Is your baby daddy jealous of your new boyfriend?
I’m sure I don’t need to tell you this is an unhealthy situation to be in and is only going to make co-parenting your child more difficult.
Here are 5 signs your baby daddy is jealous of your boyfriend and how you should handle the situation:
Baby Daddy Jealous of New Boyfriend? 5 Key Signs He Is
1. He’s Always Texting You and Asking What You’re Doing
Baby daddy or just an ex, this is a classic sign that an ex is jealous of your new relationship and isn’t able to move on.
Of course, you’re always going to be intertwined due to having a child together, but this doesn’t give your baby daddy the green light to call or text you all the time.
If he’s checking in with you, and not for the purpose of your child, this is a red flag that he’s not over you and is jealous if you have a new boyfriend.
2. He Doesn’t Like Hearing About Your Boyfriend Spending Time with His Child
The jealousy from your ex-baby daddy might be directed at you, your child or both of you.
Moving on and having a new partner only complicates matters, and it’s normal for your ex to think about your family dynamic without him.
One key sign that your ex is jealous of your new boyfriend is if he doesn’t like hearing about how much time his child is spending with him.
It’s normal for him to feel like he’s missing out on spending time with his child, but it’s not healthy for him to direct his jealousy at your new partner.
3. He’s Stalking You on Social Media
In this day and age, it’s so much easier for jealous exes to get all the information they need from social media if you’re active there.
Does your baby daddy like all of your new photos and posts, leave comments, and keep tagging you in stuff?
If so, he’s clearly spending too much time on social media checking in on you and it’s a sign that he’s not moved on and is probably jealous.
4. He’s Always Reminding You of Your Good Times Together
Whether it’s through conversations, social media posts, or even songs he’s sending you, if your baby daddy is always reminding you of the good times you had together he misses you.
He may not want you back, he might just be jealous and trying to cause issues in your new relationship.
It’s hard to say, but either way, it’s toxic behavior that’s only going to torment him and cause problems with your new boyfriend if it becomes too much.
5. He Keeps Using Your Child as An Excuse to Turn Up
This is a classic play a baby mama or baby daddy will use when they want to interject themselves into your current relationship.
A child should never be used as a pawn or bargaining chip, but unfortunately, it’s the hook a baby daddy will often use to get more involved in your life.
If he keeps turning up by using your child as an excuse, this is a sign that he’s jealous of your new relationship and is trying to find any way possible to insert himself back into your life.
How to Handle a Jealous Baby Daddy
1. Have a Serious Talk with Him About It
The first and most important step is to open up communication and have a serious talk with your baby daddy.
This is always going to be a tough thing to do, and obviously, you want to keep things as amicable as possible for the sake of your child.
But you have to say something.
You need to explain to him how his jealousy is impacting your relationship, co-parenting dynamic, and overall life.
It’s not healthy for him as much as it is your new relationship, as well as your child, something needs to change!
2. Set Some Boundaries
Setting healthy boundaries is what’s going to help you get his jealousy and behavior under control.
You need to set clear boundaries with him about what is and isn’t acceptable behavior.
This might mean no more calling or texting you all the time, blocking him on social media, or putting a stop to anything else you feel is crossing the line.
It’s important to be clear and concise about what your boundaries are and what you’ll do if he crosses them.
Actions always speak louder than words, this is the perfect way to combine both and make a statement.
3. Don’t Get Involved with His Games
This is going to be difficult, especially if he knows how to get a rise out of you, but it’s so important.
You cannot get involved with his games or allow him to control the situation.
This only feeds into his jealousy and allows him to have power over you, which is the last thing you want.
If you have to start ignoring him and not replying to his text messages when he’s obviously just bugging you, that’s fine.
You have to react to your individual situation and do what’s right to put some distance between your ex and your new relationship if his jealous behavior crosses the line.
4. Make Sure You’re Both Putting Your Child First
You can’t let your baby daddy’s jealous behavior get in the way of the most important thing in your life, your child.
No matter how he’s feeling about you and your new relationship, you both need to remember that your child should always come first.
This means not using them as a pawn in your arguments or fights, not putting them in the middle of anything, and always doing what’s best for them.
It can be difficult when your ex is being unreasonable, but it’s so important to always keep your child’s best interests at heart no matter what.
5. Lean on Others for Support if Necessary
It’s easy to feel alone when you’re in a new relationship and your ex is being difficult because they’re jealous of you moving on.
But it’s important to remember that you’re not alone in this situation and I’m sure your friends and family will always be willing to help.
If you need to lean on them for support, whether that’s emotionally or because they know your baby daddy and can also speak to them about their behavior, don’t hesitate to do so.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.