This is always a hotly debated question; is a drunken one night stand forgivable or would it immediately signal the end of your relationship?
I’ve seen couples both work through a drunken one night stand and split as a result.
It’s a tough question to answer, and really comes down to your individual situation and whether or not you both want to work through it.
Is a Drunken One Night Stand Forgivable?
If you or your partner have strayed while under the influence of alcohol, is it forgivable?
Does it even make a difference if you were drunk or not?
These are difficult questions to answer and it’s not something I can answer on behalf of yourself or your partner.
Ultimately it’s going to come down to a few key factors:
- How hurt and betrayed you feel
- Whether or not your partner has been honest about it
- How remorseful they are acting
- If you both want your relationship to work
What I can tell you is that there are plenty of couples who have worked through a drunken one night stand.
But there are also just as many couples who have ended their relationship as a result.
Often, some time apart and space to heal is the best solution to figuring out how you both feel.
Does It Matter if Your Partner Was Drunk or Not?
Personally, I’m tired of hearing that being drunk is an excuse for someone having a one night stand or cheating in any way.
However, some people feel that it’s much more forgivable if their partner was drunk when they had a one night stand.
After all, they weren’t in their right mind and wouldn’t have done it had they not had their decision-making compromised.
I don’t buy this. We’re all responsible for our actions, and being drunk doesn’t change the fact that it happened.
You may feel different, and I respect that.
At the end of the day, it’s up to you and your partner to decide if a drunken one night stand is forgivable if they were inebriated.
Is It Cheating If It’s a One-Night Stand?
Another thing I often hear debated is whether or not a one night stand constitutes as cheating.
Again, this comes down to what you think personally. But in the true sense of the word ‘cheating’, a one night stand is cheating.
Cheating is any involvement between a person and someone other than their partner, whether that’s emotionally or physically.
A one night stand is definitely physical, and usually involves some sort of emotional connection as well.
So if you consider cheating to be anything that involves another person, then a one night stand is definitely cheating.
Does Being Drunk Always Lead to Cheating?
Being drunk does not always lead to cheating, of course not. But it can be a contributing factor.
Alcohol lowers our inhibitions and makes us more likely to do things we wouldn’t normally do.
This is why so many people end up cheating when they’ve been drinking.
But that doesn’t mean that everyone who drinks will cheat on their partner. It’s a combination of factors, and being drunk is just one of them.
In the moment, it can seem like a good idea to hook up with someone other than your partner if you’re not 100% happy.
But if you’re not in a happy and healthy relationship, that’s usually a red flag that something needs to change.
For many couples, a drunken one night stand can be the tipping point that makes them realize that their relationship isn’t where it should be.
Does It Make a Difference if It Was with Someone They Already Knew?
If your partner has a one night stand with someone they already knew, that can be even more difficult to forgive.
It can feel like they were planning this all along or that they already had feelings for one another.
It also adds an extra complication for the future. Are they friends? Do they work together?
If they’re going to see each other on a regular basis, it can be really tough to move past something like this.
If your partner had a one night stand with someone they don’t know, it can be easier to forgive because it was just a one-time thing.
But again, it all comes down to how you feel and what you’re willing to forgive.
How Do You Forgive a One Night Stand?
A drunken one night stand can be forgivable, but it’s not always easy to get past.
It takes time, patience, and usually some space apart to heal the wounds.
If you’re both willing to work through it, then there’s a good chance you can come out the other side stronger than ever.
But if one or both of you isn’t ready to forgive, then it might be time to end things.
Then there are some other potential issues, such as your partner bumping into that person they had their one night stand with in the future.
This can be incredibly painful and make it a lot harder to move forward.
It’s not an easy decision to make, but ultimately it’s up to you and your partner to decide if a drunken one night stand is forgivable.
There’s no right or wrong answer, but there are definitely some things to consider before making your decision.
Do you think a drunken one night stand is forgivable? Why or why not? Let us know in the comments below!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.