyone – men and women included – to get caught up in comparing their own lives to what they see on social media.
This can lead to feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, which is why it’s important not to take what you see on Instagram too seriously.
The same goes for when your husband is looking at other women on Instagram.
Just because he’s admiring their beauty doesn’t mean he’s not happy with you.
In fact, it’s more likely that he’s just appreciating the female form in general and not specifically looking for anything else.
Of course, if your husband is becoming obsessed with looking at other women on Instagram to the point where it’s negatively impacting your relationship, then you need to have a serious talk with him about it.
Looking at other women on Instagram – or any social media platform – isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
You’re going to have to take into account how much time your husband is spending doing this, how it’s making you feel, and how it’s affecting your relationship.
At the end of the day, if your husband cares about you he’s going to want to behave in a way that makes you happy.
Signs Your Husband’s Use of Instagram and the Internet Is Unhealthy
As mentioned above, there is a line between your husband looking at women online in a healthy way, and doing so in an unhealthy way.
If your husband is using Instagram and the internet too much, it might be time to have a talk with him about it.
Here are some signs that his use of social media is becoming unhealthy:
- He’s spending more time on Instagram than he is talking to you or spending time with you
- He’s hiding his phone from you or trying to keep his screen hidden
- He’s getting angry with you when you ask him about his Instagram activity
- He’s using Instagram as an escape from reality or to cope with problems in your relationship
- He’s spending more time talking to other women on social media than he is talking to you
If you’re noticing any of these signs, it’s time to have a serious talk with your husband about his social media use.
It’s also important to keep in mind that everyone is different and there is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to social media use.
Some people can handle using Instagram and other social media platforms without any problems, while others might need to take a break from it altogether.
It really all depends on how your relationship is being affected due to your husband’s Instagram use.
At the very least, you should talk about it openly with him and see what he has to say from his perspective.
You might be surprised by what he has to say, just as he might be surprised to find out that it’s affecting you in the way it is.
Communication is the key, as it is with any problems within a relationship.
If you’re both dedicated to coming to a healthy solution that makes you both happy, I’m sure you’ll be able to get there.
Image credits – Photo by Collins Lesulie on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.