Stressing over what to do when your crush likes someone else?
It’s a tough pill to swallow, but for your own mental health, you need to accept the situation for what it is.
However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t still crush on them, and you never know how things will turn out in the future!
Here are 15 tips to help when you find out your crush likes someone else:
What to Do When Your Crush Likes Someone Else? – 15 Tips!
1. Don’t Get Upset
I’ll be the first to admit that this is often easier said than done, but it’s important that you don’t get too upset.
After all, you’re crushing on someone who is probably unattainable to you anyway, right?
Getting upset is just going to drag you down and make you want them even more, and it’s just going to hurt more when you see them being happy with someone else.
2. Remember, They’re a ‘crush’ for A Reason
This is another one that’s easier said than done, but try to remember why you had a crush on this person in the first place.
A crush is, “a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone unattainable.”
Chances are, there are plenty of other people out there who would be happy to date you!
3. Don’t Act Negatively Towards Them
You might be tempted to act out when you see your crush with someone else, but resist the urge!
This will only make you look bad, and it’s not going to do anything to help your situation.
Just try to be friendly and act like nothing’s wrong, even if it kills you inside.
4. Don’t Act Negatively Towards ‘the Other Person’
This is similar to the point above, but it’s important to remember not to act negatively towards the person your crush is actually interested in.
They’re just as innocent in all of this as you are, and getting mad at them isn’t going to solve anything.
Plus, it’ll make you look really jealous and bitter, which is never a good look!
5. Figure Out What It Is They Like in the Other Person
This can be a really helpful exercise, especially if you’re struggling with the previous two points.
Try to take a step back and figure out what it is that your crush likes in the other person.
Do they share common interests?
Do they have similar personality traits?
Doing this might help you to understand why your crush is interested in them, and even how you can get a little closer to them yourself!
6. Take This Opportunity to Get To Know Them Even Better
Your crush is less likely to notice you’re crushing on them when they have eyes for someone else, so it’s a great time to get to know them a little better.
Try striking up conversations with them whenever you can, and get involved in the things they’re interested in.
You never know, they might just start to see you in a different light! And you might see them in a different light.
7. Remember, This Shouldn’t Change How You Feel About Them
Just because your crush likes someone else, it doesn’t mean you should feel any differently about them.
They’re still the same person you’ve always crushed on, and everything you like about them is still the same.
Don’t try to force yourself to stop liking them, and don’t try to take it out on them if you’re feeling down.
8. Don’t Blame Yourself
It’s easy to start feeling like it’s your fault when your crush likes someone else, but try not to blame yourself.
You can’t control how someone else feels, and you can’t force them to like you back.
Just remember that it’s not personal, and there’s nothing you could have done to change the situation.
A crush is typically someone we admire from afar, don’t convince yourself things would have been different if you’d told them how you feel.
9. Consider if It’s Time to Let Your Crush Know You Like Them
This is a tough one, and it’s definitely something you should give some thought to before taking any action.
If your crush likes someone else, it might be a good idea to tell them how you feel.
It can be really scary, but it’s better than stewing in your feelings forever.
And who knows? They might just feel the same way about you! There is only one way to find out.
10. Is This a Good Opportunity to Move On?
If your crush is truly unattainable, you might be able to turn seeing them interested in someone else into an opportunity to break away.
This might be the best thing you do for your own mental health and well-being, even though it’s going to be incredibly tough.
I just don’t want to think of you torturing yourself seeing them with this other person and wishing it was you.
11. Don’t Forget to Care For Yourself
No matter what you decide to do, make sure you’re taking care of yourself.
This is a tough situation, and it’s going to be hard on your mental health no matter what.
Make sure you’re doing things that make you happy, don’t stew over this situation.
I suggest meditation or mindfulness exercises, as well as getting outside and burning off some energy while enjoying whatever nature has to offer where you live.
You’ll feel a lot better for it, I can guarantee that!
12. Speak to Close Friends About How You Feel
Another key thing is to make sure you have a strong support system to fall back on.
This is something you should not go through alone if you can help it.
Talk to your friends about how you’re feeling and let them help you through this tough time.
It’ll make things a lot easier, I promise!
13. Give Yourself Some Time Away From Seeing Your Crush
This might be the hardest thing to do, but it’s definitely worth considering.
If you find yourself getting too caught up in seeing your crush and how happy they are with someone else, it might be a good idea to take some time away from them.
I bet you’ll feel differently about the situation after taking a break from seeing them as well.
14. Don’t Blame Yourself for Feeling Jealous
It’s natural to feel jealous when your crush likes someone else, so don’t beat yourself up about it.
Jealousy is a normal emotion, and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.
Just try to focus on the positive things in your life, and remember that there are plenty of other fish in the sea!
15. Accept That You Might See Them Happy With Someone Else
This isn’t going to be easy, but it’s important to accept that you might see your crush happy with someone else.
Sometimes this is just how life plays out, it’s important you try to focus on your own happiness and remember that this isn’t the end of the world.
You’ll find someone else eventually, not just to crush on but hopefully, you’ll find your soul mate which is incredibly powerful and fulfilling.
If you believe in yourself and do all the right things to make your future and love life what you want it to be, I have no doubts you’ll find happiness!
Image credits – Photo by Ryan Jacobson on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.