When a guy cancels a date by text it never feels good, no matter how legit his excuse is and how much he promises to make it up to you.
Unfortunately, it’s normal in this day and age to receive a text over a call, so that part is no longer surprising.
Now it’s up to you how you take the cancellation and how you respond to him!
What To Do When a Guy Cancels a Date by Text
First of all, I want to cover some basic steps to follow (or at least think about) if you receive a text message canceling a date:
1. Don’t Instantly Reply
Take a few minutes to let your emotions cool off before replying, and if you’re feeling angry or hurt, take some time to think about why.
It’s fine to feel disappointed, but without any proof that he’s canceling without a good cause, you shouldn’t be mad.
No matter how you feel, take a step back and only reply when you’ve cooled off. Don’t say anything in anger or out of frustration, it’s never worth it.
2. If He Didn’t Give a Reason, Probe for One
You don’t have to probe for a reason, but if you’ve been canceled on without any explanation at all, I’d be wanting to know why!
Don’t feel bad for asking him why he canceled, and if there’s something going on that he doesn’t want to tell you about, then it could be a sign that it’s not meant to be.
3. If You Want to Reschedule, Make that Clear
Also, don’t be shy about asking to reschedule if you really wanna meet this guy or go on another date.
It might feel so bad that he doesn’t want to reschedule yet, playing hard to get, there could be a few reasons why he isn’t rescheduling.
If he avoids rescheduling then it’s a pretty clear sign he’s making excuses.
4. Don’t Take It Personally
This is the most important thing to remember when someone cancels a date by text.
It’s not about you and you haven’t done anything wrong, it’s about him and his life.
Even if it turns out that he’s changed his mind or got cold feet and will not meet you, that’s on him and you should count yourself lucky!
5. Remind Yourself It’s His Loss
On the flip side of not taking it personally, remind yourself that if he’s canceling on you, it’s his loss.
You deserve to meet someone who respects you and your time, so don’t waste time feeling bad about yourself because of him.
You shouldn’t get hung up waiting for him either if he’s not rescheduling, go meet someone else!
How To Respond When a Guy Cancels a Date by Text
How you respond to a guy who cancels a date by text is important.
Keep in mind that whatever you choose to say should not come from a place of anger, even if you are angry!
Here are 10 examples of how you could respond in a friendly, respectful way:
- “It’s okay, I understand. Is everything alright?”
- “No problem, I’m sure there’s a good reason. Can we reschedule?”
- “No worries, things come up. Let me know if you want to reschedule.”
- “It’s alright, I hope everything is okay. Let me know if you want to reschedule.”
- “That’s fine, I hope everything is okay, and thanks for telling me.”
- “Darn, well these things happen and I totally understand.”
- “Ah, OK, I guess it wasn’t meant to be this time.”
- “It’s alright, I hope you’re okay. Let me know if you want to reschedule for another time.”
- “No worries, things come up. Let me know if you want to try again at a different time.”
- “That’s OK, maybe we can figure out another time as I was looking forward to seeing you.”
These are just a few examples of how you could respond to a guy canceling a date by text.
Ultimately, it’s up to you how you respond and handle the situation and it’ll depend on your individual situation.
What I will say, however, is to keep in mind what I said earlier.
Don’t get angry or down about it, even if this guy has let you down at the last minute.
Take a step back, cool off, and try to find out what’s going on with him if you can.
At the same time, don’t waste your time waiting around for him if he’s not rescheduling, you deserve to meet someone who respects your time!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.