Being ghosted by a guy hurts.
Actually, it’s worse than that, it sucks!
But one thing you don’t want to get twisted is the difference between a guy being too busy to contact or focus on you – and him going out of his way to ghost you.
If he’s ghosting you, you need to know that’s what he’s doing so you can stop wasting your time chasing him!
So, here are 10 questions that will do exactly that – tell you if he’s ghosting you or is just busy:
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.
Hmm, some mixed results here, I think he deserves the benefit of the doubt.
It sounds like he might be super busy at the moment and NOT ghosting you.
Still, you need to have a serious talk with him about why he’s neglecting you, and be sure to let him know how it’s making you feel!
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.
#1. Is he responding to your messages or phone calls?
#2. Is he active on his social media accounts?
#3. Has he been talking to/hanging out with mutual friends?
#4. If he does reply, how long does it take?
#5. How dry and short are his replies (if he does reply)?
#6. Has he been canceling plans with flimsy excuses?
#7. Has he blocked or unfriended you on social media?
#8. Does he avoid you if you see him in public?
#9. Does his friends make excuses for him?
#10. Do you get a strong gut feeling he’s ghosting you?
Related – Here are 10 signs a girl is ghosting you and isn’t just busy!
Here’s What to Do if He’s Ghosting You
If the results from the quiz suggest that this guy is ghosting you, you should either walk away or tell him exactly how you feel.
There is a chance that something is going on in his life and he needs a wake-up call, so talking to him one more time might help.
But ultimately, if he’s ghosting you he needs some time and space to figure things out.
In this case, it’s best to focus on yourself and your own needs.
Take some time for yourself, go out with friends and do something you enjoy – that way, you’re not waiting around for him.
If he misses you he’ll reach out and contact you, trust me.
Here’s What to Do if He’s NOT Ghosting You
If the results suggest this guy is not ghosting you, you need to take a step back and think about why you thought he was.
Is he just busy? Ask him what’s going on in his life.
Is he bad at communicating? Talk to him about the importance of communication and how you need it from him.
Is he questioning your relationship? Open up communication and see what he says.
The bottom line is that it’s possible that she’s just busy and needs time to deal with her own life, so don’t jump to conclusions straight away.
Communicate and be clear about what you want and expect from your relationship.
If he doesn’t deliver on that and can’t give you the time and attention you need, then it might be time to move on.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.