Want to know how to get someone to tell you their crush?
There are some scientifically proven ways you can encourage someone to tell you a secret they’re holding on to.
Whether it’s who their crush is or something else, if you know what to say and how to act, there is a good chance they’ll open up to you!
Here are 10 ways you can trick someone into telling you their crush or some other secret:
How to Get Someone to Tell You Their Crush – 10 Ways!
1. Act Like You Know Who It Is Anyway
This is essentially bluffing, but it can work like a charm.
If you act like you know who their crush is, they’ll likely feel obligated to tell you the truth to prove that you’re wrong.
Or, they may just go with it and agree with you if you’ve guessed who it is.
Either way, it’s going to spark a reaction in them that will likely reveal a clue as to who it is or get you one step closer to finding out.
Related – 20 signs a married man has a crush on you!
2. Listen More than You Talk
When pressing for information it’s easy to get carried away by asking lots of questions and trying to coax the information out of someone due to pressure.
But this is often the worst thing you can do as it will only make the person clam up more.
Instead, try to listen more than you talk.
Allow them to open up to you at their own pace without feeling like they’re being interrogated.
Ask some probing questions and give them plenty of silence to talk and reveal more!
3. Ask Them if It’s [Name] and Read Their Body Language
Another way to get someone to reveal their crush is to make their body language do the talking for them!
When you ask someone if it’s a certain person and they get all shifty and nervous, that’s usually a pretty good indication that you’re on the right track.
Pay attention to how they react when you mention certain names and you’ll be one step closer to finding out who their crush is.
Just be aware that it’s not always to read someone so never take your own guess as being 100% right and running with it.
4. Tell Them You’ll Reveal Your Crush as Well
If you want someone to tell you their crush, one way to get them to open up is by sharing your own crush with them.
It’s like trading a secret for a secret, even if you don’t have one!
This method works best if you know the person well and have a good relationship with them as they’ll be more likely to trust you.
Just be careful about how much you reveal about your own crush as it could come back to bite you.
5. Tell Them They’ll Feel Better for Sharing Who It Is
If it feels like someone is struggling to keep their crush to themselves, sometimes it helps to talk about it.
Reassure them that they’ll feel better for getting it off their chest and that you’re a trustworthy person who won’t judge them or tell anyone else.
It’s important to make them feel comfortable so that they’ll confide in you, and also to respect their privacy and trust and not let them down by telling anyone.
6. Reveal a Secret of Your Own First
Similar to revealing your crush so they reveal theirs if you don’t have a crush and don’t want to lie you could reveal some other secret.
It could be something small or embarrassing that will show them you’re willing to trust them with something personal.
You might even need to reveal something way bigger and more important to get the information out of them, I’ll leave that up to you to decide if it’s worth it.
7. Tell Them You Think It’s [Name] so They Correct You
This is a bit of a sneaky one, and it only works if you have a pretty good idea who their crush might be.
By telling them you think it’s a certain person, they may feel the need to correct you and set the record straight.
You could pick someone you know they would never crush on so it pushes them to correct you, or you could take an educated guess and get it right!
8. Let Them Know That They Can Trust You
Trust is everything when you’re trying to get someone to reveal a secret that they probably don’t want to reveal.
If they don’t trust you then they’re not going to confide in you no matter how much you try to press them for information.
Make sure you work on trust first and reassure them that you want to know for the right reasons and would never betray their trust.
9. Do Something Special for Them to Build Rapport
There is truth in the saying that actions speak louder than words.
Instead of just telling someone that they can trust you, try and show them by doing something special for them.
It could be anything from making them their favorite food to doing something they’ve been wanting to do for a long time but never had the opportunity to.
Once they see that you’re not just all talk, they’ll be much more likely to trust you enough to tell you their crush.
10. Don’t Press Them Too Hard and Give Them Time
Lastly, if someone really doesn’t want to tell you their crush then don’t press them too hard as it’ll only make them less likely to tell you.
Let them know you’re interested, give them some time to think about it and maybe they’ll come to you of their own accord.
Or, if you’re really set on getting the information out of them, you could try bribing them! (That’s a bit of a joke, but you never know!)
What if They Won’t Tell You Their Crush?
If someone will not tell you their crush, no matter how hard you’ve tried and how sneaky you’ve been, you’re just going to have to accept it.
It’s their decision whether or not to tell you, and if they don’t want to then there’s nothing more you can do.
The most important thing is that you respect their decision and don’t try to force them into telling you.
If they trust you enough, eventually they may come to you of their own accord and reveal who they have a crush on.
Until then, just be patient!
Most importantly, you have to respect when someone has a secret and not make them feel bad for not telling you.
That will only end up putting a strain on your relationship and make them distance themselves from you.
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.