If you’re being played by a girl, the best revenge is to turn the tables and start playing her!
So, the question is, how to play a girl who is playing you?
It’s not as difficult as you may think, you already have an advantage by knowing what kind of games she’s been playing and the fact that she wants you.
Here are 10 tips on how you can get revenge and make her feel the way she’s made you feel by playing her the way she’s been playing you:
How to Play a Girl Who Is Playing You – 10 Tips!
1. Start Distancing Yourself from Her
In true player fashion, the best thing you can do is to start slowly distancing yourself from her over time.
This will make her try a little harder to keep you while making her feel like she’s losing you – I bet she’s been doing something similar to you already if she’s been playing you?
It’s finding the right balance between running so hard that they lose interest and doing just enough to make them do the chasing!
2. Do Things to Show Her What She’s Missing Out On
Make sure she knows what she’s missing out on by doing things that you know she’ll regret not being a part of.
This could be anything from going on amazing trips and adventures without her, to hitting up exclusive events that she would love to be a part of but isn’t.
The key is to make sure she hears or sees about you having a great time and is left wondering why you’re not including her!
3. Blow Hot and Cold
Blowing hot and cold is another classic player move that is designed to keep you on edge and allow a player to go about their games.
So, it’s time to turn the tables and do the same back to them!
To blow hot and cold simply means to alternate between being really interested in someone and then appearing uninterested.
One minute you’re texting all the time, making plans and wanting to see them, and the next you’re playing hard to get, being busy and not replying to their messages.
It’s a confusing technique but it works like a charm in keeping someone interested!
4. Make Her Try Harder to See You
If she’s used to you being available whenever she wants, it’s time to make her work a little harder to see you.
By making yourself less available and harder to get, she’ll start to value your time more and appreciate you more when she does see you.
It’s a simple but effective way to get revenge and make her feel the same way she’s made you feel!
Try saying things like “I’m busy this weekend, maybe we can meet up next week” or “I’m not sure what my plans are yet, I’ll let you know when I know”.
It’s important to be vague and not make any concrete plans!
5. Start Seeing Other Girls
If she’s been playing you, chances are she’s been seeing other guys too.
So, it’s time to even the score by doing the same back to her!
Start seeing other girls and make sure she knows about it.
This will not only make her feel jealous but also make her realize that she’s not the only one in your life and that she needs to work harder to keep you!
It’s a win-win situation!
Make sure you post pictures of you with other girls on social media, or even better, make sure she sees you out with them.
6. Let Her Down on Short Notice
If she’s been playing you I bet you’re the dependable one and she’s not, right?
It’s time to start turning the tables and being the one letting her down on short notice to see how she likes it.
This can be even more frustrating for a player than it is for a regular person as they tend to be shorter on time and more demanding.
It’s a great way to bruise her ego while making her want to see you even more than before!
7. Do Little Things to Gaslight Her
This might be crossing the line for some, but if you want to make a player feel as bad as they’ve made you feel it’s one of the best ways.
Gaslighting is a term used to describe when someone manipulates another person into thinking they’re losing their mind.
It’s very effective in making someone feel crazy!
A few things you can do to gaslight her are:
- Make her doubt herself and her memory by telling her she’s wrong or that she doesn’t remember things correctly.
- Deny doing things even when she has evidence that you did.
- Make her feel like she’s always the one letting you down, even if it was you letting her down.
- Tell her she’s overreacting or being too sensitive about stuff.
These are just a few ideas, but you can be creative and come up with your own!
8. Leave Her ‘On Read’ or Take a Long Time to Reply to Her Texts
I’m sure you’ll agree that it’s really frustrating when you text someone and you know they’ve read your message but don’t reply.
Or at least do not reply for hours when it was something that needed a reply much sooner.
It’s a classic player move that is meant to keep you on edge and guessing, so it’s time to do the same back to her!
9. Don’t Let Her Into Your Inner Circle
If she’s been playing you, you’ve probably not been allowed into her inner circle of friends and family.
So, don’t let her into yours!
It’s important to keep your distance and not let her get too close to you.
This will make her feel like she’s not as important to you as she thought she was and make her work harder to get close to you.
Players thrive on how open their partners are, while not allowing them into their world so they can retain control.
I bet she doesn’t like it when she’s on the receiving end of being left out of your friends and family.
10. Drop Her Suddenly Without An Explanation
Ultimately, if you want to get revenge and play a girl who is playing you, you need to be the one to dump her first – and without giving her an explanation to add frustration.
This will leave her feeling confused and uncertain about what she did wrong and why you suddenly don’t want anything to do with her.
It’s the perfect way to end things with a player, and I guarantee it will leave her feeling hurt and confused.
Who knows, it might even be the wake-up call she needs to stop playing people and treating them badly!
You’ve Played a Girl Who Was Playing You – What Next?
Now that you know how to play a girl who is playing you, it’s time to move on and learn from what happened.
While I understand why you wanted to play a girl that was playing you, it’s not ideal to get roped into this kind of mind games.
I hope that now she is behind you you’re able to move forward and find someone who is much better for you and isn’t a player.
If there is one thing you’re going to learn inside out from playing someone back, it’s what the signs and red flags are that someone is a player!
Image credits – Photo by leah hetteberg on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.