It sucks to have a guy cancel a date on you, there’s no doubt about that.
In addition to being let down, if he didn’t suggest rescheduling at the same time, you’re right to wonder where you stand.
But before you jump to any conclusions or assume he’s flaking on you, there might be an innocent reason!
Here is what to do when a guy cancels a date and doesn’t reschedule right away:
What it Means When a Guy Cancels a Date and Doesn’t Reschedule
When a guy cancels a date and doesn’t reschedule, it’s not always going to mean that he doesn’t want to go on a date with you.
In fact, let’s think positively here and assume that it doesn’t mean that at all!
All it means is that he’s sick, busy, or whatever excuse he gave you and didn’t want to reschedule at the time.
It’s possible that he wanted you to suggest another date and time, wanted to see how you were going to react, or just couldn’t commit at the time.
The point being, if he didn’t or hasn’t rescheduled yet and it’s bothering you, you should ask him when he’s free and arrange another date!
What to Say to Reschedule a Date
When a guy cancels a date with you without rescheduling, you can simply reply with something like, “I understand if you’re not able to make it. Is there another date that works better for you?”
Or, “OK, these things happen. Let me know when you’re free next and let’s see if we can work something out.”
As long as you’re saying something to suggest another date, it puts the ball in his court to get back to you with something.
If you don’t reply mentioning you want to reschedule, he might even assume that you’re not interested.
He shouldn’t, he should realize that he’s the one who let you down and he should be looking for ways to make it up to you.
But you never know how someone else is thinking and what their feeling, it’s always best to communicate clearly.
On the other hand, if you’re not interested in rescheduling, you can simply say something like, “No problem, maybe we can connect again in the future.”
Or, “OK, maybe it’s not meant to be!”
How Can You Tell if A Guy Is Telling the Truth when Canceling a Date?
When a guy cancels a date, it’s normal to start thinking about why he’s canceled and if he’s looking for a way out.
It’s best not to assume anything though, always take him at face value first.
If he’s telling you a valid reason such as he has to work late or he doesn’t feel well, then take him at his word.
If it keeps happening, however, then his excuses are going to start wearing thin and you’re right to wonder
Also, if he’s given you a strange excuse that doesn’t feel right, then it’s probably best to trust your gut and look for other signs of his intentions.
For example, does he still seem interested? Does he reply to your messages quickly? Does he ask questions about you and show an interest in getting to know you better?
These things could tell you if he’s interested in rescheduling or not.
At the end of the day, if a guy cancels a date and doesn’t reschedule right away, it doesn’t always mean he’s not interested.
You should text him back and see where things go.
What Does It Mean When A Guy Cancels a Date at The Last Minute?
If a guy cancels at the last minute, like literally on the night or when you’re on the way out the door to meet him or later, he better have a very good excuse!
Not only that, but he better attempt to reschedule soon after and do something to make it up to you, or it’s a red flag.
If a guy doesn’t try and make it right for canceling at the last minute, it likely means he lacks respect for you and your time and isn’t taking your relationship seriously.
It’s best to talk to him about it and let him know that you don’t appreciate being treated like that and set some boundaries in place.
I’d let him know that you’re not going to put up with being let down last minute again.
It sounds harsh, but there are plenty of other guys out there that wouldn’t let you down, at least not more than once.
You deserve to find someone who is going to respect you, treat you as a priority, and treat you as the special person you are.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.