He Didn’t Ask if I Got Home Safe (Why Some Guys Don’t Text)

I think it’s happened to most of us. We meet a guy, we go on a date, we have a great time… and then he doesn’t call to make sure we got home safe.

It’s frustrating, it’s confusing, and it can even be a little scary.

However, before jumping to conclusions, assuming he doesn’t care about you, and deleting his number from your phone – it’s worth hearing what he has to say!

Here’s a look at whether or not it’s normal to text a girl to check they got home safe, why some guys do it (and why some don’t), and what you might do differently in the future.

Should You Ask a Girl if She Got Home Safe?

So, the guy you were on a date with didn’t ask if you got home safe. Should he have?

It’s a valid question, and unfortunately, there isn’t a single answer that applies to everyone.

On the one hand, some people feel that it’s polite and considerate to check in after a date, especially if it was the first time you met.

After all, you would want to know if your friends or family made it home safe, so why not extend the same courtesy to someone you’re interested in?

On the other hand, others believe that asking a girl if she got home safe can come across as overbearing or even creepy. 

I’m not trying to make excuses here for a guy that hasn’t checked if you got home safe.

But like I said in the intro, it might be worth waiting a bit and hearing what he has to say.

He may have thought about texting you, and then thought it was better if he didn’t. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you or care about you, quite the opposite sometimes.

Related Here’s why it’s normal to get first date nerves!

How Can I Ask a Girl if She Arrived Safely to Her Home?

If you want to ask a girl if she arrived home safely, but aren’t sure how to go about it without sounding overbearing, here are a few tips:

  • Keep it casual: Instead of asking “Did you get home safe?” try something like “I hope you made it home okay.”
  • Make it about you: You could say something like “I was worried about you and just wanted to make sure you were safe.”
  • Send a follow-up text: If you didn’t hear from her after your date, shoot her a quick text the next day saying something like, “Had a great time last night, just making sure you made it home okay.” 🙂
  • Let her know you’re home: You could send her a text letting her know you’re home and she should reply when she is. Try texting, “What an awesome night, thanks again, just letting you know I’m home now!”

If you don’t hear back the same night, don’t panic or start sending more texts asking her if she’s OK. That’s the kind of behavior that’s going to come across as pushy.

What to Say When Someone Asks if You Made It Home Safe?

If someone asks if you made it home safe, there are a few different ways you could respond:

  • Thank them for their concern: You could say something like “Thank you for your concern, I made it home safe and sound.”
  • Assure them you had help: If you didn’t have to walk home alone, you could let them know by saying something like “I had a friend with me so I was never in any danger.”
  • Let them know you took precautions: If you took extra measures to make sure you got home safely (like taking a taxi instead of walking), let them know by saying something like “I took a cab so I didn’t have to walk home alone.”
  • Keep it brief: Sometimes the best response is simply to say “Yes, I made it home safe. Thanks for asking!”

No matter how the date went or whatever your relationship is with the person checking you made it home safe, you should always reply.

On a basic level, it’s common courtesy to reply. In addition to this, you know they’re anxious to know you’re OK, or they wouldn’t have asked.

Related – Here is what some common text speak means; ‘Yeet‘ and ‘haha‘ decoded!

Wrapping Up

At the end of the day, whether or not you choose to ask a girl if she got home safe is up to you.

Sure, it’s polite and courteous, but you need to take into account how well you know her, how the date went, and so on.

There are pros and cons to both sides of the argument. What’s important is that you make your decision based on what YOU feel comfortable with.


Image credits – Photo by Gabrielle Henderson on Unsplash

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