It can be hard to read when a guy likes you at the best of times.
However, when a guy is on the autism spectrum, it’s going to be more difficult as he’ll struggle with social cues.
Still, it’s something you can overcome when you know how – and love always does overcome all barriers!
Here are 11 signs an autistic guy likes you, how to better read their body language, and how to respond:
11 Signs an Autistic Guy Likes You!
1. He Will Find Excuses to Hang Around You
If an autistic guy likes you, he will typically find any excuse to be near you.
This could manifest in him asking to help you with something or just hanging around where you are.
He’s not being creepy, it’s likely he finds communicating verbally difficult and finds it easier to be close to you!
2. He Will Go Over the Top to Try and Impress You
This is true of most guys, but more so with autistic guys – if he likes you he will go out of his way to try and impress you.
This could be in the form of doing something he knows you like or need help with or some grand over-the-top gesture.
Either way, it’s a sure sign he likes you and even if it’s not exactly what you would see as ideal, it’s cute.
Just be sure to know what the signs of love-bombing are, as I explain in detail in that post.
3. He Will Look at You a Lot
Autistic people often find it difficult to express themselves verbally, so they will look or stare a lot to get someone’s attention.
So, if you know a guy is autistic and he is constantly looking your way, there is a good chance he’s interested in you!
He may also find it difficult to break eye contact, so don’t take it as a sign he’s creepy – rather, that he really likes you.
4. He May Be Direct About Asking You Out
Some guys on the autistic spectrum find it easy to be direct and ask girls out, to the point of being inappropriate.
If a guy is being very upfront about asking you out, at least you know that he likes you and there are no doubts.
It’s a trait of autism, and one of the things about his personality you’ll need to deal with.
5. He Will Be Overly Protective of You
Guys on the autism spectrum can be very over-protective of those they like.
If he’s always wanting to know where you are and who you’re with, it’s more of a sign he likes you than it is being nosey or controlling!
It can be a bit much at times, but it’s also sweet that he cares so much.
Be sure to set some boundaries early on if it’s making you uncomfortable so he doesn’t become too overbearing.
6. He Will Want to Go to Events with You (But May Find It Difficult)
If an autistic guy likes you, he will want to go to events with you – even if it’s something he would normally avoid.
However, attending social events can be difficult for him as it’s likely outside of his comfort zone.
So, don’t take it personally if he says no, seems reluctant at first, or even lets you down at the last minute.
When you know a guy has ASD but is trying to push himself outside of his comfort zone it’s a huge deal and easily on par with any effort a guy who likes you will make.
7. He Will Want to Spend Time Alone with You
Autistic guys may find it difficult to be in large groups, so if he likes you he will want to spend time alone with you instead.
This is a great opportunity for him to get to know you better and for the two of you to connect on a deeper level.
It also gives him the chance to feel more relaxed and comfortable as he won’t feel as overwhelmed in a smaller setting.
Just be sure to give him the space he needs if he seems to need some time alone during your time together.
8. He Will Ask Your Friends Lots of Questions About You
If he likes you, an autistic guy will often go to your friends to try and find out more about you.
He may seem like he’s interrogating them at times, but it’s just his way of trying to get to know you better.
It can be a bit much sometimes, so be sure to tell him it’s OK to speak to you directly if you’re OK with him doing so.
9. He Will Talk in Detail About Things that Are Important to Him
If an autistic guy likes you he will want to share his interests with you.
This could be in the form of showing you things he’s made, telling you about a topic he’s passionate about, or even taking you to places that are special to him.
It can be a lot of information to absorb at once and they aren’t always good at listening when they’re talking about what they’re interested in.
But most importantly, this kind of attention shows he’s interested in you.
10. He Will Make an Effort to Be Interested in The Things You Are
Autistic guys aren’t always the best at listening and learning about other people, so if he’s trying to learn about you it’s a great sign.
He may not seem interested at first, but if he’s making an effort to ask you questions and remember things you’ve said then it shows he cares.
Don’t get too frustrated if he doesn’t seem to be getting it at first, just know that he’s trying his best.
11. He Will Make a Huge Effort to Remember Little Things About You
It’s tough for people with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) to remember little things about other people, key dates, and so on.
So, if a guy is making an effort to remember personal things about you – even if he forgets some or gets things wrong – it’s a huge deal and shows that he likes you a lot.
What is Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)?
If you’ve met a guy and he’s told you he has ASD, there are some things you need to know to get up to speed with what to expect.
ASD is a mental disorder that affects social interaction, communication, and interests/behaviors.
It’s a spectrum disorder, which means it can range from mild to severe.
Some people with ASD are nonverbal, while others may speak but still have difficulty with social interaction and communication.
There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to ASD, but there are some common signs and symptoms.
You’ll need to get to know the guy better and pick up on how he’s acting and some of his mannerisms and behaviors.
How Do You Tell an Autistic Person You Like Them?
Telling an autistic person you like them can be a bit tricky as they may not pick up on social cues and body language in the same way neurotypical people do.
The best way to tell an autistic guy you like him is to just come out and say it.
Be direct, honest, and specific about your feelings.
This way there is no confusion and he’ll know exactly how you feel.
You may also want to back up your words with actions, such as spending time with him, doing things he enjoys, and being supportive.
A lot of your interactions and the progression of your relationship is going to be based on what he does, and how you react to him and his actions.
This can be tough if you’re more of a passive personality when it comes to relationships, but it’s one of the ‘quirks’ of dating an autistic guy.
Do Autistic People Understand Relationships?
Many people with ASD do want to be in relationships and understand the concept of love.
However, they may not express it in the same way as neurotypical people or pick up on social cues as well.
This can make it difficult to date an autistic person, but it’s important to remember that they are capable of love and understanding relationships.
Just because they don’t express it in the same way, doesn’t mean they don’t feel it just as deeply.
It’s really going to come down to the individual. ASD is a complex condition and the spectrum is very wide, so you’ll need to get to know the guy better to understand his individual mannerisms.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.