Going on a first date is a nerve-racking experience, and it’s hard to not hope that you’re going to meet the person of your dreams.
It can happen, so don’t ever doubt that.
It certainly helps if you can separate the nerves from the emotional, physical, or romantic chemistry so you know your date is into you.
To help you out, here are 15 signs of chemistry on a first date that means the future looks bright for the two of you!
15 Signs of Chemistry on the First Date
1. The Conversation Flowed Wonderfully
If you did a poll of what things people are anxious about when going on a first date, not connecting on a conversational level would be up there.
So, if the two of you hit it off without any awkward lulls in the conversation, that’s an amazing sign!
It’s certainly a sign that there was some kind of chemistry there, it may have been on an intellectual level or even a romantic one.
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2. You Didn’t Notice Anything Other than Your Date
If you’re on a first date and the only thing going through your head is, “Wow, they’re so amazing,” then that’s about as good as you can expect!
If it also means that you’re so focused on them and enjoying their company that everything else around you fades away, that’s chemistry right there.
3. The Time Went so Quick It Took You by Surprise
We all know what it means when time flies, and it’s definitely a good sign when that happens on a first date!
It means you were having so much fun that you lost track of time, and that’s a great sign that the two of you had deep chemistry going on.
4. You Found Each Other Funny
A sense of humor is important in any relationship, and if you found each other genuinely funny on the first date that’s a sign of comedic chemistry at the very least.
It’s also a sign that you two probably have a lot in common and see the world in the same way, as weird as the two of you think that is.
5. It Instantly Felt Like You’d Known Each Other for Years
Have you ever met someone for the first time and within minutes of chatting felt like you’d known them for years?
If so, you’ll know that feeling.
If that happens on a date this is an even bigger deal. It shows that you have a deep connection, and it’s pretty magical to find someone like that.
6. You Were Making Physical Contact and It Felt Great
Physical contact is a sign of comfort and attraction, so if you were touching each other on the date and it felt great, that’s a fantastic sign!
It’s also a sign that you’re both attracted to each other on a physical level, which is obviously important in any relationship.
There is nothing quite like the electric feeling that comes with making contact with someone you have chemistry with, I’m envious!
7. You Already Feel Empathy for One Another
Feeling empathy for someone is usually reserved for people we know well, so if you felt it on the first date that’s a sign of some serious chemistry.
It means you were able to connect on an emotional level and understand each other, which is the basis of any strong relationship.
8. You Went out Of Your Comfort Zone and It Was Awesome
We all have a good idea of what we will or will not do on a first date, so if you went with the flow and ended up doing more than you expected and loved it, that’s an awesome sign.
It means you were comfortable with each other and able to let your guard down, both of which are key when it comes to making a strong connection with someone.
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9. You Were Comfortable Being Vulnerable with Each Other
Being vulnerable on a first date is definitely not something that comes easy to most people, so if you found yourself opening up and sharing things you don’t usually share, that’s a great sign.
It means you trust each other and feel safe being open and honest, both of which set a good tone for your future relationship.
10. You Had Physical Reactions to What They Were Saying
Sometimes our bodies react in ways we can’t control, and this is particularly true when there is chemistry between the two of you.
If you find yourself blushing, giggling, or getting butterflies when they are talking, that’s a sign that your body is reacting to them in a positive way.
11. You Couldn’t Stop Smiling
If you were grinning from ear to ear the whole date, then that’s an obvious sign that you were enjoying yourself and their company.
It’s also a sign that you were attracted to them, which is obviously important when you’re out on a date.
It also tells me that there was some chemistry there!
12. Other People Noticed!
This has happened to me and it’s a very telling sign that there is chemistry between you and your date, even if you aren’t sure.
If a waitress, someone sitting near you, or even just a random stranger makes a comment about how happy the two of you look, you must be giving off strong signals!
13. You Both Didn’t Want the Date to End
This is probably the most telling sign of all that the two of you hit it off and something special happened.
If you both had such a great time that you didn’t want it to end, then that means there is definitely some chemistry there.
14. You’ve Been Texting Loads Since the Date
If some time has passed since your date but you haven’t had a second date yet, if you’re texting back and forth a lot and talking about it then this is also a sign that there was chemistry.
Sometimes it takes as little time for things to sink in, which isn’t a bad thing as it means you’ve had time to think about it and still feel there is something special.
15. You Just Felt Something Special!
Sometimes – I think most of the time – you can just feel it when there is something special like chemistry between you and someone else.
If you felt a spark, a connection, or just something special then there is definitely a reason to believe that there was chemistry.
You don’t need a huge sign that knocks you back or your date to say something crazy, you just need to feel in your gut that the two of you hit it off.
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What Is Dating Chemistry?
Dating chemistry is that magical feeling two people get when they connect on a physical, emotional, intellectual, and/or spiritual level.
It’s hard to explain it as the feeling is different for everyone, but you’ll know it when you feel it.
I think it’s important to point out that dating chemistry is more than just attraction; it also includes things like comfort levels, compatibility, and conversation flow.
While it’s not necessary to have all of these things on a first date, it’s definitely a good sign if you find yourself checking most of these boxes!
I’m sure you know if a date went well, if not during the date or afterward.
If there was chemistry as well as the two of you simply getting along, that means the two of you connected on more than just a physical level.
This is an important foundation for any relationship!
Do You Have to Have Chemistry on A First Date for It to Go Well?
No, you don’t have to have dating chemistry on a first date for it to go well.
I think it certainly helps the date flow better and makes it more enjoyable, but it’s not necessary and doesn’t mean you’re not going to have a happy ever after.
Everyone is different and some people take a while to open up and put themselves in a position where chemistry and even happens.
If you’re super anxious and not great at first dates, that’s okay!
Just because you don’t have great chemistry on a first date doesn’t mean it won’t happen later on.
Moreover, some people are just more low-key and don’t show their emotions as much so it can be hard to tell if there is any chemistry.
This is why it’s important to give the date (and person) more than one chance before you write them off if you think there might be something there!
I hope this article helped you understand a little more about dating chemistry and gave you some signs of chemistry on the first date to look out for.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.