Is your coworker crush ignoring you? Are you struggling to figure out if they like you – or if they’re even aware that you have a crush on them?
It can be confusing – and frustrating – when someone you like ignores you.
In this article, I’m going to explain why your crush might be ignoring you, how being coworkers complicate things, and what you should do about it:
What Does It Mean When a Crush Purposely Ignores You?
Does it feel like your coworker crush is purposely ignoring you?
Oftentimes, people will do this because they’re either not interested in you – or they’re trying to send a signal that they want you to back off.
If your crush is ignoring you, it might be because:
- They don’t know you exist: This is common if you have a crush on someone who doesn’t work with you directly. If they don’t see you every day, it’s possible that they simply don’t know that you exist!
- They think you have a boyfriend/girlfriend: Sometimes, people will assume that someone is taken – even if they’re not – because they don’t want to risk getting rejected.
- They’re not interested in you: This is the most likely reason if your crush is purposefully ignoring you. If they’re not interested, they probably don’t want to encourage you by talking to you or spending time with you.
- They’re trying to send a signal: Sometimes, people will ignore someone as a way of telling them that they need to back off. If your crush is ignoring you, it might be because they feel like you’re getting too close for comfort and they need some space.
The confusing thing is that there is also the scenario in which a crush will ignore someone because they’re interested in them, but they’re too shy or feel embarrassed.
There are more reasons to suggest that they are trying to distance themselves from you though, so it’s best not to get false hope.
Related – 10 Signs your coworker crush likes you!
Why Having a Crush on a Coworker Can Cause Complications
If you have a crush on a coworker, it can cause some serious complications.
For one, it can be difficult to focus on your work when you’re constantly thinking about the person you like.
Additionally, if things don’t work out between you and your crush, it can make going to work every day incredibly awkward.
And finally, if you act on your feelings and your crush is not interested, it could lead to an uncomfortable workplace environment.
How Does It Feel To Have A Crush On Someone You Work With?
It can feel really good to have a crush on someone at work.
For one, it can add excitement to an otherwise mundane job. Additionally, it can give you something to look forward to during your workday.
However, it can also be really frustrating if you feel like you’re constantly being ignored or that your feelings are not reciprocated.
If you’re struggling with having a crush on a coworker, it might be helpful to talk to someone about it – whether that’s a friend, family member, or therapist.
Having a crush is tough – especially when the person you like is someone you have to see every day at work.
Over my many years working in the office environment, I can think of a number of crushes that ended up with a fairytale ending – so it’s hard for me not to smile when I see someone with a crush on a coworker.
How Can You Get Over a Coworker Crush?
If you know it’s for the best that you get over the crush you have on a coworker – but are struggling to – here are a few things you can do:
- Talk to someone about it: It can be helpful to talk to someone about your feelings – whether that’s a close friend, a trusted family member, or a therapist.
- Focus on your work: When you have a crush on someone at work, it can be difficult to focus on your job. However, it’s important to remember that your career is important and should be a priority.
- Spend time with other people: Spending time with other people – whether that’s friends, family members, or even other coworkers – can help take your mind off of your crush.
- Do something for yourself: Taking some time for yourself – whether that’s reading, going for a walk, or anything else that makes you happy – can help you feel better and get over your crush.
Getting over a coworker crush can be difficult, but it’s important to remember that your career should be a priority.
If you’re struggling to get over a crush, talk to someone about it, focus on your work, spend time with other people, and do something for yourself.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.