In this article, I’m addressing the issue of; my husband never tells me I’m beautiful – and how you can approach this.
We all want to be complimented by our partners.
It makes us feel special and wanted, and it reassures us that they love us and appreciate us.
But some guys find it hard to do, and compliments tend to get more sparse as time goes on.
It doesn’t have to though, here are some things you can do to make your husband a more complimentary spouse!
My Husband Never Tells Me I’m Beautiful: 5 Reasons Why and What to Do!
1. He Struggles to Express His Feelings
This is probably the most common reason why guys do not tell their partners how special or beautiful they are or compliment them in general.
Some guys find it difficult to compliment their partners as they don’t want to come across as cheesy, whereas others simply find it hard to express how they’re feeling.
If this is the case with your husband, you will have noticed he’s never been comfortable complimenting you.
It’s not something that should have changed over time. If he has gone from being very complimentary to not complimenting you at all now, something else has changed.
2. He’s Thinking About Splitting Up
On the back of something changing to make your husband stop complimenting you, you have to consider the fact that he may be questioning your relationship.
If your husband used to be a very complimentary person and he suddenly stops telling you how beautiful or special you are, it could be a sign that he’s thinking about leaving.
Of course, it might not be as drastic as this, he may just be having some doubts or dealing with some issues.
Communication is the key here, you need to speak with your husband to find out how he’s feeling and what – if anything – you can do to help.
3. He’s Fallen Into the Trap of Taking You for Granted
This is another common reason why the compliments dry up over time.
In the early stages of a relationship, everything is new and exciting and I’m sure you’ll remember the two of you used to compliment each other.
But as time goes on it’s easy to fall into a routine and start taking each other for granted.
If you feel like this is the case with your husband, try to mix things up a bit and do something new and exciting together.
This will help to rekindle the spark between you and may just remind him how lucky he is to be with you!
4. He’s Stressed and Struggling Himself
We all know how stress can affect every aspect of our lives, including our relationships.
If your husband is under a lot of pressure at work or he’s struggling with something personal, it can have a negative impact on your relationship.
He may not mean to take it out on you or make you feel less valued by not complimenting you, but it’s probably happening without him even realizing it.
Again, communication is key here.
If you can talk to your husband about how he’s feeling and offer some support, it will help to ease the pressure he’s under.
This, in turn, will lead to him being more complimentary towards you as he starts to feel better.
There may be a bigger underlying issue here that you need to address. It’s certainly worth investigating.
5. He Thinks You’ll React Badly to Him Saying It
If you – or even someone in a past relationship – rebuffed a comment from your husband or made him feel bad about saying something like “you’re beautiful”, he’s not going to say it again.
It’s possible that you didn’t even realize that you made him feel this way.
You might have said something like, “Oh, stop, you’re embarrassing me” or, “Don’t be so cheesy” because you felt embarrassed even though you loved hearing him say it.
If it was already difficult for your husband to get the courage to say it, I can see how this would make him retreat into his shell.
Try bringing it up and letting your husband know how it really made you feel when he complimented you, or how it would feel if he hasn’t done so yet, and see how he reacts.
How Can I Make My Husband Want to Tell Me I’m Beautiful?
If your husband never tells you that you’re beautiful, it can make you feel like he doesn’t think you’re attractive or like you.
But there could be a range of reasons as to why he doesn’t compliment you and ways you can make him more attentive and complimentary.
The key here, however, is that you can help him become more thoughtful, but the compliments need to come naturally from him and not because he feels pressured.
There are two things you can do to make your husband more comfortable about complimenting you:
- You can talk to him and tell him how much it would mean to you to be complimented
- You can start complimenting him more and encouraging him to engage in this behavior
The first step is always going to be the most difficult, but it will be worth it in the long run.
It’s hard not to come across like you just want more attention without making him feel bad, but most guys will appreciate you being honest about how you’re feeling.
Whatever happens, it’s always better that you’re open and honest about your feelings, keeping them bottled up is only going to make things worse.
The second step is a little bit easier, but if he’s not responsive it’s going to make you feel like you’re putting in a lot more effort than he is.
Does It Mean He Doesn’t Love Me if He Never Compliments Me?
No, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he doesn’t love you if he doesn’t compliment you.
A lot of guys find it difficult to compliment their partners, and there are various other reasons why he may not be doing it.
If it’s making you question how much he loves you or cares about you, the best thing you can do is look at his actions and how he treats you.
Actions often speak louder than words, and if he’s doing everything he can to make you feel loved, then that should be enough.
You should also keep in mind that not everyone expresses their love in the same way.
Some people are more vocal about it, while others might show their love through their actions.
The most important thing is that you feel loved, and if you don’t feel like you are, then you need to have a conversation with your husband about it.
I hope this article has helped you understand why your husband never tells you that you’re beautiful and what you can do about it!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.