When a guy cancels a date because he’s sick, I’m sure you’re going to be disappointed – but you should express concern for his well-being.
No matter how disappointed or angry you are, whether you bought a new dress or he cancels at the last minute, getting mad isn’t going to help!
Here is how you should handle the disappointment and some responses you use:
What To Do When a Guy Cancels a Date Because He’s Sick
So, you’ve received a text or a call from a guy you were supposed to be meeting up with and he’s had to cancel because he’s sick.
Before letting him know how much he’s inconvenienced you or how disappointed you are, I recommend taking a few deep breaths and following these steps:
1. Don’t Reply While You’re Angry
It can be hard not to reply in anger when someone cancels on you, but it’s important to take a few minutes and try to see the situation from the other person’s point of view.
I might be more disappointed than you are, and expressing how annoyed you are isn’t going to help.
2. Don’t Make Him Feel Bad
He’s probably feeling bad enough already for canceling. So, even though you might not mean it, be careful not to say something that’ll make him feel worse.
If you had your nails done, bought a new outfit, canceled other plans so you could meet him – there is no need to tell him that.
3. Express Concern for His Well Being
Let’s not forget that he’s had to cancel because he’s sick! So, express some concern for his health and well-being.
You could say something like “I hope you feel better soon” or simply “take care of yourself”.
Acknowledge that he’s not well without probing too much into what exactly is wrong if he didn’t say.
4. Suggest Rescheduling
A simple “We can try again soon when you’re feeling better” will let him know that you’d still like to meet up if possible.
5. Don’t Assume the Worst
It’s easy to start running all kinds of scenarios through our heads when we’re let down, but that’s the worst thing you can do.
There is nothing to suggest that he’s making up excuses or looking for a way out of meeting up, so don’t assume anything to that effect.
How to Respond to A Guy Who Cancels a Date Because He’s Sick
If a guy cancels a date because he’s sick, it’s important to be understanding and supportive. Here are five kind replies you could use in this situation:
- “I’m sorry to hear that you’re not feeling well. I hope you get better soon. Let’s reschedule for another time when you’re feeling better.”
- “I understand. Take care of yourself and get some rest. We can plan for another time when you’re feeling better.”
- “I’m sorry you’re not feeling well. Let’s reschedule for another day so you can focus on getting better. I hope you feel better soon.”
- “Ah, that sucks. I hope you’re able to recover quickly and we can reschedule when you’re ready.”
- “Thanks for letting me know, I wouldn’t want to catch whatever you have! Get well soon and keep in touch.”
Would a Guy Use Being Sick as An Excuse to Cancel?
A guy might use being sick as an excuse to cancel a date, but it’s impossible to say for sure without knowing the specific circumstances and the guy in question.
I’d like to think most guys will genuinely be sick and need to cancel a date because of their health.
One thing that does come up is how sick someone is and what it is that’s keeping them from meeting up.
It might be that they’re anxious about the date or struggling with some mental health issues and not having a viral thing like the flu or a cold.
Obviously, this is still a legitimate reason to cancel as they wouldn’t be in the right frame of mind to be good company.
But it just means that it might not be something they get over in a couple of days or recover 100% from.
Should You Cancel a Date if You Have a Cold?
Ah, the common cold, it gets us all at various times throughout the year.
If you have a very mild cold and are still feeling well enough to go on the date, then I wouldn’t necessarily cancel.
I’d probably mention it via text beforehand, as you never know how your date will feel about it.
I’d say something like, “I think I might have a cold coming on, but don’t worry I’m not all stuffy or anything like that.”
Honestly, no one wants to go on a date with someone who is going to be sniffing, sneezing, wiping their nose all the time, and most importantly, infectious.
So, any obvious symptoms like a runny nose and I wouldn’t advise you to go on a date.
It’s not nice to have to cancel, and you might feel like you’re blowing a good opportunity, but these things happen.
The best thing you can do is more than make up for having to cancel when you’re feeling better and I’m sure it’s something you’ll look back at and laugh down the line!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.