I bet you just want to hear your boyfriend tell you you’re beautiful sometimes, right?
Or at least give you some thoughtful compliments.
That’s what we all want from our partners, but sometimes it just feels like they don’t care enough.
There are a number of reasons why your guy doesn’t compliment you, here’s what they are and what you should do if your boyfriend never tells you how beautiful you are:
My Boyfriend Never Tells Me I’m Beautiful: 5 Possible Reasons
1. He Finds It Difficult to Express His Feelings
A lot of guys – and girls – find it difficult to express their feelings and just can’t bring themselves to tell you you’re beautiful, even if they’re thinking it.
This is due to social and biological reasons, often worrying they’ll say something wrong, embarrass themselves, or feel vulnerable.
If this is the case with your guy, you can try and get him to open up more by telling him how you’re feeling and why it would mean so much to you if he told you that you’re beautiful.
Reassuring him that there’s nothing to be embarrassed about and that you love him no matter what will go a long way!
2. He Thinks You Don’t Want Him to Say It
Some guys think that if they tell you how beautiful you are, you’ll get the wrong idea and start to think he’s only with you for superficial reasons or that he’s after something.
I know most women reading this are thinking that sounds crazy, but it’s true.
If your guy has been hurt in the past or had his feelings rejected, it can make him hesitant to tell you how he feels.
Again, this is where some encouragement goes a long way and making him understand that compliments – that come naturally – make you feel great and reassures you that he loves you.
3. He’s Got a Lot Going on And Doesn’t Think About It
This is a lame excuse, but it’s definitely a legitimate one and I know it’s a reason why a lot of guys aren’t more attentive and thoughtful to their partners.
When you’ve got a lot on your mind, it’s easy to forget the little things – like telling your girl she looks beautiful.
If you can see your boyfriend is clearly stressed out and struggling to deal with everything going on, the first thing to do is to help him address those things in his life.
4. He’s Too Comfortable and Is Taking You for Granted
Once the initial butterflies have gone and the ‘honeymoon period’ is over, it’s easy to get too comfortable and start taking each other for granted.
When this happens, we often forget to say how lucky we are to be with each other and take things like being told we’re beautiful for granted.
This is a huge issue that a lot of couples face in their relationships and it only tends to worsen over time.
It’s time to start having date nights, making the effort to surprise each other, and telling each other how much you appreciate one another.
Try it, I can guarantee it’ll feel awesome, and if you start doing it I bet it’ll encourage your boyfriend to do the same.
5. He’s Having Doubts About Your Relationship
This is a tough one to face up to, but if you can tell there are cracks showing in your relationship you need to accept that your boyfriend might not be feeling it as much as you are.
It’s not always the case, but if he’s pulling away, being distant and avoiding compliments it might be a sign he’s not sure about the future of your relationship and doesn’t want to lead you on.
The best thing you can do is talk to him about it and try to work through whatever it is that’s causing him to doubt you if you want to work on your relationship.
Does Your Boyfriend Love You if He Never Tells You You’re Beautiful?
It might seem like a small thing, but if your boyfriend never tells you how beautiful you are it can be pretty hurtful and make you feel like he doesn’t see you that way.
Especially if you see your friends and other couples complimenting each other.
Before you write him off as a completely insensitive jerk, it’s important to understand the reasons behind why he might not be saying it as much as you’d like.
There are plenty of reasons why guys don’t say things like, “your beautiful” or, “I’m so lucky to be with someone as attractive as you”, and so on.
It’s often nothing to do with how they feel about you, it’s more so to do with their own insecurities and lack of confidence.
With most guys, actions speak much louder than words.
If you want to know how much your boyfriend loves you, take notice of how he acts.
Does he go out of his way to make you happy?
Is he always trying to please you and make sure you’re comfortable?
You’ll know if he loves you and thinks you’re beautiful, even if he doesn’t say it – I can guarantee it.
How Can You Get Your Boyfriend to Want to Compliment You?
First of all, no matter how badly you want to hear your partner compliment you and tell you you’re the most beautiful woman in the world – it has to come from him.
If he feels pressured or forced to say it, it’s not the same. I’m sure you can agree with that.
The best thing you can do is try to work on building his confidence up and be more complimentary yourself.
Tell him how good he looks, how proud you are of him, and how happy he makes you feel.
If you start doing it yourself, he’ll eventually see how good it feels and be more inclined to do the same.
And when he does say it, I can guarantee it’ll make you feel like a million dollars!
When he sees how it makes you feel, he’s only going to want to compliment you more, too, and it’ll snowball from there.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.