When a woman says ‘I’ve been thinking about you’ it’s certainly a good sign that she likes you.
You have to take context into account, of course, but if you like her, I’d say you should take a closer look for signs she likes you.
Here are 5 things it may mean when a woman says she’s been thinking about you and the signs to look for that she likes you!
5 Things It Means When a Woman Says I’ve Been Thinking About You
1. She Wants to Let You Know That She Likes You
This is the reason most guys are going to want to hear and it’s very likely that she is flirting or trying to let you know that she likes you.
There are a few ways to tell if this is the case.
First, consider how she says it.
Is she being playful? Laughing? Touching you while she says it?
These are all good signs that she’s interested in you and is trying to let you know in a light-hearted way!
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2. You’re Intriguing to Her – But She’s Not Sure About You Yet
When a woman is telling you that she’s thinking about you, it means that you’ve piqued her interest in some way.
Maybe you said something interesting in a conversation, or she’s curious about your hobbies and what makes you tick.
In any case, it means that you’re inside her thoughts – but it might not yet mean that she’s into you.
3. She Wants to Start a Conversation with You
On the back of being intrigued and wanting to know more about you, saying ‘I’ve been thinking about you’ is a great way to get into a conversation.
You’re almost certainly going to ask her what she was thinking, giving her the opportunity to open up and talk more.
This can be a great way to get to know someone better and a line you can use if you’re looking to find out more about someone.
If you think this is the case you can use this to your advantage and take the conversation in the direction you want it to go in.
4. She Simply Has Something to Tell You
The most simple and possibly underwhelming explanation is that she has had a thought about you and wants to tell you about it.
It’s a little misleading to say it in this way, but I’ve personally known this to be the case more than once myself.
So, you could reply by saying “Oh yea, what was it you were thinking about?” and see what she says.
5. You Made a Lasting Impression on Her
This might not mean a romantic relationship is in the future for the two of you, but it’s a great thing!
If you made a lasting impression, it means she thinks about you even when you’re not around.
A good friendship could be on the cards, and that’s something you should value – it’s quite the compliment.
What to Say When A Girl Says She’s Been Thinking About You?
Assuming you want to pursue things further with her, the best thing you can do is be honest and tell her that you’ve been thinking about her too.
This will open up the door for further conversation and give you a chance to gauge her interest level.
You could also ask her what she was thinking about specifically to get the conversation going.
If you’re not quick at coming up with replies, especially when you like a girl, here are a few things you can be prepared to reply:
- “That’s funny, I’ve been thinking about you too!”
- “What were you thinking about specifically, I’d love to know more?”
- “I’m glad I was on your mind – I thought it was just me thinking of you!”
- “I bet you say that to all the guys you like!”
- “Why think about me when I can be present at any time?”
I’m sure you’ll be able to improvise a bit off the back of those suggestions and come up with something you’re comfortable with!
Does It Always Mean a Girl Fancies You When She’s Been Thinking of You?
I’m not trying to be a downer, but I do want to make sure you’re being realistic and not setting yourself up to be let down.
It may mean that she likes you if she tells you that she has been thinking about you, but it also might just be a friendly thing.
Before jumping to any conclusions, I would recommend trying to get a better gauge of her feelings for you by seeing how she behaves around you and how she talks to you.
If she’s touchy-feely and openly flirting with you, it’s more likely that she fancies you.
However, not all women are this forward so you might need to talk to her friends or look for more subtle signs that she likes you.
Things like always trying to be where you are, smiling at you, asking questions about you, and so on.
Figuring out if someone likes us usually requires a little investigating and reading between the lines – otherwise it wouldn’t be as fun, would it?!
Signs that She’s Saying She Thinks of You Because She Likes You
To elaborate a little more on how to spot when someone who says they’ve been thinking about you likes you more than just a friend, some signs to look out for are:
- Making excuses to talk to you or be around you
- Openly flirting with you
- Laughing at all your jokes (even when they’re not that funny)
- Asking you personal questions
- Touching you a lot (on the arm, leg, shoulder, etc.)
- Getting jealous when you talk to other girls
- Always wanting to know what you’re up to
- Telling you that you’re on her mind a lot
- Making an effort with your friends and family
- Introducing you to her friends
The more of these things you can check off, the better!
There you have it, you now know the possible meanings behind a woman telling you that she’s been thinking about you, what to respond, and signs that she likes you!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.